In the child's growth environment, there are always parents who have headaches: children love to beat people, grab things, and how to discipline is useless.
Whether it is in the playground, square or early education center, as long as it is a place where children gather, parents must stare at this "little bully" with good eyes.
If you can't see it at a glance, you may cry to others, and even more will bite other children. The feeling of being pointed out by other parents is really distressing.
Children go to kindergarten and kindergarten, always complained by other parents, and it is even more common to be asked by teachers to parents, but they do not know how to improve the problem of children hitting people.
And there is a category of parents who are even more miserable, their children are always robbed of toys, bullied, and are very easy to get hurt.
In the environment where children gather, it is easy to be pushed and bumped by others, and when going to kindergarten or kindergarten, they are often scratched or bitten.
Angry parents always find teachers to complain, but they don't know whether it is yin and yang or bad luck, and it is their own children who are injured every time. Parents are angry and helpless, why am I always hurt?
Whether it is the hitting party or the hitting party, I think the parents of both sides will be sad and distressed. We don't want our children to bully others, but we also want our children to protect themselves from being bullied.
How to face conflict is an important lesson in children's growing environment, and it is also an educational skill that parents must master.
Conflict between children is a growth process that every child will experience, and the resolution strategy in the face of conflict is an important embodiment of children's social communication skills.
When young babies of a few months are put together, we will find that they are interested in each other, and they will express their desire and interest in socializing by touching and patting.
This expression sometimes has no intention of crying other little babies because of poor control of strength. At this time, parents, if they do not correctly understand their children's social intentions, are prone to overreacting, and even label the word "typing".
Originally wanted to express like but was misunderstood as a hit, but it is easy to stimulate the baby's interest in the word hit.
When children grow up and gradually find that beating people can attract the attention of others and can vent their dissatisfaction, they will form a social interaction habit of "beating people".
Sometimes, parents excessively say "no hitting", "can't fight", "don't fight", or are too harsh on the baby, forcing the baby to apologize and other behaviors, but the behavior of "beating" has been negatively reinforced. Babies hitting people is getting worse and worse.
Sometimes, in order to prevent children from hitting people, parents use the way of hitting children, trying to let the baby experience the feeling of being beaten, but ignoring the children in the imitation period, often establishing the thinking logic of "I don't obey, parents beat me, children don't obey, I hit children", which makes the beating more frequent.
In children's social activities, conflict is very normal, but as a parent, how to guide children to face conflict is the core wisdom of education.
Children who beat people have their own thinking logic, and only by using scientific methods to divert children's attention interest in hitting people and breaking the instinctive reaction of conditioned reflexes can they effectively alleviate the phenomenon of children hitting people.
Similarly, children who have been beaten and bullied, what we need to do as parents is to find the root of the problem, is the upper limb strength not enough? Or is the visual response too slow? Or is the family upbringing too harsh? Or is it caused by introverted withdrawal?
Find the child's instinctive response to conflict, and help the child establish a good social interaction method and model, so that the child can truly learn to get along with others.