In 2004, 28-year-old Weng Fan took 82-year-old Yang Zhenning home, Weng Fan's father Weng Yunguang recognized the famous Yang Zhenning at a glance, was suddenly frightened, and rushed forward to shake hands and greet: "Professor Yang, hello, welcome to the home." ”
However, after Weng Fan's introduction, Weng Yunguang learned that the wrinkled and hunched old man in front of him was actually his daughter's boyfriend.
Look at the young and beautiful daughter, and then look at this son-in-law who is 27 years older than himself, Weng Fan's father almost collapsed, is the daughter going to be a nanny?
However, looking at Weng Fan's unswerving eyes, he had no choice.
He knows very well that if his daughter marries Yang Zhenning, the gossip of the world will drown her.
The age difference of 54 years, the difference in identity, the generation gap in cognition, all of which may crush them, how can they be happy?
However, 17 years later, witnessing the bits and pieces of the two together, Weng Yunguang sincerely sighed: "It turned out that everything had been arranged earlier, and I was most at ease with my daughter's marriage." ”
In 1976, Weng Fan was born in Chaozhou, Guangdong, his father Weng Yunguang is the head of a magazine, knowledgeable, under the influence of his father, Weng Fan has been reading poetry since he was a child, and also in the infiltration of books, he has developed a detached and elegant temperament.
In 1994, at the age of 18, Weng Fan was successfully admitted to Shantou University to study foreign literature.
Under the influence of Western culture, Weng Fan's thinking is very advanced, and he is very assertive in everything he does. In the era when dyed hair was still very rare, Weng Fan wore a chestnut hair, which became a unique scenery in the school.
Many boys are attracted by Weng Fan's "maverick" and have begun to pursue,
However, Weng Fan put all his mind into his studies, and in the four years of college, Weng Fan's results have always been the first in the whole department.
In the summer of the first year, the first Chinese Physics Conference was held at Shantou University, and Yang Zhenning and his wife were also invited to attend. Weng Fan, who had a good face and excellent English, was arranged to receive them.
At that time, Yang Zhenning was 72 years old, and Du Zhili was also 68 years old.
In Weng Fan's imagination, Yang and Du must be old and dying, their arms and legs are not very flexible, and they need to be supported at any time.
After meeting, they found that they not only had a stiff waist and a strong pace, but also had a quick mind, and they could not see the image of twilight at all.
Worthy of being a great scientist, this mental outlook is different, Weng Fan admired it, and enthusiastically became the tour guide of the two.
The three of them walked around the campus and chatted, Yang Zhenning's profound knowledge made Weng Fan feel admiration, and Weng Fan's thoughtfulness and courtesy also left a good impression on Yang and Du, and they left contact information for each other when they separated.
A classic photo was also left at the event: Yang Zhenning was in the center, Weng Fan was on the left, Du Zhili was on the right, and the three of them took a group photo at the event site.
Many people say that Weng Fan and Du Zhili look very similar. Now, looking at this photo again, I found that everything in the darkness was already doomed.
After that, Weng Fan would write letters to Yang and Du from time to time, asking about the confusion in study and life, and each time he would receive a detailed reply from the two.
Weng Fan was quite touched by such love for a junior, and a rare friendship continued in the hearts of the three people.
Time flies and encounters change.
After graduating from university, Weng Fan worked several jobs and met her first husband, a wealthy Hong Kong businessman, at the golf club.
However, after marriage, I found that material abundance could not eliminate the huge difference in cognition between the two people.
They often quarreled over trivial matters, because of different concepts, no one could convince anyone, Weng Fan was in pain, and two years later, the two broke up peacefully.
This failed marriage hit Weng Fan hard, and after the divorce, she did not want to touch the feelings again, but actively promoted herself.
In 2002, she was successfully admitted to the graduate class of Guangdong University of Foreign Studies, and just as she was preparing to report this good news to Yang Zhenning and his wife, the news of Du Zhili's death came.
At that time, Yang Zhenning had also returned from the United States to settle in Beijing, and after Weng Fan learned about it, he quickly wrote a letter to comfort Yang Zhenning and left his new phone number.
Yang Zhenning, who was originally immersed in the pain of widowhood, suddenly received a long-lost greeting from afar, and his heart was warm.
