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With the progress of the times, different phenomena have emerged in society: marriage-phobic people, refusal to marry, unmarried people, and Dink people. Many people oppose these new things as anti-human practices. Many people choose Dink for various reasons, in fact, there are objective reasons.
Some people do not want to have children and let them come to this world to suffer because they have encountered a lot of painful experiences in their original families; some people feel that they cannot bring good living conditions and educational resources to their children because of economic reasons, and do not want their children to bear the pressure and pain that they should not bear; and some people choose Dink because of physical health problems, and they cannot have children and passively choose Dink.
Everyone has the right to free choice: you can choose Dink or you can choose to have children. When everyone makes different choices, they actually look at and deal with problems from the perspective of egoism.
The person who chooses to be Dink is because he feels that this way is suitable for the direction of his life development; the person who chooses to have children is because he thinks that he must have children in order to be able to rely on them in the future.
Giving birth to a child naturally has its own good side, and in the process of educating children, there must be suffering and happiness. Maybe sometimes, it will make you feel very cumbersome, because you have spent most of your life worrying about your children. After the child is born, the baby must be fed, followed by the education of the child, the child must worry about the work when he grows up, the child gets married and has a family, buys a house, buys a car and so on. There are also children who grow up and start a family, and they have to help take care of their children and grandchildren.
Raising children is bound to be bittersweet. Having children makes you less lonely. When you are old, you can raise your children for a long time, and the living atmosphere of playing with your grandchildren, your children and grandchildren are on your knees, and your children and grandchildren are full of joy and harmony. Of course, children must be well educated in order to enjoy the blessings of children and grandchildren. If you only know how to procreate, but do not educate your children well, you will become a burden on the family, which is to add chaos to the country and society.
Don't simply go and comment, Dink families with kids and kids without kids, which is better and which is bad. Many things must be viewed from the objective two sides, to look at the problem, there must be advantages and disadvantages.
For example, I have an uncle who has three children, but he has been busy with work and busy making his career successful. Running around all year round, the education of children can be said to be minimal, and it is rare to be with children. Later, only one son was more contentious, and after graduating from high school, he found a job on his own.
The other two children, both of whom had bad school, took drugs, gambled and fought, and went to prison. The Son is not the fault of the Father. Although it sounds like he has several children, but he has not educated them well, and being born is equal to not having children, and it is better not to have children.
On the other hand, the next-door neighbor, Uncle Zhao, the two husbands and wives are Dink, who are nearly sixty years old, and they have arranged their lives in an orderly manner. I worked hard at a young age and accumulated a lot of savings. After retirement, the two couples traveled around the world, and formed a mutual aid cooperation group with many Dink families.
Everyone usually cares for each other to help each other and support each other, one thing is something: one side has difficulties and eight parties help each other. For example, there is a Dink family Uncle Chen, because his wife left a few years ago, only he is a lonely widow and an old man at home. These elderly people will take turns to chat with each other every day, have any headaches and brain fever, help each other to go to the hospital, and some help buy vegetables and cook.
They set up a WeChat mutual aid group, and everyone shouted in the group if they had anything to do. Group activities are often organized: singing, dancing, playing chess, traveling, etc. Greeting each other every day to prevent accidents and not getting timely assistance. They are like a big family, and each member enthusiastically lends a helping hand to help others.
It is not that those who have children must be happy in their old age; those who do not have children will have a miserable old age. Many times, if you know how to arrange it reasonably, different groups of people can live a happy old age.
During the New Year, I went to visit relatives in the countryside, passed by a family, and saw an old man wearing brand new clothes, sitting alone in the doorway of his house. I heard from relatives that the old man had five sons, but none of them asked him to live with him, leaving him in a dilapidated old house.
It sounds like a good reputation, he has 5 sons, but none of the sons are willing to ask him to be an old father, thinking that the old father is a burden. It is conceivable that it should not be easy for this old man to be able to pull 5 children up. However, when the children grow up, they are useless to dislike the old father.
"Raising children and preventing old age" and "filial piety is greater than three queens", these are already outdated concepts. With the development and change of the times and society, human values, outlook on life, and outlook on marriage have all been greatly changed. Everyone has their own ideas and opinions.
If you want to have a child, you must educate him well, and it is a greater sin to have it without raising it. As an adult. Choose to have a baby or a Dink, think about it. Whether you can accept life after old age. Because there are children, there will inevitably be more affection; without children, there will naturally be less closeness to children and grandchildren.
People have the right to choose to have children, and they also have the right to choose not to have children. Follow your own heart, when you feel that this lifestyle is the best way to suit you, then this is the right choice for you. Turnip greens have their own love. Everyone has their own way of living, whether it is Dink, or baby, there are pros and cons.
Remember, happiness is not dependent on who you are or what you have, it depends only on what you think. - Carnegie
Everyone makes their own choices, they have their own considerations, that is, they measure the pros and cons, so there is no right or wrong, there is no need to comment. In just a few decades of life, everyone has their own plans, and the way to feel comfortable is the right way. Contentment, simple happiness, you will live your own wonderful!
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