The eccentric problems that families with two children will encounter, and the problem of how parents discipline their children, are vividly displayed in this incident.
There is a son and a daughter in a family in Dongyang, Zhejiang. The eldest daughter called the police because she was slapped 5 times by her father.
After the police came out of the police, they learned that the girl felt that her family was biased towards her brother since she was a child, although her relationship with her brother has always been good, but every time she encounters something, her mother pushes the responsibility on her.
This time, because of a small matter, her father beat her and felt very wronged. The girl even felt that her mother could beat her, because her mother would usually take care of her life and study, while her father did not ask anything, so he was not qualified to beat her, and he had to say sorry to her.
Of course, in the end, in front of the police, the father said "I'm sorry", the girl said "it's okay", and the family storm was calmed down.
This incident fully reflects the two most common problems in our lives, which are very troublesome family education.
First, how can a second-child family be flat with a bowl of water?
Second, what else can parents do except scold?
First of all, in response to the first question, I will first express my attitude: it is impossible for a family with two or more children to completely level the bowl of water. The dragon gives birth to nine sons, each with different meanings, and the five fingers of life have their own lengths. In life, due to various factors, parents will unconsciously show that they prefer a certain child. This is also the common sentiment of human beings.
Before the one-child policy, most families were child-bearing. Most of the people in this part of the country are grandparents or parents, and they can deeply appreciate the advantages and disadvantages of having brothers and sisters in the family.
Now the birth of three children is encouraged, and many families have a second and third baby, but also for the sake of both children. Although I also firmly believe that children in multi-child families have a much better emotional development than only children. But don't always put it, having a second child is for the good of the big baby, this kind of talk hangs on the lips. Because this matter itself is a matter for parents, the biggest beneficiary is definitely the parents.
Other than that, two children can well alleviate parenting anxiety of parents. Just like playing a game, the tuba is not practiced well, and I am not allowed to practice the trumpet?
Conflicts between children are inevitable, but parents can guide younger siblings to learn from older siblings and establish a good image of older siblings in the minds of younger siblings. Of course, instead of comparing the two children, let the children see each other's strengths, positive motivation, can let them develop together.
On the second question, parents know that hitting people is the most failed way of education, but many parents can't find a better way to calm down the incident when they are emotional.
To be fair, it's hard for us to do it without scolding children at all. But it is recommended, before the age of three, not to hit the child. Do not hit children after the age of 6. Children can play, which is between 3-6 years old.
Girls like the girls in this incident look more than ten years old, and they are completely unsuitable for education by beating and cursing.
If the girl always thinks that her parents are biased towards her brother, let her identify this fact. All she has to do is study hard, try to get far away from the test, leave home, and go far away.
Finally, in response to the girl's point of view, the whole family can beat me, that is, dad can't beat me. It can be seen that the father's sense of participation in the family is extremely low, and I hope that the father can recognize this problem, participate in more family affairs, and in addition to making money for the family, he must also care about the life and learning of his children. Avoid the appearance of this kind of fraudulent parenting.