Lin Dan and Xie Xingfang were once known as the "Condor Heroes of the Feather Altar", after a series of events, now, Xie Xingfang's eyes are indifferent when she looks at Lin Dan, and she feels that she is too lazy to look at Lin Dan and only cares about her son.
What really happened back then? Can't the two go back?
A good story from the feather world
Lin Dan and Xie Xingfang are known as the couple of "Yutan Condor Heroes", which makes countless people envious. The two worked side by side at the peak of their careers, sweating and fighting side by side on the field, supporting and relying on each other off the stage.
Lin Dan is known as "Super Dan" for his unparalleled badminton skills and extraordinary athletic talent, and Xie Xingfang has also stood on the podium of the world championship many times.
Recalling the meeting between the two, Lin Dan was just emerging at that time, and Xie Xingfang was already a top player in the field of badminton women's singles. Lin Dan fell in love with Xie Xingfang at first sight when he first joined the national feather team, and since then he has launched his bold and direct pursuit.
He does not hide his affection for her, and always takes every opportunity to get close to her, and even expresses his love in public. Xie Xingfang was not impressed with this boy who was two years younger than herself at first,
However, Lin Dan's enthusiasm and persistence touched her, and in the exchanges again and again, the relationship between the two gradually warmed up, and finally determined the relationship. Their love also has a glorious testimony on the court.
Every time Lin Dan wins a competition, he always shares the glory of that moment with Xie Xingfang. When the two won the championship, they were so excited that they kissed in public, allowing the media to capture this sweet moment.
Everything fell into place. In 2012, they finally had a grand wedding in Beijing. The wedding was unprecedented, and the invited guests not only included sports celebrities, business elites, but also many media reporters rushed to report on it.
The venue of the wedding was the venue of the badminton competition of the Beijing Olympic Games, which witnessed Lin Dan's Olympic gold medal and Xie Xingfang's silver medal.
The wedding invitation is designed in the style of an Olympic ticket, which is very distinctive. Lin Dan did put a lot of thought into Xie Xingfang's wedding.
In the first few years of marriage, their lives seemed to be peaceful, Lin Dan continued to fight the field, and Xie Xingfang gradually retreated into the background to focus on family life.
At that time, Xie Xingfang chose to fade out of the public eye and became the wife who was silently supported by Lin Dan, maintaining the daily chores of the family.
But no one expected that this once glorious love story would suddenly take a turn one day. It happened so quickly that it was more than expected.
She chose to forgive
November 2016 should have been Xie Xingfang's happiest moment. She had just welcomed their son in the hospital, a new life had arrived, and family life was supposed to enter a whole new phase.
However, fate dealt a heavy blow to her most vulnerable moments. Lin Dan's derailment scandal broke out, shocking the whole society.
At that time, all the news headlines and social media were feverishly reporting the incident, and the exposed video footage was clearly visible, Lin Dan intimately touching the woman's buttocks. The two are like lovers.
After the news spread, the public's sympathy quickly leaned towards Xie Xingfang, and many even publicly called for her to divorce decisively and leave the man who betrayed her.
Faced with her husband's betrayal, Xie Xingfang did not react immediately. In that painful and chaotic time, as a new mother, she was experiencing postpartum physical weakness and extreme mental trauma.
The discussion in the outside world was huge, and people's accusations against Lin Dan poured in like a tide, but Xie Xingfang's silence became the most incomprehensible place for everyone.
Why hasn't she spoken out publicly? Why didn't she choose to draw a line with Lin Dan and be a brave and independent woman?
A few days later, Xie Xingfang finally made a brief statement on social media. She did not announce her divorce as expected by the outside world, but chose to forgive Lin Dan.
In her statement, she mentioned that their families will face this difficult period together and support Lin Dan to re-examine herself.
Her words came as a surprise to many, and some even accused her of being weak and stupid. However, the reasons behind it are far more complex than meets the surface.
In this turmoil, Xie Xingfang chose to forgive, but this does not mean that she has become weak and powerless in this marriage.
On the contrary, she made a rational and difficult decision in an extremely painful situation. As a public figure, she knows that this crisis is not just a personal matter, but a major event involving the family's reputation and future.
