All the things we have to do are for one purpose, that is, to clearly tell children: crying is never a bargaining chip!
First of all, when the child is crying, don't hit him don't hit him don't hit him!
Children crying in public will make many adults feel humiliated, and then stop children from crying by hitting children.
This is very wrong behavior. This kind of behavior will make the child afraid of the parents, lose self-esteem, fear the crowd, and the parent-child relationship becomes cold, serious, and may affect a lifetime. All his life, he did not dare to stand in the crowd and express his opinion.
I've seen many parents, when their children cry, shout out loud, "You are crying here!" I'm leaving! "After saying that, he pretended to leave, leaving the child in the back to hiss and crack his lungs." This behavior is even more wrong.
Never threaten your child by leaving!
This point is still used after the child grows up, do not say to the child", "You do not take the first place in the exam, the mother will not want you", "if you do not marry again, the mother will die" and a series of words, the damage caused by these words can never be repaired, the child will feel that you do not love me.
What exactly to do?
When the child cries, parents should pay close attention to the child's movements. But no compromise.
Calm treatment, but only cold attitude. Act with care for the child. For a child, he can't listen to too much truth, especially when he is crying, at this time, reasoning will not work. Calming emotions is the first priority.
You can tell him, "If you want to cry, cry for a while." Mom can be with you. "When the child behaves well, or when you stop crying, you should praise the child at the right time." A little bit of correction of the crying thing.
When the child completely stops crying, start to reason again, tell the child what is unreasonable in his appeal, and make it clear again: the crying just now will not achieve any of his purposes.
In short, do not form a relationship in which children and their parents threaten each other, respect, equality, and love.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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