Today, I saw an article interviewing Gu Ailing's mother's friends, and one of the things that impressed me the most was the way Gu Ailing's mother, Gu Yan, treated people.
Gu Yan's friend said, "Friends around Gu Yan know that she will look for your advantages at the first sight and let others feel that they are very good." That's how she treats others and the way she treats her daughters – pure love, care and respect, without any fuss. ”
I think it's really hard to do that, especially with your own children.
At a parent-teacher meeting, the head of the kindergarten asked everyone to say the 5 advantages of the child, invited 3 parents, and none of them said enough 5. Some parents said, can I talk about the shortcomings.
The first thing we care about most is the shortcomings of the child, which is actually normal. Our brains have "negative preferences" because humans were the first to discover the bad side of evolution, which helps us stay away from threats. So, it's normal even if we see the child's flaws first.
All we have to do is look at the other side of the shortcomings. Some children are timid, and the other side shows that this child is cautious. Some children love to cry, but the other side shows that they can vent their emotions, which is better than holding them in their hearts.
Every child has its own personality characteristics, as parents we should explore the strengths of children, more encouragement, respect children. #This is homeschooling##教育听我说 #
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