If she chooses to divorce at that time, not only will she be hit, but Lin Dan's career will also fall into a greater trough, and their son will also become a victim of this storm of public opinion.
Behind this sanity, there is actually a deep sacrifice. Xie Xingfang's choice is actually to give the family the last glimmer of hope.
She hopes that Lin Dan can learn from the pain and truly grow into a good husband and father after experiencing this mistake.
Xie Xingfang's forgiveness is not to let herself fall into the quagmire of marriage, but to fight for the best living environment for her children in the most difficult moment.
After the derailment incident, Lin Dan also made positive changes. In the years that followed, he retired from badminton and returned to family life, working to repair his relationship with his wife and children.
Lin Dan grew into a more mature husband and father, and Xie Xingfang returned to her beloved career as a successful business woman.
There are only children in their eyes
Gradually, the marriage relationship between Xie Xingfang and Lin Dan underwent subtle changes. Couples who were once intimate now interact less and less in public, and even reveal obvious alienation and indifference.
Those sweet times that once belonged to them seem to have been erased by time, and now only the formal family maintenance remains.
And in these public occasions, more and more people found that Xie Xingfang's eyes no longer stayed on Lin Dan's body, but more on their children.
If the initial forgiveness was out of reason and responsibility to the family, then the current Xie Xingfang is more like living for the sake of the child.
Whenever she appears in front of the media cameras, she always unconsciously focuses on her son. Whether attending events or making public appearances, she has significantly more interaction with her son than with Lin Dan.
She hugged her son and communicated with him gently, her eyes full of love and warmth. And when Lin Dan stood beside her, her expression became cold and detached, as if she did not want to have too much contact with him.
Many times, in the photos taken by the media, she barely glanced at Lin Dan, and even the body language between the two was very blunt.
This kind of transformation makes the outside world wonder. People can't help but ask: why did Xie Xingfang become so indifferent?
Both former supporters and bystanders began to speculate that their relationship had long since died in name, and that the only bond that maintained the marriage seemed to be their children.
In fact, Xie Xingfang's indifference is not for nothing. After experiencing Lin Dan's betrayal and derailment, the trust between husband and wife has long been unable to return to its former appearance.
Although she chose to forgive, the deep hurt could not be completely erased. The original foundation of love has been cracked because of this derailment incident, and once this rift appears, it is difficult to repair.
With the passage of time, the feelings of both parties are constantly being consumed, and they gradually lose their original temperature.
However, for Xie Xingfang, there is another responsibility in this marriage that she cannot ignore - that is, their children. As a mother, she understands the importance of a complete family for her children.
It is for this reason that she did not choose to divorce quickly, but tried to give her children a relatively stable environment to grow up. She understands that although the relationship between husband and wife has become indifferent, children still need the companionship and support of their parents.
So, she chose to put all her attention and energy on her son, and tried to play the role of a responsible mother.
Xie Xingfang's transformation reflects her inner tenacity and calmness. She is no longer the little girl who can sacrifice everything for love, but a mature mother, a woman who works hard for the future of her children.
She knew that she didn't need to rely on Lin Dan anymore, and she didn't need to try to find the sweetness of the past from this marriage.
All she needs to do is to do her best to protect her son, so that he can feel his mother's love and care as he grows up.
At the same time, Lin Dan is also aware of this. As a father, Lin Dan also gradually let go of his expectations for the relationship between husband and wife and turned to devote more time and energy to family affairs.
He began to actively participate in the child's growth, accompanying his son to study and exercise, trying to make up for the missing family responsibilities.
Although they still maintain the name of husband and wife, what really maintains their relationship is no longer emotional, but their shared responsibility - children.
Xie Xingfang's eyes moved away from Lin Dan and instead focused on the child, which was not only her way to protect herself, but also the choice she made for the sake of the child.
Information sources:
Baidu Encyclopedia: Lin Dan, Xie Xingfang
People's Daily Online: Lin Dan admits to cheating and apologizes to his family, and his wife Xie Xingfang has just given birth to the crystallization of love
Beijing News: Lin Dan's business territory: There are ten affiliated enterprises, and his wife Xie Xingfang is an entrepreneurial teammate
Tencent Education: Xie Xingfang: Remember those difficult days When I was 8 years old, I went out on my own
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