Why does a man start to dislike his wife after he turns 40

Yesterday, a female friend of mine confided in me very angrily.

"I didn't expect men to have a good thing!"

I was surprised and asked, "Why?" ”

She said: "My husband invited a whole bunch of men to dinner at our house yesterday, all of them his friends, men. ”

"Well, what's that?" I really didn't think there was anything to it, so I asked calmly.

My friend rolled her eyes, obviously after a night her anger did not dissipate much, I was even more puzzled, what is it that makes her so unhappy?

The friend said: "I sat alone on the couch after eating to watch TV, and several of them men sat at the table drinking and chatting, they didn't know that I was secretly listening to their conversation, it was okay not to listen, it almost made me angry!" ”

I was more curious and quickly asked, "Huh?" What did they talk about? ”

The friend said: "It's really funny, these men are eating and drinking, while pouring bitter water on each other, each man is saying how bad his own wife is, how sorry they are, one or two are talking and crying, crying is still very sad, as if he has been wronged by heaven!" Especially my man, who was crying with a man!' They all said that they made a lot of money later, and the first thing they did was divorce their wives. ”

I was stunned to hear it, and said: "I didn't expect the men to be so fierce, using the trick of crossing the river and demolishing the bridge, throwing away their wives when they found the money, and making it up if they didn't find the money?" ”

The friend itched his teeth with hatred, and his eyes were full of tears: "Yes, you said that these old men are 40 years old, where do they come from with confidence?" What's wrong with us women? What's wrong? Serving them at home is like waiting for the eldest son, raising children begins to be full of gray hair, doing housework and doing tired and paralyzed, what else do we want us to do? Still saying that we are sorry for them, actually, in the end, they actually said that they will kick us out of the door after finding big money, so what are we? ”

I froze and fell into thought: Is this more than a friend's concern? This is the worry of all middle-aged women. I can't help but think of myself, my husband is now 40 years old, if he also had a drink and dinner with this table man last night, would he also cry like them and say that he would kick me out when he made a lot of money in the future?

This is a crisis for all middle-aged women. It is said that marriage is a besieged city, people outside want to rush in, people inside want to rush out, people to middle age, slowly will find that the feelings of husband and wife are gradually fading, some no longer communicate, some sleep in separate beds, some sleep in separate rooms, and some even go to the point of divorce until the end, where is the sweetness at the beginning? What was the first heart when we were just together? Why do men start to dislike their wives after the age of 40?

My husband and I had a deep exchange on these issues.

I asked him, "What do you think will make you divorce me?" ”

He looked at me with a stunned look and a doubt.

I said, "Really, let's talk about it, you don't shy away from it, just tell me honestly, I won't be angry." ”

He thought for a moment and said, "To be honest, I really had a lot of thoughts of divorcing you. ”

I was shocked and hurried to ask what the reason was, and he also spoke the voice of most men, summarizing the following points.

1. Women don't pay attention to dressing up.

When women are old, they always think that the home is very stable, and their husbands will join hands with themselves to grow old, so women will no longer dress themselves as well as when they were young, their original figures have been out of shape, they are still dirty at home, they do not pay attention to the image when they go out, and they slowly become yellow-faced women. Although men do not say it on their lips, they will still be disgusted in their hearts.

1. Women's personalities change a lot.

When they first got married, women were gentle and virtuous, caring and considerate of their husbands, but after a long time of marriage, they began to become good conductors, grumpy, a little unhappy on the broken mouth, sometimes a mouth is also scolded with dirty words, the important thing is that they are also sensitive and suspicious, as long as the man looks at which young woman outside a little more, the wife will be suspicious, stage a crying, two troubles and three hanging tricks, making the whole family chicken dog restless, but also let the man lose face.

1. Women no longer listen attentively to their husbands.

As this friend of mine said, that night, her husband at the wine table to other men to accuse her of all kinds of wrongs, one of which is that he is too tired to run a long-distance bus outside, and often by the boss's anger, the pressure is very large, back home want to talk to her, the friend always said that his own digestion, lazy to reason, the man's heart of the pain has nowhere to tell, no one listens, so he is extremely disappointed in her, in fact, the man's heart is more fragile, outside the hurt or what angry, the heart is also very wronged, If you want to talk to someone, the first thing that comes to mind is definitely your wife, but the wife is not the one who is willing to listen, so their hearts slowly begin to separate.

1. Women no longer accompany their husbands.

Once, when I invited a friend and couple to dinner, a female friend actually asked me, "Did you invite him?" If you invite him, I will not come, and if you do not invite him, I will come. ”

I heard that there must be a conflict between the husband and wife, so I comforted her: "Don't be angry, you are not angry with yourself, you are angry with him, he must have forgotten it." ”

The friend said dismissively: "No anger, we have long been playing our own tricks, anyway, we can't play together, he likes to play cards, I like to walk, he plays his, I play, he doesn't take me, I don't take him, where there is him, there is no me, where there is me, there is no him." ”

Looking at my face incredulous, she immediately said: "Now there are many couples who play with each other, you don't believe it." ”

I really didn't believe it, so I asked my husband again, and my husband actually said that he also had such a friend, and the husband and wife played their own.

I think that in fact, men want women to go out with him to play, but women, always feel that their husbands are drinking outside, playing cards, and there is no common like to play things, so they are not willing to go out with men, women are not willing to accompany men out, men are very uncomfortable in their hearts, so it is inevitable to meet other women outside, which will further strengthen the rupture of the relationship between husband and wife.

Everyone's marriage has such and such problems, marriage is very difficult to deal with, so it is necessary for husband and wife to face together, humble each other, tolerate each other, in order to let each other not abandon and go long.