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I've always felt that it's amazing if a person is still single after thirty. Because from a certain point of view, they can withstand such a lot of pressure, which in itself shows the strength of the heart.
Although today's society, ideological concepts tend to be open and pluralistic, but for the issue of women's marriage and love, there are still some people who are quite conservative, they still feel that no matter how much achievement a woman herself has, as long as she does not marry and have children, it is a failure.
In this social environment, women who do not marry after the age of thirty often bear a lot of pressure.
One: Pressure from parents often makes people feel suffocated
For children, parents should be the closest people in the world, but at some point, parents become the people who hurt us the most.
Marriage has become a hurdle that women can't cross, no matter how high your education is, how good your job is, as long as you are not married, it is the original sin in the eyes of your parents.
Parents judge our lives by their life experiences, reluctantly allowing us to fulfill their expectations in the name of "for your own good." When you are no longer a complete person, but just a "unmarried woman" in the eyes of your parents, all your achievements are not counted, and only your age is left to judge you.
Even if you are white-skinned and beautiful, you have a stable and well-paid job, as long as you are over 30 years old, you are a slow seller in the eyes of your parents, and as long as a man is willing to marry you, they must be thankful.
The most classic sentence is: What else do you pick at this age?
But for women, this is the man I want to spend my life with, the man who carries the happiness of the second half of my life, but I have no right to choose, just because I did not marry at the right age according to the world's standards, I have to give my happiness to an unknown person?
This kind of love makes people suffocate and despair.
Second: Disapproval from the social environment will challenge the limits of women's psychological endurance
The pressure of parents is at least for the purpose of love, and some discrimination against women in society is naked malice.
Social development to the current level, women have long been able to stand up to their own piece of the sky. However, there are still many people who are short-sighted and still can only see women's reproductive function, equating the value of women with passing on the generations.
No matter how good women are, they are all tools for having children in their eyes.
They cannot accept that women have grown into independent personalities that can be equal to men, and have their own place in society, and can live their own lives without being attached to men.
These people are not only short-sighted, but also narrow-minded.
Sadly, such people are not in the minority, and the more economically backward the place, the lower the status of women. Many women have won respect and gained a foothold in the big cities by their own efforts, and returned to their hometowns for the New Year's Festival, but they are discriminated against, and even their own families cannot understand her.
More and more women do not want to go home for the New Year, because what greets them after going back is not the warmth of their parents, but the endless forced marriage.
A single woman who works outside has also lost her own harbor of mooring, and she wants to come to really sad.
Three: Being yourself is a luxury in life, and people who can stick to themselves are generally not simple
Older women who are still single after thirty years old often bear unimaginable pressure from others, but despite this, they still do not compromise and reality, but consistently do themselves, which is very worthy of recognition in itself.
You know, one of the most extravagant things in this world is to be yourself as you please.
After all, many times in life, we always have to say something insincere, and we always have to do something that goes against the original intention. Although everyone has their own rhythm of life, when you are different from others, you will still suffer from different eyes, even prejudice and discrimination.
In this case, some people are not psychologically receptive enough and are forced to compromise as a reality, while others insist on being themselves. Compared with the abandonment of the former, the persistence of the latter is even more remarkable.
Those women who have not married after the age of 30 are generally independent in thought, independent in finance, and have their own opinions and thoughts on everything. They are not affected by the outside world, do not care about the eyes of others, but always follow their own inner wishes, live according to their own ideas, how can people not be admired?
There is no standard way of living, and there is no truly perfect life. As long as you go the way you like, it is already a success.
So no matter how old you are now, and whether you are single, in love or married, I hope you can go your own way and keep your inner order. Only in this way can people have fewer regrets and more consummation.
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