"A few questions, you need to do more than 1 hour"
"It's better to do this, how many times have I told you?"
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Many parents have said it to their children, and more than once. And this kind of nagging will not only make the child feel bored, but also give the child such a hint: You are like this.
Children are young, they are in the stage of learning, in the process of learning chess will also expose one or another problem, at this time the parents' affirmation or denial will have a great impact on the child. Positive emotions will motivate children to continue to try, let children build self-confidence, increase children's enthusiasm for learning chess, and guide children to develop in a better direction. And bad psychological cues will suppress the child's enthusiasm for learning chess, in a repressive environment, the child is always worried about being scolded, but can not concentrate.
Parents' nagging seems to be concerned, but more parents' nagging is just a "euphemism" of blame. There is no whispering, no teaching, and sometimes even no reasoning, just chattering when you see that the child is not acting according to his own wishes. Doesn't this imply that children should strictly obey the parents' orders? The unequal "superior-subordinate relationship" allows children to experience the love of their parents, is it sure that it is not a joke? This will only create a gap between each other.
When young, the child can not resist, can only obey, older, the child will be extremely eager to distance from the parents, because the urgency and even a lot of excessive behavior, rebellious let everyone caught off guard, difficult to guide persuasion.
The original intention of parents' nagging is to understand that children cannot change at once, remind and guide more, so that children can remember and continuously improve.
Since it is verbal communication, it must be both sides. Not all children do not like this kind of repressive education, some children are like springs, the more they are hit, the more they can bounce back to the highest point. Some children themselves are easy to be hit, and their own strength may be good, but they lack self-confidence, especially when they know the strength of their opponents, it is difficult to calm their minds.
These children need parents to constantly encourage them. Therefore, the "nagging" words used in the wrong direction will give the child the wrong hint, and with the right direction, it can become a real wise and good word.
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