Homeschooling has no clue? Appropriately increasing the "sense of ceremony" may have unexpected gains
The mainland is a large country with a long history, known as the "state of etiquette", Ancient Chinese books record a lot of sentences about etiquette, down to three-year-old children, as large as the elderly, have corresponding etiquette. In the "Three Character Classic", there are "long and young order, friends and friends", and the line of the "Disciple Rules" also mentions that "parents call, should not slow down, parents order, do not be lazy." "All show the ancient people's etiquette education for young children, set a standard of behavior model for children from an early age, and enable children to establish a correct family and moral concept in a subtle way."
Historical evolution to today, we have never given up the traditional virtues of the motherland, in the education of children, we often establish a key node of the "sense of ceremony", so that children in special activities to understand the new stage of life into. It's like the opening ceremony of each semester, the flag-raising ceremony held every week, or the oath of joining the Young Pioneers, and so on.
In schools, holding these ceremonies allows students to psychologically establish an emphasis on time nodes, the opening ceremony allows children to realize that the new semester is coming, and to welcome school life with a more lofty attitude; flag-raising ceremonies, oath-taking ceremonies, etc. allow children to recognize the transformation of their political identity, which can enhance national self-confidence and sense of identity.
In addition to school time, the most important time for children is spent at home, and parents have also established many family rituals for children, so that children can form good memories with their families, enhance family intimacy, and improve children's sense of responsibility for family life.
Parents can use a variety of family rituals to seize potential opportunities to develop good moral values among their children. There are the following aspects that can be paid more attention to.
First, it is necessary to strengthen the educational nature of family rituals.
Family moral education will be interspersed in all aspects of family life, and can subtly guide children in a positive way. For example, the importance of traditional festivals can be emphasized. "Twenty-four, sweeping the house" is a traditional custom of the mainland Spring Festival, through such a special cleaning ceremony, can cultivate children's sense of hygiene, cultivate the virtue of children's diligence; in the Qingming season for the deceased relatives to sacrifice sweeping, you can train children to attach importance to traditional family concepts, miss relatives, grateful for the contribution of relatives to the family; for example, the story of the Dragon Boat Festival contains Qu Yuan's feelings of home and country that can be sung and wept, and can cultivate children's patriotic feelings.
In addition to traditional festivals, children can also be aware of different etiquette education in the daily rituals of family life. For example, on the child's birthday, let the child learn to be grateful for the mother's efforts; hold an adult ceremony when the child is an adult, so that the children can build the courage to face the society, understand their responsibilities and responsibilities, and so on.
China's education has always lacked education on expressing love, facing death, etc., through the daily contact of the family, so that children have the courage to express their affection for their families, through funeral ceremonies to let children correctly face the limitations of life and so on.
Second, we must pay attention to the subjectivity of moral education.
In mainland family education, there is a general situation in which children's participation is not high, and many parents feel that their children are still young and do not need to participate in family affairs, but only need to follow the instructions of adults. In fact, this will greatly reduce the child's sense of participation in family life, and it is difficult to truly integrate into the family in such a family life.
Modern moral education should give children greater subjectivity and autonomy, let them dare to express and dare to express, let them understand that they are also the "little masters" in the family, and enhance the sense of on-site participation in moral education. For example, at home banquets, let children be helpers, feel the hardships of their families while enjoying food, and let children participate in family cleaning, Spring Festival pasting and other activities to jointly maintain a harmonious atmosphere of the family.
All in all, it is to let children gain a sense of ownership of the family in their own practice, and internalize moral education in the heart and externalize it.
Third, it is necessary to enhance the diversity of moral education.
The sense of innovation can also be fully applied to family moral education to create more innovative family rituals.
For example, usually volunteer activities are organized by the community, schools, and families passively participate, and in family education, volunteer activities can be actively organized, so that children can contribute to society within the scope of their ability and cultivate children's sense of dedication; or the whole family watches movies with ideological connotations, such as learning to accept their own "Spiritual Journey" and other excellent movies, after watching the movie, communicate with children, and use movies to complete moral education; or take children to travel more and see more in their spare time. Enhance children's national self-confidence and vision.
You can also use the cultural resources of the city to regularly experience the latest technology with your children in the science and technology museum, review the history of the city in the museum, commemorate the revolutionary martyrs in the martyrs' cemetery, etc., enrich the children's spiritual world, and establish a more complete world outlook and outlook on life.