The loneliness and grief of many days made him desperate to find someone to talk to, and soon, he dialed Weng Fan's phone...
The two people chatted for a long time like old friends, and Yang Zhenning's mood was also ironed out a little by Weng Fan's gentleness and cheerfulness.
After that, Weng Fan frequently received calls from Yang Zhenning, they talked about life, but also talked about academic problems,
Curiously, although the age difference between the two is quite large, there is no obstacle to communication.
Yang Zhenning gradually found herself in love with the 28-year-old girl. Not calling every day was always like something missing, making him unable to think with peace of mind.
What Yang Zhenning did not know was that his open-mindedness, insight, and positive optimism beyond young people made Weng Fan admire. She also gradually liked the feeling of chatting with Yang Zhenning.
Sometimes, when Weng Fan came home on the weekend, he would also wait by the telephone on time, waiting for Yang Zhenning's call, and the gentleness and shyness of her answering the phone made her father Weng Yunguang once think that his daughter was in love.
He did not know that the other party was Yang Zhenning, and he also quite happily quipped to his daughter: "Whose young man, bring it home another day to meet." ”
When Weng Fan heard this, she actually blushed, perhaps she had already planted the seed of love in her heart, but she had not yet realized it.
In May 2004, when hong Kong's phoenix blossomed, Yang Zhenning invited Weng Fan to play in Shek O.
At this time, it had been a long time since the last meeting, Weng Fan thought that Yang Zhenning must have aged a lot, and when he did not want to meet, he was as energetic, laughing and quick thinking as before.
Weng Fan's heart suddenly relaxed, the two walked side by side on the path filled with floral fragrance, in the scent of the incense, Yang Zhenning could not help but hold Weng Fan's hand, Weng Fan did not refuse, but there was a feeling of rapid heartbeat.
It is said that a woman's love is due to worship, especially when the person you worship also happens to like you, everything seems to come naturally.
They walked and talked silently like this, perhaps they were all uncertain in their hearts, and when they met this time, they all buried their feelings in their hearts, and they did not say anything to each other.
After a short reunion, the two returned to their respective lives.
However, separation does not dilute feelings, but on the contrary, in the day-to-day thoughts, make the appearance of love more clearly visible.
Weng Fan finally understood that she was deeply in love, but the age difference of 54 years was between the two, and how to face the world's troubles made her upset.
She wrote her thoughts into English poems and sent them to Yang Zhenning, who also gave comments and sent them back.
Pen and ink are affectionate, paper is fragrant, and the feelings of the two people are getting deeper and deeper.
In 2004, during the National Day holiday, the two met to travel to the North Sea, and it was this trip that made them determined to come together.
That day, Yang Zhenning deliberately wore a pink shirt, looked much younger, knew that Weng Fan liked to take pictures, he carefully chose a digital camera to send, and the intimate action made Weng Fan very moved.
The two of them snuggled up to each other on the coconut grove path in the North Sea, and at a sea of flowers, Yang Zhenning suddenly slowed down, took out the flowers and diamond rings prepared in advance, proposed to Weng Fan on one knee, and said something touching:
"You are god's last gift to me, to my old soul, a joy to return to youth. Without cunning and thoughtfulness, brave and curious and light and dexterous, full of life and cute and playful, you are my eternal youth. ”
This kind of romantic feelings that are no less than young people, this kind of sincere love from the heart, makes Weng Fan's mood excited, and she can't help but nod her head frequently.
Weng Fan agreed to Yang Zhenning's marriage proposal, but marriage was not only a matter for two people, but also a matter for two families.
Can parents accept this "yearless love"? She had no bottom in her heart.
In November 2004, Weng Fan took Yang Zhenning back to his hometown.
For this meeting, Yang Zhenning made a lot of preparations, in order to look younger, he specially selected a light-colored shirt, and carefully selected gifts.
Although Weng Fan greeted his family in advance, when Yang Zhenning really appeared in front of him, Weng Fan's father, Weng Yunguang, was still surprised and difficult to accept.
You know, the Weng family is well-off, Weng Yunguang regards Weng Fan as a pearl in his hand, as a father, he hopes that his daughter can get married and have children like ordinary people and live a normal married life.
The old man in front of them, in their eyes, is definitely not a good match.
"If you marry someone so much older than yourself, outsiders will definitely think that you are trying to make money or a name, and spit stars can drown you, so why bother?"
