In life, we can often hear that many people follow the custom of being right when they get married. Especially for some elderly people, they are very respectful of this kind of custom. And now with the development of society, the door to the door has never been limited to the gap in money and status. Because people in society now pay more and more attention to academic qualifications, when getting married, people also have certain considerations about whether the academic qualifications of two people match.
When getting married, the bride price is an essential and important part. But we can often hear that many people have no way to go ahead with a wedding for two people because of the bride price. Because in the minds of many parents, if they think that the other half of their children is not matching their sons, they will refuse to give a bride price when they get married. And such a practice will directly lead to the breakdown of the son's marriage
Recently, in life, Zhang Wenyuan's mother refused to give a bride price because her daughter-in-law's education was too low, thus ruining her son's marriage.
In love
Zhang Wenyuan was born in an ordinary worker family, his parents are ordinary workers, and he grew up in such an ordinary family since he was a child. Because Zhang Wenyuan's mother has always wanted to make her family richer, and she has also pinned all this hope on Zhang Wenyuan's body, but this also makes Zhang Wenyuan feel very stressed, so Zhang Wenyuan has not been able to enter a good university under the constant oppression of his mother, but only admitted to a third-rate university.
However, Zhang Wenyuan's mother did not feel any embarrassment because of this, but instead bragged about how well-behaved her son was in front of her relatives and friends, which also made Zhang Wenyuan feel very embarrassed, but he could not influence his mother's approach.
After Graduating from Zhang Wenyuan University, he entered a local company to work, and in the process of going to work, he also met a girl, this girl named Pan Xiaomin. Pan Xiaomin is a local like Zhang Wenyuan, but Pan Xiaomin chose to work directly after finishing high school because of her poor academic performance.
After the two people knew each other for a while, Zhang Wenyuan was also quickly attracted by Pan Xiaomin's cheerful personality, so he soon began to pursue Pan Xiaomin in his life. And Pan Xiaomin also had a good feeling for him because of his relationship with Zhang Wenyuan, so when Zhang Wenyuan began to pursue himself, Pan Xiaomin also directly agreed.
After the two began to fall in love for a while, Zhang Wenyuan also quickly proposed to Pan Xiaomin. For Zhang Wenyuan's marriage proposal, Pan Xiaomin also felt very happy, so she quickly agreed to Zhang Wenyuan's request.
The dissatisfaction of the mother-in-law
After Pan Xiaomin agreed to his marriage proposal, Zhang Wenyuan quickly took Pan Xiaomin home to meet his parents. However, she did not expect that although Zhang Wenyuan's mother was very enthusiastic about Pan Xiaomin at the beginning, after she learned of Pan Xiaomin's academic qualifications, she had a significant change in Pan Xiaomin's attitude.
Because Zhang Wenyuan's mother felt that her son was a college student after all, then his object should naturally have a matching academic qualification with him, but Pan Xiaomin's academic qualifications did not meet her requirements at all, so Zhang Wenyuan's mother raised objections with her son when she first met Pan Xiaomin.
After knowing his mother's thoughts, Zhang Wenyuan also felt very ridiculous, because he knew that his college diploma was of no use at all, because not many people in his third-rate university had heard of it, and besides, the ability to work in society was also a very important criterion, and Pan Xiaomin had a wealth of work experience that he did not have. And his monthly salary is only 3,000 yuan, so he does not feel that there is a gap between himself and Pan Xiaomin.
But Zhang Wenyuan's mother did not think so, she originally wanted her son to break up with Pan Xiaomin directly, but she did not expect that after she made this request, she directly got her son's opposition, so she had to retreat to the second place and chose to make it difficult for her daughter-in-law on the bride price.
Choose to retire
After the marriage date of the two people had been set, Zhang Wenyuan's mother proposed not to give the bride price. Because she feels that Pan Xiaomin's education is really too low, her son can be with her is already very good, if she continues to ask her son for the bride price, then it will become a bad thing, because she already has such a thought in her heart, so before the two people get married, she directly told her daughter-in-law not to give the bride price.
For the request made by the mother-in-law, Pan Xiaomin also felt very funny. Because although her education is not high, but because she has participated in the work very early, so with her rich work experience, her salary is also very high, but although Zhang Wenyuan is a so-called college student, but because he has no work experience, and the university is not a good school, so the monthly salary is only 3,000 yuan.
Therefore, after Pan Xiaomin heard Zhang Wenyuan's mother's words, she directly proposed to withdraw from marriage, and said to Zhang Wenyuan's mother: "College students with a monthly salary of 3,000, I can't afford to climb high." After saying that, Pan Xiaomin left directly, and also proposed to break up with Zhang Wenyuan.
After breaking up with Pan Xiaomin, Zhang Wenyuan also felt very angry about his mother's approach, so he also had a big fight with his mother in life, but no matter what he did, things had become a foregone conclusion.
In life, there are many young people who think that marriage is a very easy thing, as long as two people are happy with each other, then they can choose to enter marriage. But in fact, this is not the case, because marriage in life, has now gradually evolved into a matter of two families. If the financial situation or other conditions between the two families are too different, then the marriage of the two people will not be blessed by the two families.
With the rapid development of today's society, when people get married, the conditions they require are becoming more and more numerous. Therefore, if you want to get married in today's society, it is not enough to rely on the two loves of two people. Because now if you want to be inferior to a marriage, you need not only the willingness of two people, but also the consent of two families. But it's very difficult to get both families to agree to a marriage, because as parents, they have to consider not only whether two children are suitable, but also the financial conditions of both families. Therefore, in modern society, it is becoming more and more difficult to get married.
Now there are many elderly people in life, and they all attach great importance to the academic qualifications of their children's other half, because they also understand that it is difficult to live in society without academic qualifications in this society. Therefore, in the selection conditions for their children, more and more parents have also added academic qualifications to their own standards. But under such a fixed standard, there are also many people whose feelings die under these conditions.
In life, many parents, although they will put forward a lot of requirements, but their original intention is also for the good of their children. As children, we have no way or right to blame our parents and make considerations for ourselves. All we can do is gradually and slowly change the stubborn thoughts and opinions of our parents in life.
In modern society, academic qualifications are not the most important thing. Ability is the most important aspect for us. Therefore, in life, we must not blindly judge a person by only one academic qualification, because this one-sided judgment will only make us miss a lot of people and things.
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In life, do you think that the academic qualifications of two people in love are important?
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