The famous actress Xu Fan, on the big screen, she is the queen who conquers all the audiences with her acting skills, and in life she is the wife of director Feng Xiaogang.
From 30 years of art, Xu Fan has not only contributed film and television masterpieces such as "Tangshan Earthquake", "A Place of Chicken Feathers", "Fate Call Transfer", "No Thief in the World", etc., but also achieved a marriage story because of the film and director Feng Xiaogang.
Behind the good story is her forbearance, maintaining the image of her husband, not letting the scandal become a rift in the divorce of the two, in her view, to love her husband is to love him all.
01.
In 1992, Xu Fan, who had just graduated from the Central Academy of Drama and entered the art for a year, learned that director Xia Gang was looking for an actress for the movie "The Great Satan".
With the mentality of trying it out, Xu Fan participated in the interview, and as a result, her excellent acting strength allowed her to be seen by the director at a glance, and the heroine was set on the spot.
Later, under the arrangement of the crew, Xu Fan and the rest of the crew sat together to watch the samples.
After the sample screening ended, Xu Fan heard a man in front of him comment: "The film is good, that is, this actress is selected a little worse." ”
Ge You, who was sitting next to the man, heard this and stabbed him with his finger and whispered, "The man is sitting right behind you." ”
The man turned back in embarrassment, just in time to make a face with Xu Fan, and the two people did not say anything.
This man is Feng Xiaogang, who was recommended to be a screenwriter in the crew.
When Xu Fan later mentioned this ridiculous story, he quipped to Feng Xiaogang: "He has always looked down on me." ”
At that time, neither of them expected that the other party would accompany them for the rest of their lives.
After the sample meeting, the two made a movie, changed the script, and during the filming of "The Big Satan", Feng Xiaogang's view of Xu Fan quietly changed.
Feng Xiaogang once said: "Xu Fan is Lin Zhouyun who came out of my book." ”
Xu Fan used superb acting skills to gradually draw his image closer to the heroine Lin Zhouyun, and eventually became Lin Zhouyun, which made Feng Xiaogang stunned.
When it came to the feast, Feng Xiaogang talked to the director again about the heroine, but the words became "such a good actress, where did you find it?" ”
02.
After the filming of "The Great Satan", Feng Xiaogang began his pursuit of Xu Fan.
To this end, Feng Xiaogang also found a group of friends around him to learn the scriptures.
Friends taught him to call Xu Fan and asked her to come out to watch a drama, and after watching the drama, they ate and chatted together.
Feng Xiaogang did so, and also found an intermediary to join him, and sure enough, the relationship with Xu Fan became closer.
In 1993, "The Great Sasha" was nominated for the Golden Rooster Award, and the main crew needed to go to Guangzhou to attend the award ceremony, and the organizers chartered a plane from Beijing to Guangzhou for the crew.
At the airport, Feng Xiaogang looked at Xu Fan and introduced himself to Xu Fan, my girlfriend.
When Xu Fan heard Feng Xiaogang's words, he was ashamed and angry, and retorted, Who is your girlfriend?
Waiting for the plane, the person sitting next to Xu Fan's seat smiled and took the initiative to stand up and say to Feng Xiaogang, You come and sit next to your girlfriend.
Amid the laughter, the two sat together.
In 1994, Feng Xiaogang independently directed the TV series "A Place of Chicken Feathers", and invited Xu Fan to play the heroine of the TV series Li Jing, and the two became more familiar in the process of work and became more close friends.
Xu Fan knows that Feng Xiaogang is pursuing herself, and she is gradually attracted by Feng Xiaogang's talent, and besides, Feng Xiaogang is very considerate to her and often cares about her, which makes Xu Fan very moved.
However, she did not agree to Feng Xiaogang's pursuit for a long time, mainly because she had two concerns.
First, Feng Xiaogang actually formed a family a long time ago, his wife is a nurse, the two have a daughter who has just turned three years old, the two have shared happiness and hardships, but with the passage of time, the feelings have disappeared, but they have not been divorced.
The second is that Xu Fan once had an unsatisfactory relationship with Wang Zhiwen, Wang Zhiwen was not very good to her, Xu Fan was emotionally hurt, and he did not have the courage to face an unknown relationship for the time being.
03.
Feng Xiaogang's ex-wife, Zhang Di, is a nurse at a hospital in Beijing, with white skin, beautiful looks, and a tall figure.
In 1984, when Feng Xiaogang was 26 years old, he was working as an art assistant at Beijing Urban Construction Group.
Zhang Di wanted to find someone to paint a portrait of herself, and her cousin happened to work in a department with Feng Xiaogang, and after learning about this, she introduced Feng Xiaogang to Zhang Di to paint.
