Sometimes, strangers can give you some selfless kindness, but some relatives are so strange that people are speechless.
If you can try to do these three things well, you might be able to pull back a game.
The reality is that some so-called "relatives" are not even comparable to strangers.
Don't look at them with any family filters, otherwise you will always be hurt.
If you are unfortunate enough to be exposed to such selfish relatives, you must really learn to guard against it, and stop being soft-hearted and let yourself fall into the pit they set up again and again.
01
Stop losses in time.
Some relatives, to put it mildly, are actually a bottomless pit that always squeezes value out of you.
In reality, this kind of selfish relative is very difficult to change, and the interest on the money you lend out, not to mention the interest, whether you can recover the principal is a big problem.
Knowing this, you should know: it is the best choice for yourself to stop losses as soon as possible, draw a clear line with this kind of person, and no longer let yourself continue to be morally kidnapped.
Continuing to associate with them will only make you lose more and more and end up exhausted.
For those who don't usually have much contact with them and come to the door whenever something happens, really don't be soft on them.
They don't treat you like a real relative at all, they just treat you like an ATM.
People have to think about themselves, especially in middle age, there are too many responsibilities, don't let these unworthy people continue to drag you down.
02
Reject moral kidnapping.
To deal with those bad relatives, you have to set a stop-loss line for yourself, instead of blindly giving unconditionally.
Most people are often kidnapped by morality when it comes to relatives, and they feel that their relatives should help when they are in difficulty, but as a result, the more you give, the more uncomfortable you become, and in the end you can't even hear a sincere thank you.
Some relatives usually don't like each other with you, and they have quarreled several times, and they can't talk about any feelings at all.
But because of the label of "relative", many people have difficulty riding tigers, always thinking that they can't completely get rid of the relationship, so they continue to give money and continue to help, but they are very annoyed in their hearts.
To deal with this situation, you have to be a little cold-blooded in your heart.
If you jump out of the relationship of relatives, then the problem is actually very easy to solve: you can get along with it, and you can get along if you can't.
But once you are tied up by the so-called "family affection", you will fall into an endless cycle, and no matter how much you pay, you will not get a response.
For these people, it is the way to be responsible for oneself and not give them the opportunity to take advantage.
Don't suffer yourself because of the so-called kinship, these unworthy people don't need your repeated tolerance.
03
Not kidnapped by the family.
Many people analyze other people's problems so well that they are confused when it is their turn, especially when they encounter family affection, their brains are like a mess of paste, and they can't distinguish right from wrong.
Take the topics that are popular on the Internet every year, there are always some parents who always ask their children for no bottom line, let their children work hard, and when they are older, they don't have much savings, and they are all subsidized to their families.
This kind of moral kidnapping family affection sounds high-sounding, saying that "everyone is a relative, so we must take care of each other", in fact, it is to let one party give without limit, while the other party only enjoys.
Those children who pay are uncomfortable in their hearts, but they can't help it, just because they are soft-hearted and unwilling to disobey the so-called family affection. But the reality is very cruel, if the contribution in the family is unbalanced, you can only suffer yourself. This kind of family affection is just to absorb your blood and sweat under the guise of "relatives".
So, be detached and see clearly those family members who will only take but not reciprocate.
If the other party only knows what to get from you, but never wants to pay to you, then don't want such "family affection".
Otherwise, in the end, it will only be oneself that suffers, being consumed day after day, and even having no direction in one's own life.
Everyone understands the truth, but there is not much that can be done, and if you want to really live well, you must learn to refuse this kind of moral kidnapping and put your own interests in their rightful place.
Let my words come into your heart
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