These days are the overwhelming Gu Ailing, it can be said that the old and young eat, the family likes.
The children who watched the Winter Olympics loved this sunny, beautiful sister who won the gold medal as soon as she appeared;
The old mother likes this all-round development, proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and sports, and is positive and upward-looking good children;
The grandparents looked at this patriotic and excellent child with kind eyes.
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Gu Ailing's various experiences and behavior habits have become the object of people's imitation.
What a champion looks like in the eyes of the children:
The champion doesn't fold the quilt when he gets up, so I don't fold it;
Olympic champions have to sleep enough for 10 hours a day;
The Olympic champion's mother never forced her to study, and you should not force me.
What the old mother saw in her eyes was Gu Ailing's mother's educational concept of Gu Ailing, and she wanted to learn from this excellent champion mother and strive to cultivate her children to be as good as Gu Ailing.
See Gu Ailing's talents from childhood to college: skiing, horseback riding, rock climbing, snorkeling, long-distance running, tennis, basketball, piano, ballet...
In particular, Gu Ailing once went to Haidian Huangzhuang to study the Olympics, because her mother said that after 10 days of tuition, she studied in the United States for one year.
Gu Ailing was on the Olympiad, and the old mothers' hearts of the chicken babies that were gradually extinguished were ready to move again.
Baby still wants chickens, but how does the chicken know if he is the next Gu Ailing?
Of course, there are also Buddhist parents who have become Buddhas after seeing Gu Ailing's family background.
Dad Harvard, Mom Peking University + Stanford, Grandpa Stanford, Grandma Shanghai Jiaotong University.
Moreover, the family also has a very strong motor gene. Mom was a ski instructor, Grandpa was a soccer player, and Grandma was a basketball player.
This origin, this resume, how to compare, what to compare. In a word, human life, heaven is predestined, continue to be a Buddha!
Although it is said that from the experience of others, you can learn a lot of useful things, but ah, to educate children, refer to the experience of others is really not so important.
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First of all, let's talk about Gu Ailing's mother's education method of "love and freedom":
"You don't have to go to Stanford because I'm at Stanford, you just have to go to the school you love."
"Don't be a finisher, because it doesn't exist."
"It's more important to never give up learning for the rest of your life."
"You have to sleep 10 hours a day."
Gu Ailing can pursue love, can find her own shining point from a bunch of interests, not only because of her mother's love and freedom of education, her mother also paid a huge price for it.
Let's say gu ailing skiing, every weekend to the ski resort practice, one-way 4 hours drive, for more than ten consecutive years rain or shine. At this point, the persistence of Shanggu Ailing's mother can already beat 99% of the world's mothers.
After doing her best to work hard and hard, the mother can say to the child, don't be a perfect person, because there is no such thing;
You don't have to go to the school you love because I went to Stanford, because the child has seen enough love and she knows what she loves.
For us ordinary people, if we tell our children that you just need to go to the school you love, the child may smile at you and pick up the phone to find love in the king of pesticides and chicken.
Therefore, Gu Ailing's mother can give Gu Ailing enough love and freedom, because people have the confidence and the ability to lift.
Blindly following the trend and moving hard sets is handan toddler, dong shi gong, harm themselves, but also harm children.
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Speaking of genes, Gu Ailing's family is indeed very powerful.
She does have a lot of talent in her. But is Gu Ailing's success only because of genes? Apparently not.
Although her genes are strong, there must be more powerful than her parents' achievements and family strength.
Attributing Gu Ailing's successful completion to genes, it is obviously sorry for the whole family's efforts to cultivate her, as well as Gu Ailing's own efforts.
Gu Ailing practiced skiing, did not delay learning, she used the weekend time to practice skiing, the road back and forth 8 hours drive, she did homework in the car.
Coupled with the practice of the ski resort, the weekend rest day, it is more difficult than the study day.
As an ordinary person, there is no need to lie down completely because people are genetically strong and we are genetically ordinary, and we do not continue to work hard.
After all, people with strong genes work so hard, ordinary people don't work hard, and the northwest wind will not be enough to drink in the future.
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What can we learn from Gu Ailing's experience?
Children's growth is inseparable from three aspects: the environment in which they are located, innate genes and acquired efforts.
The most important thing about the environment is the family structure laid down by the original family, the fathers and grandparents for the children. This is the soil for children to grow. How much money there is, how big things to do.
Just like giving children make-up classes, extracurricular classes, rich people can be one-on-one, you can ask foreign teachers, ask famous teachers; those who are still well off can apply for small class classes, one-to-many;
Further down, you can apply for a large class, find free resources and free courseware, and if you don't have any resources, you can rely on your children's own efforts.
Innate genes, not to say that ordinary people's genes are not good, powerful people's genes are good.
Everyone has his uniqueness, some people are active, sports are good, some people are quiet, like to think and read, this is predestined.
As parents, what we have to do is not to compare children with others, you see if others can do it, why can't you. It doesn't make sense because genes are different.
Just like parents who are 1 meter 6 tall, compared with the height of Yao Ming's children, is this not to add to their own blockage?
The basis of acquired efforts is the environment and innate genes.
Know how many pounds you have, know what the situation of the child, in order to find the direction of the effort. What the child is good at, it is focused on cultivation, and the child is not good at it and may affect the subsequent development, so make up for the shortcomings.
This is meaningful education.
As for how others raise children, that is also the way people decide according to their own situation and children's characteristics, the foundation is different, and how much reference significance can it have?
Like + watch, may our children find the direction of love!