"Ice Moments" is essentially about love, children's love for hockey, and how parents can support their children's love with their great love.
▲ The documentary movie "Ice Moment" has been released on January 7, and the family behind the hockey teenager resonates. Video/Beijing News
Text | Yu Li
The documentary "Ice Moment", which is currently being released, is not only a gift film for the Beijing Winter Olympics, telling the promotion of ice hockey in China, but also a documentary focusing on parent-child relationship and family education, giving us a glimpse of the changes and changes in China's parent-child relationship and family education.
From 2018 to 2020, director Liu Hanxiang spent three years and made a lot of "stupid work" to follow the lives of three children in Beijing who are learning ice hockey. The children were all born in 2009, and when the documentary started filming, they were 9 years old, but they had been learning hockey for four or five years.
Unlike other sports, ice hockey is a sport that relies heavily on parents. Because the ice hockey is very confrontational, the conflict is quite fierce, and the equipment of the children on the ice is more complicated, and they must be dressed neatly and have safety protection in place to play, otherwise it is easy to be injured. Children of several years old have a hard time completing their equipment and wearing it alone and need the help of their parents.
This means that ice hockey is very demanding on the company of parents. In particular, if the child wants to go abroad to participate in training, or to study at a professional hockey school abroad, then one of the parents is also needed to accompany him.
▲ Yu Lifan and his father in "Ice Moment".
The three families focused on "Ice Moments" spared no effort to support their children's ice ideals.
For example, No. 95 Qu Ruichen, his mother drove him to and from the ice rink and various study classes every day, and moved home three times for his study of "MengMu Three Moves".
No. 66 Yu Lifan, who is working in the business, is very busy at work, but he still spends a lot of time with Yu Lifan in training, patiently reviewing every game for Yu Lifan.
No. 97 Zhai Zinan, his mother simply quit his high-paying lawyer job and accompanied him to study at an ice hockey school in Canada...
Every family faces a different choice: whether to stay at home or study abroad? Dad or Mom, is there a person who wants to be with you full-time? Does the child see hockey as a hobby, or as the main direction of the future?
Different families have different choices, the only thing that is the same is that parents are cautious and walking on thin ice when faced with the choice of their children's life crossroads, because they care incomparably.
▲ On the issue of whether the child needs to go abroad and whether to embark on the road of professional players, Qu Ruichen's parents have different opinions.
This is the unchanging side of the parent-child relationship in China: parents support their children's dreams, pay their hearts and lungs, and go all out. In the context of globalization, the contemporary "Three Migrations of Mengmu" may be to accompany foreign students. However, the close emotional connection between the Chinese people and the family, and the chinese people's attachment to the family, has never changed.
Some changes are happening at the same time. In the past, sports were more "top-down", children learned a certain sports, with a strong utilitarianism, basically in order to take a career path to choose sports.
But the three families in "Ice Moments" are "bottom-up," and the three children choose hockey first because they are gifted and interested. Ice hockey itself is also a sport that can improve children's physical fitness and enhance children's collective consciousness, whether as a profession or an interest, it is of great help to children's growth.
Therefore, although parents cannot avoid the will to hope for Jackie Chan, there is no mandatory requirement that their children must take the road of ice hockey. If the child chooses for himself, the family will go all out to support the child to complete the dream.
▲ Zhai Zinan's mother accompanied him to Canada to live and study.
This is the changing side of Chinese education: love is no longer teleological, nor is it only utilitarianism, but more self-pleasure, self-transcendence and self-realization.
The purpose of education changes, and so does the relationship between parents and children. There is harshness, but more is the desire to sharpen the child's personality; there is an argument, but still respect the child's choice; will be confused, but still strong to go down with the child...
Therefore, the father and son climbing the mountain at the end of the documentary, the mother and son skating, this daily warm moment, is so moving.
Just like yu Lifan's father in the documentary, he shouted encouragement to Lifan, "Son, wave the pole." And "Ice Moment" itself is the help of parents' love for their children, "children, wave your love up".
Whether or not the three children ultimately aspire to ice hockey, it is certain that the journey of their parents to chase their love is precious and cannot be copied.
Contributing Writer | Yu Li (Media Person)
Edit | Ding Hui
Intern | Wei Yingzi
Proofreading | Zhao Lin