What is it like to have a two-year-old baby at home?
As a parent who has experienced it, the fungus tells you four words - to cry without tears.
Babies at this age will change their cute image, get out of your control, and refuse your instructions.
If you don't go along with it, you will also use earth-shaking crying to destroy your mood, destroy your patience, and make you on the verge of collapse every minute.
In the midst of it, the painting style is like this——
Still adapting to express shock
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After getting used to it, the battle begins
Defeated on the verge of collapse
Having collapsed and begun to reflect on himself
There are also those who are exhausted and hang on to their lives by will
It hurts for a second.
Their repeated reference to "terrible two-year-old" is a special term to describe the difficulty of two-year-old children, translated from the English "Terrible Two".
The website of the American Academy of Pediatrics describes Terrible Two this way:
The third year of a child's life, known as Terrible Two, is often a challenging year for parents.
Children in this age group show more physical activity, greater mood swings, frequent tantrums, harsh behaviors, and testing the bottom line of all adults.
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Terrible Two
The reason for the occurrence
In psychology, terrible two, known as the "first rebellion period", does not refer specifically to two years old, between the ages of 1 and a half and 3 years old can occur.
And the reason for its emergence is the same as the rebellion of adolescence - the child has grown up.
◆ The body is strong
After two years of growth, the baby has changed from a small ball of meat that can only cry to a small person who can walk and grasp skillfully.
With the support of "strong" bodies, they began to look at adults, to go where adults can go, to do what adults can do.
So they will ask the elevator to press itself, the stairs to go up by themselves, to open the door with the key to the door, to get off the bus by themselves...
And this desire is strong, if you don't do it, you have to start again - the elevator is pressed again, the stairs are reopened, the doors are closed and reopened, but the bus has already left...
Then, there is only crying.
◆ Self-awareness sprouts
Before the age of one, babies are extremely dependent on their mothers for their lives, and they are unable to distinguish between themselves and their mothers. But when these little guys walk and run, everything is different.
They gradually break away from their mother's embrace and slowly realize that "I" am an independent individual and different from other people.
Disobedience is the most direct way to express "we are not the same".
So, don't be surprised when your obedient little cutie suddenly starts saying no to you, it's the baby announcing his "Declaration of Independence" to you.
◆ The sensitive period of order is coming
By the age of two, many babies will become terrible "Virgos."
Meals should be eaten in a specific order, toys should be placed in a fixed position, and their own things should not be touched by others... It was as if everything had some strange order.
In fact, children are born with "Virgo genes", and the development of things according to a certain order will make the baby feel safe.
This pursuit of order is most obvious at the age of 2 to 4 years old, which we call the "sensitive period of order", also known as the "sensitive period of stubbornness".
From the two words "stubborn", it can be seen that the requirements of the baby at this stage for order are quite harsh.
If order is disrupted, they become anxious and even react violently.
◆ Social attributes are perfected... Not really
Two-year-old babies develop self-awareness but can't yet understand how other people feel in the same situation, so they act a little selfish.
What he looks at is all his, to share? inexistent.
They also do not control their emotions, or even vent their emotions, grievances, anxiety, anger and other negative emotions have only one way to express - crying.
No way, this skill they will be born out of the womb.
Therefore, the various "resistances" of two-year-old babies are not because they do, they are the inevitable result of growth.
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It can only be "tortured" by the baby
Helpless?
Nor is it.
Two years old is the child's first period of resistance, but it is also the first golden period of shaping the child, as long as it is reasonably guided, not only can the parents suffer less, the child can also gain something.
◆ Understand and respect children
Understanding and respect are the tools to resolve all disputes, even if the subject is a child.
Two-year-old babies are very stubborn, and parents can try to understand his ideas from the baby's point of view.
If there is no danger or harm to the child's antagonistic behavior, there is no need to force the child to obey him.
For example, you want your child to wear red shoes, but he prefers to wear green shoes, although you think green shoes are ugly, but what is the so-called, you do not need to force your child to dress up in line with your aesthetics.
One more respect is one less quarrel, and long live understanding.
◆ Give your baby limited autonomy
If your baby wants to be respected, don't order them and try to give your baby an idea.
If you don't want your baby's choice to disagree with you, you can remove the inappropriate option in advance and let him choose within a limited range.
You don't want him to wear green shoes, so put it away and put the white shoes and red shoes that you think look good for him to choose, so that you can accept whichever he chooses.
Many children, even if a few plans are not what he originally wanted, but he likes the feeling of making his own ideas and decisions, so he accepts it, and because it is their own choice, the implementation will be much smoother.
◆ Encourage your child to do it themselves
Independence is a valuable quality, want to do things on their own is a manifestation of self-confidence, under the premise of safety, parents should support their children.
Especially the choices made by the baby themselves, they should be encouraged to do it themselves, and they should choose green shoes to wear themselves.
In this way, the child has more opportunities to realize his ideas, gain a sense of accomplishment, and also let him learn to take responsibility for his own choices.
◆ Make rules with your baby
Of course, it is not right to blindly accommodate children.
In addition to the dangerous things to be resolutely stopped, parents can also work with their babies to make rules about their daily schedules and how to deal with certain things.
Babies in the sensitive period of order do things with great importance to rules.
Rules made by others are rejected by the child as dissidents, but once he participates in the making of the rules, he feels that the rules are sacred and will try to keep them.
Rules must be followed to be enforced. While asking children, adults must also follow the rules, otherwise the consequences will be counterproductive.
Although the bacteria have said so much, there must still be many babies who can't figure it out, after all, this is a terrible two-year-old, and their personality is to challenge your bottom line 100%.
According to the experience of bacteria, at this time, parents should learn to let go of themselves, do not ask too much of their children, and do not ask too much of themselves.
Don't break down in an argument with your child, what's the use of getting angry? You can't stuff him back either.
Ten thousand steps back, why bother with a two-year-old child, let him make trouble, the next time he breaks into trouble you will pretend not to know him...
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