Not long after, Zhang Di and Feng Xiaogang met.
At first glance, Feng Xiaogang fell in love with Zhang Di, but Zhang Di did not look at Feng Xiaogang.
You know, at that time, Feng Xiaogang was not proud of his appearance, did not trim the edges, and his big teeth were uneven, which was far from the word handsome, and the other party was a real big beauty.
But when Zhang Di received the painting that Feng Xiaogang had painted for her, she couldn't help but change her mind about this young man, and Feng Xiaogang was indeed very talented.
After that, Feng Xiaogang began to pursue Zhang Di, sending her flowers and occasionally sending her home.
After a while, Zhang Di was also impressed by Feng Xiaogang's move, agreed to his pursuit, and the two became boyfriend and girlfriend.
Zhang Di's parents knew that there was some opposition, after all, with Zhang Di's conditions at that time, they could find a better object, but in the end, they took care of their daughter's wishes and agreed to the interaction between the two.
Slowly, with the deepening of the interaction, the relationship between the two people is getting better and better, and after the two sides have met the parents, they have begun to prepare for the wedding.
After marriage, Zhang Di lived with Feng Xiaogang and Feng Xiaogang's mother and sister, and her life was quite peaceful.
But not long after, Feng Xiaogang's mother was taken to the hospital due to a stroke, and after some treatment, she was still paralyzed.
In the face of the family's embarrassment and paralyzed mother-in-law, Zhang Diyi stood up without hesitation, undertook the heavy responsibility of taking care of her mother-in-law, and had no complaints or regrets.
Therefore, Feng Xiaogang was very grateful to Zhang Di in his heart.
In 1990, the two had a beautiful daughter and named her Feng Siyu.
Xiao Siyu has a congenital cleft lip and palate disease, the family raises money for her operation, and Feng Xiaogang and Zhang Di work hard.
Perhaps the couple is too busy, gathering less and more instead of the past intimacy, the two are emotionally distant, the marriage is shaky, but in order to give the young daughter a seemingly complete family and drag on no divorce.
Until Feng Xiaogang met Xu Fan.
04.
Here, Feng Xiaogang is trapped in a marriage that exists in name only; on the other side, Xu Fan is hurt by her first love boyfriend Wang Zhiwen.
In 1987, at the age of 20, Xu Fan was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama.
In 1987, the Chinese opera performance class was a star class, and Xu Fan's classmates included Hu Jun, He Bing, Jiang Shan, Chen Xiaoyi, etc.
After graduating from the Beijing Film Academy, Wang Zhiwen was assigned to work as a teacher in Chinese opera and became their class teacher.
Objectively speaking, Wang Zhiwen is not a handsome man in the eyes of the public, but it coincides with the beginning of Xu Fan's love affair, Wang Zhiwen is full of spirit, and his personal charm deeply attracts Xu Fan.
Xu Fan boldly pursued Wang Zhiwen, and soon after, the two became lovers.
Soon after, Xu Fan even moved into Wang Zhiwen's dormitory, where he began to live with him, washing and cooking for him.
During the cohabitation period, Wang Zhiwen was on fire for filming a TV series, and Xu Fan, who did not have a drama at that time, asked Wang Zhiwen if he could help her push the resources and find a drama, but he was rejected by Wang Zhiwen, who was lonely and arrogant.
After that, Xu Fan entered the crew of "Grand Eunuch Li Lianying", because director Tian Zhuangzhuang took more care of her, and rumors spread.
Wang Zhiwen, who heard the news, personally questioned Xu Fan, but refused to listen to Xu Fan's explanation, and even threw Xu Fan's luggage out of the house, and the relationship that lasted for two years finally ended with the regret of breaking up.
It is said that after breaking up with Wang Zhiwen, Xu Fan washed his face with tears, cried for a long time, and did not come out for two months, and was more careful and cautious emotionally.
Wang Zhiwen said many years later that the poor temper and impulsiveness of his youth caused him to lose a lot of things. I don't know if the bag he is referring to does not include this relationship with Xu Fan.
05.
Xu Fan did not know how to face Feng Xiaogang's family, but also feared that he would be hurt again in his new feelings, and Feng Xiaogang, who knew Xu Fan's concerns, assured her.
Feng Xiaogang said that he would agree to divorce his wife and would marry Xu Fan, which was good for Xu Fan.
Under Feng Xiaogang's assurance, Xu Fan finally agreed to associate with Feng Xiaogang.
