Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: Sociologists believe that parents' behavior in family life, especially emotions, is a direct factor affecting the development of children's mental health. The behavior of parents is the benchmark of the child and the indicator of the influence of the child's psychological development. Studies have shown that parents' friendly and peaceful mood at home, modest and courteous reception of people and things, is conducive to the development of children's mental health; however, if parents are often in a bad mood and argue at home, children will often be in tension and fear, which is extremely detrimental to their psychological development.
Experts remind parents that for the development of their children's mental health, the following emotional control needs special attention:
1. Don't argue in front of your child.
Parents should not have any evasive quarrels in front of their children, or parents quarrel with others, which will make children nervous and afraid. Parents often make a big fuss in front of their children, which will make the child's spirit highly uneasy, and the psychology will breed insecurity. Therefore, parents must remember not to quarrel in front of their children or try not to be rude.
2. Don't complain about life or show decadence in front of your children.
Parents are the biggest support of children, and parents' attitude to life directly affects children's sense of life security and confidence in growth. Parents often complain about life in front of their children, or often show decadent emotions, which will expose the child to the pressure of society or life prematurely, and will make the child feel psychologically insecure. As a result, a skeptical or decadent attitude towards life may accompany the child's growth, which will put their child under unnecessary stress both physically and mentally. Therefore, it is particularly necessary to remind parents and friends that no matter how many difficulties and setbacks you encounter temporarily, for the healthy development of your child, please do not complain about life or show decadent emotions in front of your children.
3. Don't scold or criticize others in front of your child.
Some parents often scold or criticize others without hesitation in front of their children. These parents believe that their children are young and ignorant, and scolding or criticizing others in front of them has no effect on their children. In fact, this is not only a very bad way of life, but also a bad way of education that is harmful to the healthy growth of children. This kind of behavior will make children doubt the daily formal education of parents, and will also let children learn this bad lifestyle, which will distort the child's mind and greatly affect the child's mental health.
4. Don't express your opinion of things in an extreme tone in front of your child.
Some parents and friends have extreme personalities and extreme views on things, often expressing extreme language in their children. Psychologists believe that excessive speech and emotions of parents will transform the child's psychology into an extreme psychology, which will have a negative impact on the child's personality shaping and psychological development. Therefore, for the sake of your child's mental health development, do not express your views on things in an extreme tone in front of your child.