"Yi" soared into the sky, and "ming" shook the world
On the snow tracks of the Beijing Winter Olympics
Su Yiming, a "post-00s" genius young general
Attracted the eyes of the whole world
182.50 points!
Snowboarding on February 15th
Men's Big Jump Final
Su Yiming leapt in the air
Won the sixth gold medal for the Chinese delegation at the Winter Olympics
Become the youngest Winter Olympic champion in the history of the continent
In the final of the men's big jump in snowboarding, Su Yiming won the gold medal.
After winning the championship
Su Yiming bowed to the stand where her parents were
On the afternoon of February 15, a number of foreign media reported on Su Yiming's victory for the first time, and expressed their amazement and praise for the young Chinese athlete.
Su Yiming won the championship, and his success was the result of perseverance. Even more inseparable from the teaching of parents, what kind of education has achieved the champion road of this "domestic Puwa"?
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Respect your child's choices
Su Yiming, who grew up skiing with her parents, only regarded skiing as an amateur play at the beginning.
Since being selected by director Xu Ke to participate in the film, Su Yiming's acting road has become smoother and smoother, and the cooperation is with "big names" like Zhang Jiayi, Xiao Zhan, and Li Qin. Su Yiming's acting career was still smooth.
But on July 31, 2015, the day of China's successful bid to host the 2022 Winter Olympics, Su Yiming said: "I hope that one day I will "wear the national team's shirt and win glory for the country at my doorstep." On Weibo, Su Yiming wrote this sentence: "What determines our life is not our ability, but our choice." Knowing his decision, Su Yiming's parents fully supported the path of professional athletes.
Respect for children's choices, which is what many parents can't do in Chinese-style education, Chinese parents tacitly accept their "authoritative" position in education and like to make decisions for their children. Even if the child has his own ideas, he always refuses to let the child try and make mistakes under the pretext that "adults have more experience and can avoid letting you take detours".
This is actually not the protection of the child, but a kind of disrespect, not to see the child as an independent personality, always feel that they are the one who makes the best choice for the child.
In the long run, it not only consumes the spirit of children actively exploring the world and having the courage to think, but also makes children develop a sense of dependence. Therefore, if you want to cultivate your child's independent personality, you may wish to try to let it go first.
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Teach by example and be an example for your children
Su Yiming's parents are snowboard enthusiasts, since he was 4 years old, his parents took Su Yiming to the small snow field, and then to The Great Lake and Songhua Lake, when he was six years old, Su Yiming could already follow him to the Changbai Mountain to slide the wild snow.
In the family, parents lead by example and influence their children with their own preferences. In reality, many parents, around their children, while brushing the vibrato short video, while asking the child not to watch mobile phone TV, to fall in love with reading; while lying on the sofa eating ice cream, while asking the child to move more, enhance physical fitness.
In modern education, parents should not only be a bystander and conductor, but should be an influencer and participant, abandoning preaching and using their own personal actions to drive children, which is good education.
03
Excellent parents, will "God assist"
Every successful person will not be smooth sailing.
In 2018, 14-year-old Su Yiming entered the national training team through cross-border material selection. But an unexpected injury caused his dreams to suffer a serious setback.
After many years, Xiaoming's grandfather still almost couldn't hold back tears when recalling the original scene: "That injury, we went to the hospital to see." At that time, I couldn't stand it and passed out. ”
After that, for half a year, not to mention training, Su Yiming could only rely on a wheelchair to walk.
Seeing that her son was depressed, Xiaoming's mother thought of a good way to help him cheer up——
She brought Xiao Ming a message book of her classmates, which was full of everyone expressing their admiration and encouragement for him;
That time, Su Yiming found her self-confidence under the "classmate praise group" brought by her mother.
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Encourage education and make children more confident
In daily life, Su Yiming's mother is different from other parents: "Su Yiming once collided with others while skiing and was seriously injured. The average parent encounters the huge risks posed by this kind of exercise, and it is difficult for their children to continue to persevere. But Su Yiming's mother believes that the child loves this sport and should stick to it and not give up casually. ”
There is a golden rule in education, "Positive encouragement is better than negative sanctions." Confident children can be brave enough to try, learn things with enthusiasm and efficiency. Even for adults, proper self-encouragement and self-improvement are necessary.
Good encouragement, emphasizing process, effort and progress, is a mental tool for children to know themselves and the environment. Encourage like a searchlight, guide the child's attention, to discover the positive side of a thing, to stimulate the power of positive construction, to help the child get rid of inferiority, to have the strength to resist setbacks.
Bad encouragement (or touting), emphasizing the success or failure of the results, comparison and evaluation, leads the child to the comparison, "Lao Tzu is the first in the world". Such children may perform well in the short term, but gradually lose the motivation to continue to explore, and do not develop the ability qualities accumulated over the long term.
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Parents have a relaxed mindset and children are more likely to succeed
When Su Yiming first started practicing skiing when he was a child, his parents accompanied him the whole time.
Later, becoming a professional athlete, Xiaoming's mother always asked her son not to forget to report her safety after training.
Before the opening of the Winter Olympics, Su Yiming's parents did a very interesting thing - their son was nervously preparing for the Olympic Games in Beijing, and the couple went to Hainan for a tour.
Why do they behave so normally?
Because the most precious thing about Xiaoming's parents is the "Buddha-nature" mentality of "only valuing the process, not the result".
Wise parents, who never control their children or leave them alone, will find a delicate balance between them.
Do not hesitate when you should manage, and never intervene when you should not manage.
Stand behind the child and tell him, "The parents are always there." ”
Give him strength and let him grow freely and healthily in love.
Read a sentence:
"Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, and it is the different daily education of parents that gives children a different life."
Every child has its own brilliance, and parents should learn to accompany and guide them to make this brilliance shine.
Encourage children with a warm heart, respect children with a heart of acceptance, and guard children with a strong heart.
Be a non-anxious parent and raise confident children.
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