But Weng Fan was very calm, and she sincerely said to her parents:
"My last marriage was divorced because of cognitive incompatibility, and Mr. Yang understood me. Although he is old, we have a common language, and I feel happy with him. ”
Looking at her daughter's determined expression and thinking about the pain of her daughter in the last marriage, father Weng Yunguang reluctantly agreed.
However, Weng Fan's worried heart was only half down, on the other hand, could Yang Zhenning's children accept her as a "stepmother"?
You know, at this time, it was only a year before the death of Yang Zhenning's wife Du Zhili.
In order to make the children accept Weng Fan, Yang Zhenningte took her to the United States to meet her son.
There, Weng Fan was considerate of Yang Zhenning, and many things that his son did not expect, Weng Fan did, which also made Yang Zhenning's children feel good about Weng Fan.
Yang Zhenning's eldest son once commented on the scene of seeing Weng Fan for the first time: "Dressed appropriately, behaved elegantly, guarded his father step by step, very intimate." ”
Having such a girl by her father's side, they were relieved.
Especially when the outside world commented that Yang Zhenning forgot his deceased wife so quickly, and there was some "desperate love", the children also supported their father: "We know the feelings of my parents best. ”
On Christmas Eve 2004, with the support of both families, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning officially registered their marriage at the Shantou Civil Affairs Bureau.
However, the days of the newlywed Yan'er were not yet a few days away, and the outside public opinion soon gave them a blow.
Shortly after they received their licenses, a news that "28-year-old Weng Fan and 82-year-old Yang Zhenning are married" made headlines, and public opinion was in an uproar for a while.
Some people say that Weng Fan is married to so many physicists who are bigger than herself, either the name of the picture or the money, and that she wants to take advantage of the situation to ascend to the position...
Some people also say that Yang Zhenning did such a morally illegal thing for the sake of the old and disrespectful, and some people called the phone directly to the home for questioning.
Weng Fan was physically and mentally exhausted, and she also felt some panic and fear, and she did not even dare to go out or appear in public.
Seeing that his daughter had been misunderstood so much, Weng's father was also like a knife, and even doubted whether what he had done to support his daughter was right.
Fortunately, Yang Zhenning has experienced so many years of ups and downs, and it is not strange to see such a small scene, and under his comfort and companionship, Weng Fan has learned to be indifferent.
Weng Fan is not very good at dealing with the media, Yang Zhenning patiently comforted her, every time he attended an important event, he would hold Weng Fan's hand and teach her how to communicate with people.
With the help of Yang Zhenning, Weng Fan can finally stand alone and not care much about the outside world's opinion. No matter where you go, you can see the affectionate picture of the two people with ten fingers clasped.
In fact, putting aside the age gap, they are no different from normal couples, with the pleasure of mutual attraction and the trivialities and contradictions that are difficult to avoid in life.
After marriage, because the children were far away in the United States, the burden of taking care of Yang Zhenning fell on Weng Fan.
In the past, she loved to stay up late, surf the Internet, and love to eat junk food, but in order to match her husband's work and rest habits, she went to bed early and got up early, and also replaced junk food with green food...
Regular work and diet have made a significant improvement in her health.
Weng Fan used to wear light-colored clothes, but in order to look like Yang Zhenning, she would deliberately choose dark-colored clothes to make herself look dignified and generous.
This is especially true when having dinner with the Yang family, although there are more vicissitudes, but it enhances the coordination with the Yang family, does not make herself look too youthful and beautiful, and can also reveal her simple, plain and homely side.
Yang Zhenning also made a lot of changes for his wife, before at home, he had no entertainment, that is, reading and studying.
Now I will also learn the appearance of young people, watch books such as "The Da Vinci Code" and "The Secret History of Xiaozhuang" that Weng Fan likes to watch, and accompany Weng Fan to watch TV series or movies.
During the day, Yang Zhenning went to work, and Weng Fan revised his papers and studied recipes at home, and cooked a health soup for Yang Zhenning.
After the meal, the two of them went for a walk with ten fingers to consume food, chatting while walking. From the principles of physics to the poetry and song, the two always have endless topics to talk about.
On the weekend, the two like to drive a car, Yang Zhenning always likes to be a driver, but also likes to race in the open area, this kind of passion is no less than the passion of young people, let Weng Fan intoxicated.
