I don't know when men seem to be defined as the embodiment of strength, they can't cry, they can't show their vulnerable side, and they always have to live like invincible fighters, singing all the way.
I would like to ask, who can do this, even if it is an iron machine, there will be occasional strikes, not to mention ordinary people who are still mortal with naked eyes, and men will also have physical and mental fatigue, and they do not know where to run to confusion and vulnerability.
It's just that they don't show it easily, even if you are his closest lover, you have never seen the vulnerable side. Of course, unless he really can't hold on, or is really tired, he will reveal it to his wife in an imperceptible way.
I once heard a friend regret that her husband, who has always been very scrappy, has always said something tired of him intentionally or unintentionally. At that time, she was also busy, and did not go to her heart, thinking that her husband wanted to be lazy.
Therefore, she asked her husband to hurry up and go to rest, but she did not know that in the middle of the night, she heard her husband talk nonsense, and she who had always had a light sleep quality, felt the abnormality and immediately got up, found that her husband's body was particularly hot, and called out that he had no response.
Seeing this situation, she immediately called her friend over and sent her husband to the doctor with her. Fortunately, timely treatment is a life. Since then, she has stopped turning a deaf ear to her husband's words, and has almost made an unforgivable mistake.
In fact, husband and wife get along for a long time, it will become indifferent, especially when the husband says "I am tired", many wives will think that it is an excuse for the husband to be lazy, but they do not know that it is a distress signal sent by the body.
When the husband says "I'm tired", the wife who is really emotionally intelligent often does this:
1. Give him a hug and say something encouraging
Men are generally particularly strong, especially after starting a family, he has become the head of the family, and he has to run for the happy life of the whole family. Even if sometimes, the effect is very small, or even frequently hit the wall, but it does not hinder his enterprising heart.
For men, when faced with difficulties, they will choose to face them head-on, rather than withdraw, but sometimes, it is not you who persist and work hard to get what you want. Reality often has a lot of opposites, which makes people feel tired.
At this time, they will feel isolated and helpless, surrounded by people who have to rely on themselves, and they have no one to rely on, you can imagine how strong the feeling of helplessness in their hearts will be.
This is a negative energy that will erode a person's fighting spirit, and after a long time of confrontation, the man will tentatively ask his wife for help, and he will say "I am tired" in a relaxed tone.
If you are busy at this time and overhear such a sentence, be sure to put down your work, give him a hug, and then ask the reason for the tiredness. Many times, men will be reluctant to reveal their hearts, just want the encouragement of their wives.
A truly emotionally intelligent wife will not hesitate to praise her own words of praise and make a meticulous praise for the advantages of her husband. Don't underestimate this series of moves, it will make men rekindle their fighting spirit and have full energy to fight life.
2. Confirm the physical condition and seek medical treatment in time if necessary
The man who is the head of the family does not dare to fall down easily. Just years of hard work, the body will inevitably have many problems. When the husband says that he is tired, please pay attention to it, confirm the physical condition, and seek medical treatment in time if necessary.
We all know that after becoming a family, we know that chai rice oil and salt are expensive, the family's expenses are huge, in order to save money, even if the body sends a signal for help, it will still choose to delay, and hope that it can survive.
So, they chose to compete with the body in the lowest cost way. At this time, the wife who is really emotionally intelligent will not be distressed about money, but will convince her husband that if people are not healthy, what is the use of asking for more money.
Men may still be unmoved, thinking that this is a small problem, there is no need to seek medical treatment, after all, they know that as long as they go to the hospital, there is no big hundreds of pieces that cannot be lowered.
Men understand the truth that the body is more important than money, but in the face of survival, they still choose money and are paranoid and stubborn. A truly emotionally intelligent wife will continue to persuade rather than choose to give up.
Because they know that a small illness will become a major illness after a long time, and if the small money does not come out, it will cost a lot of money, even if it is nothing, it is good to go to see it. In any case, they will try their best to convince their husbands, after all, as the head of the family, he cannot fall.
When men realize their importance and see their wives' persistence, they choose to follow advice.
3, guide him, don't put too much pressure, everything is still you
When the husband said that he was tired, after ruling out the health problems of the body, it was psychological sleepiness. You know, as the head of the family, the man has to bear a lot of invisible pressure.
Many times, we are fans of the authorities, when physically and mentally sleepy, it is difficult to get out of this misty forest, is in urgent need of a person to guide, lead him out of the predicament.
Although men are inherently strong and can cope with the pressures in life, even so, there will be times when they cannot resist. As the head of the family, in addition to earning money to support the family, men also have to assume different roles in the family.
First of all, he is the husband of his wife, the father of the children, and the son of his parents, and this triple identity determines that he will not be less responsible for his shoulders. A good marriage is not one person carrying everything, but a husband and wife holding up a piece of the sky together.
The wife who is truly emotionally intelligent will be considerate of her husband's hardships, understand his difficulties, and will patiently guide him, don't put too much pressure on him, and she will do everything. Although it is only a few words of relief, it will feel happy for a husband who is deeply tired.
Because he saw that his wife, who could be relied on, was no longer a lone warrior, someone who understood his vulnerability, understood his difficulties, and was willing to fight with him.
Such a high emotional intelligence wife, ask who does not cherish and love. Even if he has a thousand pounds on his body, he will feel that it is okay to be tired and tired, because he knows that the future days will only get better and better.
4. Take the time to go to your two-person world
Couples after marriage, almost no longer have romantic thoughts, have gone to the world of two. Because their time has long been occupied by work and life, they can only have more than enough for romance and lack of strength.
When the husband says that he is tired, the wife who is really emotionally intelligent will choose to put down the work in her hand, arrange the time, go to your two-person world, and let each other temporarily withdraw from the busy and trivial life.
Although many couples are reluctant to do so, one is that they clearly know that romance needs money to support it, and instead of spending money on a romance of wind and snow, it is better to eat a meal with the family.
Reason tells us to live at the lowest cost, but it is still very necessary to occasionally go to the world of two people who belong only to each other, because its significance is very great, and in the relationship between husband and wife, it can be described as beneficial and harmless.
Why would a truly emotionally intelligent wife be willing to do this? Don't they know that romance costs money, in fact, they know better than anyone, but they just want the relationship between husband and wife to last forever, and will not become cold because of the washing of the years.
They have a scale in their hearts that they can weigh up the weight of their lives. When the husband says that he is tired, they will value the man in front of them and use their own way and ability to let him recover quickly.
In addition, they also know that the marriage in this life is not easy to come by, if you want the tree of affection to be evergreen and undefeated, you have to give it nourishment from time to time, and the world between husband and wife is the best nourishment.