#How to look at the education method of Gu Ailing's mother #Gu Ailing's mother, her education method, in general, is to respect the child's growth law and respect the law of family education. Family

#如何看待谷爱凌妈妈的教育方式 #

Gu Ailing's mother, in general, her education method is to respect the child's growth law and respect the law of family education.

The core of family education is companionship.

Companionship is divided into two parts, saying that it is two "parts" because it is a coexistence of intertwined, not separated.

The first is the companionship of time, that is, to find as much time as possible to accompany the child. Maybe some parents will say that they are really busy and really don't have time to spend with their children - wrong. The real time companionship is to let the child feel the loving presence of parents most often - not around can call, can not call can leave a message, can even write a letter... It's not a question of whether there is a method, it's a question of whether you want to or not, it's a question of frequency. Gu Ailing's mother has always accompanied the child, even if the child does not dare to watch it because of worry when he is playing, he always accompanies it.

The second is the accompaniment of the role, that is, to fix and change their roles.

Fixed, refers to parents to always remember that they will always be the child's backer, but also the child's last backer, this backer does not mean that the child does everything to support, but let the child always have a sense of belonging to the parents, the most simple way, when the child experiences pain, failure, you can find comfort, encouragement, support from the parents, at least you can find a hot meal, but not simply blame, reprimand, and should not be indifferent regardless of the question - this is the greatest harm to the child. Gu Ailing's mother, divorced, but took on the responsibility of the child's patron.

Transformation refers to the fact that at different stages of children's growth, parents should constantly change their roles: children are curious at an early age, parents should be omniscient and wise; children are first familiar with things, parents should be mentors for enlightenment and exploration; children are young and experienced, parents should be weak people who seek help in time; children discover themselves, parents should be actively promoted peers - all the way together. I believe that everyone can experience this through Gu Ailing's mother.

The core of companionship is to never be afraid of children making mistakes. Objectively speaking, every parent has made mistakes at the age of their children, and their parents must have instructed them at that time - the effect is not great. The real effect is that after the child has made a mistake, he does not intervene for the purpose of clarifying the responsibilities of the parents, but feels empathy with the child and silently waits for the child to figure out everything and dissolve it - this is growth.

The essence of companionship is to let children experience the experience that normal people should have, and in the experience, they will truly achieve what children should achieve - failure is the mother of success, and its significance lies in this.

Gu Ailing has encountered many failures, but her mother has been supporting her, not harshly criticizing or even giving up, so that she will have her current results.