Spring Festival, don't let your children be "hurt" by comparison

Spring Festival is coming, at the gathering of relatives and friends, children, is a topic that can never be finished. Parents like to talk about their children and make vertical and horizontal comparisons. Whether it is praise or criticism, children seem to have become "social tools" that parents use to break up the cold and show off. Their favorite thing to do is to let the children receive red envelopes, perform programs or compare themselves with each other. I don't know that these behaviors hurt the child's heart.

Comparison is a common disease of Chinese parents, and in this era of "fighting babies" that everyone is anxious about, the Spring Festival party is a "gladiatorial arena" that cannot be compared. Especially at the time of the Spring Festival party, children are the best topic for parents to talk about. As everyone knows, this blind comparison will cause certain psychological problems to children.

1. Hurt self-esteem and make children have negative emotions

When friends and family get together, they will inevitably talk about their children, but when it comes down, there is only one theme: children's learning. "How many points did your child get on the final exam?" "How many levels of piano have you taken?" "What interest classes did your child attend?" After some discussion, the children with excellent grades were praised by everyone, and the parents were honored to win the competition. And the parents of those children with average grades, in this atmosphere, unconsciously compare their children's shortcomings and mistakes with the advantages and shining points of other children: "Your children are really worry-free! "How hard your children work to fight for you"... They will even take advantage of this to "educate" their children. And the child sitting silently next to him, hanging his head in frustration, whenever he hears that he is compared with "other people's children" by his parents, he will have a feeling of being denied by his parents, which will seriously frustrate his self-esteem, and when it is serious, he will also have negative emotions, which will have a negative impact on the long-term development of the child.

2. Do not respect children exposing their privacy

Those parents who like to compare their children in the New Year, the original intention may be just to simply show off, but the score is the privacy of the child, if the parents take it out at will to compare, no matter how good or bad the grades will make the child feel nervous, resulting in a serious psychological burden.

The New Year should be lively and happy, and parents should understand and respect their children from their perspective. Childhood is long, so long that those good memories are slowing down; childhood is also very short, so short that children will remember every unpleasant moment.

Therefore, parents should not let their children become your "social tools", inadvertently hurt their children, and leave them with the shadow of the New Year.