If the child needs what is the most, I believe that in addition to a healthy physique, parents are most concerned about the child's healthy personality. Only a healthy and confident personality can make children full of hope for the future.
However, because the child is young, the value concept at this time is not mature, and in the process of growing up, the parents will ignore the child's personality and psychological shaping if they are not careful. Even if parents have been extremely careful in family education, children in social environments such as schools are easily attacked, become timid and sensitive, and withdraw from things.
Children are introverted and dare not express themselves on many occasions, which has always plagued many parents. So how should parents educate a confident child?
First, learn to let go
To cultivate children's self-confidence, the first thing parents should do is to let go and let them do what they can independently and independently.
When children can complete a thing independently, no matter how things are done, they must first affirm the child's efforts, affirm the right side of this thing, and then discuss with the child from the perspective of parents how to do better.
In fact, many parents are not at ease with letting their children do things independently, the main reason is that they are afraid that their children will be injured or that things in the family will be damaged. But the road to growth is to summarize from failure and grow from exploration. It is because of continuous experience that we can gain self-confidence in learning.
Therefore, parents and friends should be good at discovering and affirming the children's achievements, as long as the children have confidence in themselves, learning and doing things can be improved, which is also crucial for the children's future life.
Second, let the child do what he can
Parents always like to take care of everything for their children, of course, this is a manifestation of caring for their children, but also if they let their children rely too much on their parents, not only is it easy for them to grow slower than their peers, but also what others can do, the fact that he can't do this will also frustrate their self-confidence.
Parents should take the initiative to train their children in life, do not give their children the opportunity to rely too much, if this matter feels that the child can do a good job, then leave things to him to do. Let the children enhance their personal confidence and pride in the satisfaction of accomplishing one thing.
Third, seek more advice from children and improve their presence in the family
When some well-behaved children want to take the initiative to make suggestions, parents will always say, "You are still a child, you don't understand anything, wait until you grow up." ”
It is true that children are young and experience fewer things, and there will always be some deficiencies in the cognition of some things, but each child has an independent personality, and they can also come up with unexpected good ideas.
If parents can respect them and seriously accept their opinions. For example: "You are really good, Mom and Dad will seriously consider your opinion, if you have any ideas to put forward to Mom and Dad." 」 "It will make the child feel that he has a full sense of existence and is also a part of this family." The child's feeling needed is the best way to improve self-confidence.
The shaping of children's personality is a difficult and long process, and parents should give them enough respect and love in this critical period. Take the needs of children seriously, and only children who are full of confidence and sunshine can look forward to the future.
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