Marriage registration is the big day in everyone's life. Many newlyweds will deliberately choose a good birthday and auspicious day, walk into the marriage registration office with the other half of their lives, receive the certificate under everyone's blessings and witnesses, and start a new journey in life. Days such as "February 14", "February 22" and "May 20" have also been given the meaning of romantic love by many newcomers, and the number of marriage registration appointments is often hot. A few days ago, the Guangdong Civil Affairs Marriage Registration Online Appointment System showed that the remaining number of appointments at the Civil Affairs Marriage Registration Offices in Guangzhou districts on February 22, 2022 was zero.
"Net Red Lucky Day" is loved by everyone. In view of the relatively concentrated demand for marriage registration among the public, the Guangzhou Municipal Marriage Registration Authority revealed that on the one hand, it has increased the service force, extended the service time, optimized the registration procedures and other measures to do a good job in service guarantee work, and the marriage registration organs in each district will go to work half an hour in advance to extend the office hours according to the actual situation to ensure that the marriage registration needs of the public are met; on the other hand, it also said that as long as the feelings are good, every day is a good day, and the citizens who have not been able to make an appointment can also choose other "loving" dates to register marriages.
What are the views of the public and marriage counseling experts on the popularity of "good day" marriage registration appointments? The reporter visited many parties and found that many citizens think that the "net red auspicious day" is good, but the "customized auspicious day" that carries their love memories is more romantic. Experts also said that marriage registration is only the beginning of a new family, "every day is a good day, a good day in our hearts, happiness in our hearts", a good marriage is based on our ability to operate.
▍Everyone says that the auspicious day is good:
"Net red auspicious day" is good, "customized auspicious day" is even better
In fact, it's not just February 22, 2022 that marriage registration appointments are hot. A social worker revealed, "Every year there will be specific days, which are popular dates for marriage registration, such as November 11, 2011, February 2, 2020 (due to the need to suspend marriage registration services in many parts of the country due to epidemic prevention and control), and the upcoming February 22, etc. Citizens choose good days, in fact, they also hope to choose a good day and complete their life events under everyone's blessing and witness." ”
"'Net red auspicious day' who does not love ah, but it is too difficult to date." At the end of last year, Xiaoting (pseudonym) finally relaxed and gave her boyfriend who had been together for more than 2 years "a name". At that time, they had already planned to choose a "net red auspicious day" to register for marriage, but the two people had been dating for a long time, and they could not date any popular days, so they decided to "customize the auspicious day" and made an appointment for marriage on November 6, 2021 - it turned out that Mr. Xiaoting was Born in November, she was born in June, this date is easy to remember, and "suitable for marriage". Early that morning, they got up at 7 a.m. to wait for the quota, and when the appointment was opened, they found that there was only one place left. "It's nice to have only one place, it feels particularly rare and precious." Xiaoting said that on the same day, they returned to Nansha to register, there were not many people at the scene, it was very smooth, "especially before they had gone through the scene, they were not nervous at all, but they were very relaxed and happy." ”
Yang Yan (pseudonym), a neighbor in Guangzhou who has been married for many years, told reporters, "As a person who has come over, I think the sense of ceremony is needed, but there are many ways to have a sense of ceremony, do not have to stick to the good day registration of this kind of ceremony, in fact, you can also plan some small ceremonies on a good day, leave good memories for both sides, and then go to get the certificate, as a perfect interpretation of good memories." In fact, this is also a kind of understanding of "good birthday auspicious days" by many newcomers in Guangzhou - those days when the harmonic sounds are related to love and are given many love meanings are good, but if you can find the "good birthday auspicious day" that belongs to yourself and your other half, it is more romantic and commemorative.
▍Experts:
"Every day is a good day, a good day is in our hearts, happiness is in our hearts"
"I think [picking an auspicious day] is a very good thing, and I'm especially happy for the new people." Yu Donghui, vice chairman of the Guangdong Psychological Counseling and Treatment Committee and a family education expert, said, "Getting married on a good day may be one of the best things in a lifetime for a pair of people, and they deserve the most sincere blessings." He believes that this pursuit of beautiful and auspicious numbers is part of traditional Chinese culture, and people put their wishes for a better life on good numbers, not so much believing that this number has a magical power, but rather a positive hint in psychology, thinking that they have been blessed and can get a good married life: "If the new couple can get the blessings of both parents, they will be more convinced that marriage can be happy for a long time, which is also a positive hint." In his view, this hint will trigger the newcomer to "secretly resolve" and can have a positive effect.
However, if you pursue an "auspicious day" too much, it is likely to bring a burden to yourself. Yu Donghui found that there are still a small number of newcomers who cling to auspicious days and auspicious times, and everything must be "chosen", which affects normal work and life, and brings trouble to themselves, their families and relatives and friends: "For example, to meet relatives must choose early in the morning, making everyone tired; or caesarean section must choose the auspicious time in the middle of the night, and 'toss' the doctor and the mother-to-be." In fact, most of the newcomers are still relatively "new", they will consider the "internet red auspicious day" at the same time, but also weigh the convenience, such as choosing to get married on weekends, holidays, relatives and friends are more convenient to participate, Yu Donghui also suggested that the new people choose the time to get married to be convenient.
Lan Zi, president of the Guangdong Marriage and Family Counselors Association, said, "Marriage represents that two people who are originally unrelated to each other form a family and live together in the next few decades. Since ancient times, it has been a tradition to choose an auspicious day for marriage, and it has always been respected by people. ”
In her view, a good day can give people a positive psychological hint, because two individuals form a new family, in the future may find more or less differences between each other, there are marital conflicts, choose a good auspicious day, pinned on each other to protect the belief of this beautiful love, hope to bring good blessings and good marriage, everyone hopes for their wedding, as far as possible all relatives and friends can be present. Therefore, choose a good day to get married and complete this sacred and solemn event with everyone's blessing and witness. She believes that it is best to be able to make an appointment to get married on this good day that everyone agrees. If you don't have an appointment, it is normal to feel a sense of loss, but you need to adjust your mentality and emotions. She said that a good life is a positive psychological implication, "True happiness is up to us to manage and maintain after marriage." Every day is a good day, a good day is in our hearts, happiness is in our hearts, and a good marriage depends on our ability to operate. ”
▍Happiness Tips:
On the road to marriage, we have to continue to grow
Weddings are just a starting point for marriage, and there is a long road behind. Yu Donghui has always advocated marriage education as a part of China's education system - at least from junior high school to provide teenagers with compulsory education for marriage and love, until high school and college, teaching teenagers how to fall in love, how to form a family, how to maintain relationships, how to raise children: "If there is no learning, how to know how to give each other courtesy and respect each other in love and marriage?" When conflicts arise in marriage, how to understand, communicate and deal with problems rationally and peacefully? When the marriage encounters a crisis, how to solve it? These important things need to be learned before entering marriage, and they also need to be continuously learned after entering marriage. ”
His advice to young couples is that since they are ready to get married, to live a life together, they must learn to respect, understand each other, and learn to communicate and communicate: "These are the two cores of marriage. As for the bumps and bumps that marriage may encounter, young couples should also have something to expect, do not think that "the princess and prince live happily together" is the end of the story, but there is no need to be afraid, what is needed is to be prepared, face up to possible problems, have enough confidence in themselves and each other, and defend the marriage of two people with love and wisdom.
Text/Guangzhou Daily, Xinhuacheng reporter: Su Zan, Yang Xin, Lin Lin
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Guangzhou Daily New Flower City Editor: Su Wanqian