And Feng Xiaogang did exactly what he promised. A few years later, Feng Xiaogang divorced and left the house to his ex-wife, while his daughter was temporarily taken care of by his ex-wife, and Feng Xiaogang took care of his daughter's maintenance.
In addition, Feng Xiaogang is also responsive to Xu Fan and recommends her to make many good movies, and Xu Fan's career success is inseparable from Feng Xiaogang.
In 1999, Feng Xiaogang married Xu Fan.
No flowers, no sense of ceremony. The two men simply ate a bowl of noodles and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to prove the results.
After just getting married, Xu Fan lived a very happy life, and even told his friends that it turned out that getting married was such a happy thing.
But life is never calm. Soon after, Feng Xiaogang, who missed his daughter, offered to pick up his daughter and live with her for a while.
Xu Fan was not a small family man, and at that time she agreed with Feng Xiaogang's idea, and on the day Feng Siyu came, she dressed herself up beautifully, prepared gifts for the little girl, and wanted to give her stepdaughter a good impression.
But Feng Siyu is only 9 years old in the end, and he can't understand the love and hate between adults, only knowing that Xu Fan's appearance has separated his parents and father.
She refused Xu Fan's gift and angrily said to Xu Fan, what I want, my own mother will buy me, I don't want your things, you are not my mother.
Xu Fan stood there embarrassed, but he did not forget to appease Feng Xiaogang, who felt a little angry because of Feng Siyu's actions: "Si Yu is a child after all. ”
06.
The storm passed quickly, and Feng Siyu quickly returned to Zhang Di's side.
A year later, Feng Siyu was 10 years old, because the environment in the school district was not very good, Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan discussed and wanted to take their daughter to school.
Feng Xiaogang told Xu Fan that he had always felt indebted to Feng Siyu in his heart and wanted to take this opportunity to make up for his daughter.
After xu fan considered it, he once again agreed with Feng Xiaogang, and said that he would treat Feng Siyu like a biological child, hoping that love could eliminate the estrangement.
Subsequently, Xu Fan cleaned up Feng Siyu's room and rearranged it, waiting for Feng Siyu's arrival.
Feng Siyu, who saw her again, had a higher acceptance of Xu Fan than before, and she began to call Xu Fan "Aunt", although not as close as other people's mothers and daughters, it was good to get along harmoniously.
The Internet rumors that Xu Fan was pregnant, but for Feng Siyu did not want this child, she did not want her own child for so many years, nor could she not have children.
07.
Feng Siyu gradually grew up, and soon reached puberty, and the rebellion characteristic of adolescent children gradually appeared in her.
She began to wear makeup, spend money lavishly, go to Internet cafes to play games, and sometimes even stay home at night.
Feng Xiaogang doted on her daughter, and most of the things were done by her, but Xu Fan, the stepmother, couldn't look at it first.
Xu Fan told Feng Xiaogang that her daughter's education must be done well, and we must not blindly indulge her, so that it will do her all kinds of harm and no benefit.
After that, Xu Fan began to meddle in Feng Siyu's affairs.
Minors wearing makeup are not allowed; playing games in Internet cafes is not allowed; truancy is not allowed; staying up all night is not allowed, not allowed to go out.
Feng Siyu, who was accustomed to freedom, was very resistant at first, and even scolded Xu Fan when xu fan confiscated her game console, making a fuss about returning to her mother's house.
But Xu Fan still did not let go, but kept saying to Feng Siyu, Auntie is managing you like this, in fact, it is for your own good.
Feng Siyu is not a bad child, as time goes by, she gradually understands everything Xu Fan has done for her, and the conflict has made her see Xu Fan's true heart.
Later, Feng Siyu returned to his mother due to academic problems, but he never broke off the contact with Xu Fan, and the relationship between the two people became better and better, as close as mother and daughter.
In 2006, Xu Fan and Feng Xiaogang adopted a little girl, the same surname as Xu Fan, named Xu Duo.
For the younger daughter, Xu Fan is also pampered, she and Xu Duo have been sharing the same bed, until Xu Duo was 14 years old, Xu Fan slept with her in separate beds.
For reasons of protecting children, Xu Duo rarely appeared, and only appeared in front of everyone for the first time at the age of 15.
In 19 years, Xu Duo performed on stage, and Xu Fan, who was sitting under the stage, looked at Xu Duo, who had just grown up, and couldn't help but burst into tears.
08.
With Xu Fan's efforts, the family has become more and more happy and harmonious, and the adopted daughters and stepdaughters regard her as their biological mother, and her relationship with Feng Xiaogang has always been very stable.
On the outside is the gold medal heroine, on the inside is the best mother, Xu Fan can be said to be Feng Xiaogang's well-deserved xiannei help.