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Having and raising children, not only to provide them with good material conditions, but also to care about their mental health, which not only means that children must learn to live a sunny and happy life, but also respect for others.
Among them, the attitude towards the opposite sex is an important reference for whether a person understands etiquette and is noble, which children need to cultivate from an early age, but it is also what many parents ignore or do not know how to talk about.
The Mad Parenting Of Alternative Fathers
A recent screenshot of a group chat caused an uproar on the Internet, a high-knowledge, high-paid, high-class father, went so far as to publicly state that he only asked his son to have multiple objects, and even supported him to have a relationship with a girl, with the ultimate goal of letting his son have more grandchildren for himself.
The reason why this strange father is Ding Peng, a quantitative investor, has such remarks is because he feels that he is too hard to study, too long, and does not want his son to be like himself, and he is still studying in the first year.
Perhaps feeling inferior to his former origins and experiences, he wanted to pin this strange concept on his son.
Looking at the life history of this strange father, he grew up from an ordinary family, worked hard to study and obtained Shanghai Jiaotong University, and graduated with a doctorate, and then his career has progressed all the way, and now he has become a quantitative investor, which is a small reputation in the circle, and his natural value is not low.
So, after having knowledge, social status, and money, he began to "retaliatory compensation."
Since his son was six or seven years old, he gave his children tens of thousands of pieces of pocket money, specially bought snacks for the beautiful little girls in the class to eat, and the educational concept of cultivating brothers and playboys from an early age was clearly revealed.
When his concept of education was forwarded and attracted the attention and condemnation of netizens, the well-known investor even responded that he did not care at all.
Crazy parenting has exposed growth problems
While netizens criticized Ding Peng's parenting mistakes, some netizens calmed down and analyzed why he had such remarks and practices.
From a psychological point of view, perhaps because Ding Peng lacked the experience of interacting with the opposite sex during his growth, or to be more precise, he hoped to let his son help him achieve it.
However, this father ignores that under his educational philosophy, the child may grow into a scumbag who will only "pick up the girl" without achieving anything, is this the result that a father hopes to see?
The girl's parents expressed indignation
"I teach my daughter to protect myself, but you teach your child to be a scumbag", I think this sentence is the source of anger and worry for many girls' parents.
After giving birth to their daughters, many parents said that from that moment on, they were thinking about how to teach their daughters to protect themselves, but other parents were so unbearable to train their sons to become a complete scumbag, how can people not despair?
Even if the girl can protect herself again, how can she withstand the harm of the scumbag?
Only by knowing how to protect and know how to respect and get the right guidance, the future of children will be full of goodwill, and the marriage that children can have will be beautiful and happy.
Facing up to sex education is the best umbrella for children
In front of the implicit Chinese, many parents are still unable to frankly educate their children about sex.
Statistics show that only 30 percent of parents have sex education for their children.
Statistics also show that children receive less than two percent of sex education from their parents, and the proportion of relevant knowledge they receive from schools is not much different.
Therefore, the lack of sex education for minors is a common and more serious problem.
In stark contrast, incidents of sexual assault of minors are staged every day, harming the physical and mental health of minors.
Perhaps there will be parents of boys who are puzzled to say that it is necessary for boys to receive relevant education? After all, in the face of gender problems, boys do not seem to suffer losses.
Do not forget that boys will eventually grow into men, start a family, marry and have children, become husbands and fathers.
If boys have not received the correct sexual concept education, how can they know how to respect women, how to know how to express love correctly, how to be a competent husband, and how can they become a father who makes children respected?
Therefore, boys of course need to form a correct concept of gender and learn to correctly view and deal with the love and friendship relationship with women.
Girl, please protect yourself in this way
As a parent of a girl, you should teach your child to protect yourself as soon as possible.
First of all, the "honor" of the girl's body is taught from an early age, and no one can infringe on it, including of course their own loved ones. Learning to protect the body is the first step in self-protection from harm.
Second, be brave enough to say no. Teach girls to be gentle and skillful at the same time, but also have principles and courage, when they are hurt before they are brave enough to say no, bravely refuse, and express their attitudes directly.
Parents should understand that a lady does not mean cowardice, and it is the most lovely to be a soft and strong woman.
Again, let the girls trust the parents, have anything to open up to the parents, and ask for help.
Some girls do not have a very good relationship with their parents, so it is easy to seek love from other people of the opposite sex, giving opportunities for people with bad intentions.
There are also some girls who are reluctant to share their hearts with their parents, and even if they are bullied by the opposite sex, they do not know how to ask adults for help, which is likely to cause more serious consequences.
Both boys and girls should have the right three views, and of course, they should also have the right concept of love. Parents have the responsibility and obligation to help their children create a pure growth environment and guide them to find the "true love" of life.