The two also have a small game about tacit understanding, and every time they watch the exhibition, they will quietly write down the paintings they are most satisfied with.
At the end of the exhibition, the two exchange secrets, and miraculously, they choose the same painting almost every time.
On special holidays, they also write affectionate poems to each other.
When there is disagreement, the two never quarrel, but quote the scriptures, argue with each other, and reach an agreement, and their pleasant laughter echoes throughout the room.
Who says romance is exclusive to young people? As long as you love the right person, every moment is the beginning of romance.
Seeing that his daughter was so happy, Weng Father's heart also relaxed, and he knew that there would be another person to protect his daughter for him in the future.
The only thing that made Weng Fan's father worry was that Yang Zhenning was old, and illness accidents often occurred, and he was worried about his daughter while worrying about his son-in-law's health.
In 2010, 88-year-old Yang Zhenning suddenly had a high fever, was unconscious, and spent a long time in the intensive care unit.
During the period, Weng Fan was afraid that the nurse would not take good care of him, so he personally waited by Yang Zhenning's side, poured out the and peed, and fed and wiped himself.
In the end, Yang Zhenning recovered and was discharged from the hospital, while Weng Fan fell ill due to overwork.
In the past few years, Yang Zhenning has been hospitalized many times, and all of them are weng Fan's intimate care.
Especially during the epidemic period, the children are inconvenient to come and go, with the care of Weng Fan, Yang Zhenning is radiant every time he appears in public, and his health is better than before, and Yang Zhenning's children are much relieved.
Therefore, although Weng Fan is 15 years younger than Yang Zhenning's youngest child, they all have great trust and respect for Weng Fan.
Yang Zhenning also has great respect for Weng Fan's parents and often reminds Weng Fan to go home to visit his parents.
Privately, they do not refer to Weng Zhenning as Weng's son-in-law, Yang Zhenning calls Weng Yunguang "Mr. Weng", and Weng Yunguang also calls Yang Zhenning "Professor Yang", and they get along with each other like friends, kind and natural.
Weng Yunguang also changed his previous attitude and began to accept his daughter's choice: "She is willing to make sacrifices to take care of Professor Yang's later life, which is a virtue and an honor. ”
Some time ago, the media broke the details of Yang Zhenning's will: all the property was left to his sons, and Weng Fan finally got only the right to use a villa.
The outside world is full of discussion, laughing at Weng Fan's disappointed wishes.
Weng Fan's father also began to worry, although it had become a luxury for him to be an old grandfather holding his grandson, but he still hoped that his daughter would be guaranteed when she was old.
Weng Fan did not care about this, and she also advised her father:
"This is the result of our joint consultation, and the spiritual wealth he has brought me has been enough for me to enjoy for a lifetime." As for the future, I can support myself. ”
Indeed, in addition to taking care of Yang Zhenning over the years, Weng Fan never forgot to improve himself.
In 2011, she entered the School of Architecture of Tsinghua University to pursue a doctorate; she also studied French, tai chi, played the piano, and followed Yang Zhenning to participate in various academic exchanges and activities...
Once Weng Fan was distressed by his graduate thesis, Yang Zhenning waved a big hand, called out his old classmate and literary master Xu Yuanchong, and asked his old friend to help his wife study together.
Being able to communicate with the literary master made Weng Fan very happy, and the thesis was successfully completed.
She got the spiritual fulfillment she wanted, and she didn't care about the things she didn't care about in the first place.
Yang Zhenning's approach not only makes the outside world 'Weng Fan's attempt to make money' argument self-defeating", but also the best respect for Weng Fan.
As he grew older, Yang Zhenning publicly expressed more than once that he favored Weng Fan's remarriage after a hundred years.
Leaving aside men's possessiveness, being able to face the future so openly is also a gift from Yang Zhenning to Weng Fan.
Nowadays, looking back at the marriage of the two people, it is not as "made up" as people think, but the two have bloomed a dazzling light because of this marriage that spans age and worldly vision.
She had rejuvenated his life, he had enriched her soul, and everything was what they had envisioned, even better than they had imagined.
Looking at her daughter's comfortable appearance in the marriage and the quiet years, Weng Yunguang was finally able to say from the bottom of her heart: "I am most assured of my daughter's marriage." ”
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