In the previous article, it was mentioned that correcting children will destroy children's creativity, and at the same time, it will make children feel frustrated, which in turn will hit children's self-confidence and interest.
Do you want to correct the obvious mistakes of the child? Is it laissez-faire?
We will talk about this problem on a case-by-case basis.
— 1— Interest class error
Interest errors, such as musical instruments, calligraphy, basketball, football, etc., parents can turn to professional teachers for help, ask teachers to correct from a professional point of view, children are more receptive, and it is not easy to feel the blow.
I was very angry with my son and said to me, Mom, you don't know don't say anything! I once wrote that once, I corrected the child's shooting posture, and the result was that the child immediately lost his temper.
I didn't know it at the time, so I thought he was making a big fuss, and it was worth losing his temper.
Later I knew, and it was precisely because I corrected him that he felt frustrated and blindly commanded, and irritated him.
What he thought in his heart was that a person who didn't understand basketball actually wanted to say that I was doing something wrong and wanted to correct me.
At that time, he also unceremoniously rebuked me, did not understand, do not say it.
Later, I privately found the coach, fed back his mistakes to the coach, and in the follow-up exercises, he gradually corrected them.
Because children always worship the strong and the professional.
Coaches and teachers are far more professional than parents, and they can win the respect of their children.
Their correction is more receptive to the child, and it does not produce a strong sense of frustration.
But there are exceptions, there are many children, going to interest classes, not really interested in themselves, but parents think they need to go, or the exams are required and have to go.
They have little interest in this activity in themselves, and they are forced to go to class.
Therefore, even professional teachers and coaches who correct children will make him feel frustrated.
I don't like it, I don't like it, I'm not good at it, and I frequently experience the feeling of being stupid, double pinch, and the child's confidence will be greatly impacted.
Therefore, this goes back to the original point, all education, must follow the underlying logic, regard the child as an independent individual, take the child as the basis, and act cautiously.
The choice of interest classes is based on the child's interests and preferences, rather than, based on the requirements of parents or examinations, utilitarian choices.
— 2 — Subject class error
For disciplinary errors, such as writing mistakes, writing wrong equations, calculation errors, and wrong ideas, should these be corrected?
Nature is meant to be corrected.
However, do not directly use the "error correction" method.
Parents can discuss and learn from their children to reduce the frustration caused by this.
For example, typos, we can tell the child, when the mother used to go to school, remember this word, it was written like this, the stroke is like this, is it changed now?
The pronunciation of this word, when my mother went to school, was reading xia (oblique), do not know what to read now?
Such a situation is indeed real.
The pronunciation, strokes, and writing order that my parents used to learn have now changed somewhat.
You can also tell your child that your mother forgot how to write this word, and you teach me.
With such a way of discussion and learning, children can not only feel equality and respect, but also inspire children to find mistakes and avoid frustrating children.
Parents can also, in time in front of the child, deliberately make mistakes, mispronounce words, write typos, let the children see, parents will also write typos, this is not a big deal.
When I give my children English dictations, they often correct my pronunciation and say that my pronunciation is not standard.
I said, thank you for your correction.
When I was in school, I learned British English, there was no natural phonics, and my teacher, who taught me was not standard, I learned this.
Children see that their parents are imperfect, there are also times when they make mistakes, and there are also times when they need to be corrected, they do not have so much to worry about, and they will have the courage to bear mistakes.
— 3 — Creation in error
At the same time, parents must affirm and encourage their children to create unexpectedly in certain wrong ways.
Just like in the cultivation of children's creativity, the need to break the routine, I wrote about the example:
Some children, when doing oral arithmetic and doing problems, write the style of the numbers into the style of the electronic clock;
Some are written as dotted lines in the red style;
Some people draw numbers as paintings, such as 8, drawing eyes on top, filling in legs and arms below, and drawing a few lines on the outside, becoming human.
If from the perspective of writing norms, they really do not conform to the norms and make mistakes.
But these mistakes contain their unique creativity, which is the enlightenment and source of their creativity.
For such mistakes, parents should still be tolerant and supportive of their children.
And children will have their own judgments, when, need to be taken seriously, standard writing, can not create; when, you can not be so normative, play their own creativity.
Final words
Interest errors, seek help from professional teachers, ask teachers to correct from a professional point of view;
For the mistakes of the subject, parents can use the way of discussion and learning to inspire their children to find their own mistakes and correct themselves.
Parents should be tolerant and supportive of their children with creative mistakes, which is the source of children's creativity.
When a child, in a permissive, relaxed, and inclusive atmosphere, is not afraid of making mistakes, does not pursue perfection, does not worry about frustration, and is not afraid of correction, he will naturally grow up confident, optimistic, calm, and comfortable, and find his own interests and play his own value.