Recently, it is located in the Yanji community
Youth Growth Center - Shu House
Launched the "Troubles of Youth" series of interviews
Focus on "Adolescent Psychology,
Parent-child relationship" and other topics
Analyze confusion and share your thoughts
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The topic of today's interview is
"What should I do if my child thinks his mother is nagging?"
Student Shu Qing
During adolescence, parents always say, "Why do I say why don't you always believe me?" "Or maybe you keep asking something... In my opinion, this is "nagging".
Parents
I think this may be a common phenomenon in the family, the mother will be more wordy, may say something to the child repeatedly. In this case, she may not really be dissatisfied with the child, but may be expressing her own inner anxiety. I think that children don't have to take their mother's nagging so seriously, to understand that one day when their children become parents themselves, they will do the same.
Xiaoru Li is an associate professor at the Department of Psychology, Fudan University
Nagging and empathy and being good at communicating are often one thing. When everyone is calm and does not have too many conflicts of interest, when the other party talks a lot, they will feel, "How can this person be so good at communication"; when you find that the topic of communication is a topic that you do not want to listen to, the other party will become a mother-in-law and a nagging role in your eyes. Therefore, we can tell our children that at such times, they should try to interpret their mother's words and deeds in another way.
As you should all know, there are three major challenges to a person's self-growth: the first challenge is to accept that his parents are ordinary people; the second challenge is to accept that he is also an ordinary person; the most difficult is to accept his children or an ordinary person. Therefore, the child can think about it in reverse, from the perspective of the "old mother", accepting that you are an ordinary person, this level is the most difficult, because this level carries the parents' desire and longing for the continuation of life. Often the child is an ordinary person, and there may be a certain blow to the parents.
What is Shu House
Shuwu is the first community youth growth center in China that focuses on peer psychological support and care for the growth of adolescents, and is committed to improving the "trinity" education mechanism of school, family and society, paying attention to the growth and life of teenagers in the community, cultivating teenagers to establish a positive attitude, and creating a transitional space linking family and school, which belongs to the spiritual harbor of adolescents.
"ShuWu" strengthens the concept of "community community", and builds seven major spaces such as zero house, infinite space, bamboo dragonfly station, lollipop hall, Sanssouci Island, No. 18 tree house, and PIE according to local conditions, guiding young people to feel the meaning of life and enlighten a better future in the "micro world" of the community.
"Shuwu" takes middle and high school students as the main service objects, accompanied by professional psychologists, cultivates the emotional management and stress management ability of minors, focuses on improving the psychological resilience of minors in a stressful environment, and actively solves the troubles and troubles of parent-child relationship in adolescence.
The worrier around the teenager
Psychological counselors around parents
"Troubles of Youth" series of interviews
It will be launched online one after another
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Text: Ge Xiaoling Jin Yiping
Video: Lu Danfeng Song Xiaoxiao
Editor: Wu Baixin
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