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Early in the morning, my friend asked me to read Weibo, and the three words "Liu Xuezhou" were at the top of the hot search list.
To tell the truth, I don't know who this person really is, and then I searched for him on Weibo, and his last Weibo " Was born light, and it was also time to be pure" I spent almost an hour reading, which is Weibo, this is clearly a suicide note.
Before there was Lu Dawson's despair, after there was Liu Xuezhou's tragedy.
Born light
Who is Liu Xuezhou?
A 10-year-old family seeker in Xingtai, Hebei Province.
When he was 3 months old, he was adopted by his biological parents to a trafficker for only 6,000 yuan.
When he was 4 years old, his adoptive parents were killed in an accident at a firecracker workshop, and he was later raised by his adoptive parents.
During elementary school, he was bullied by the school and molested by male teachers.
At the age of 15, he learned that he was born to non-biological parents, and at the age of 17, he embarked on a journey to find relatives, and the search for relatives was successful in about half a month.
Less than a month later, he was abandoned again, his biological father called him a "white-eyed wolf", and his birth mother blocked his WeChat.
Subsequently, he complained about his experience on the Internet, which resulted in a flood of insults and accusations.
, Die soon, Why don't you die yet?
About ten days later, Liu Xuezhou committed suicide by taking medicine at the seaside.
A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.
A teenage child, experiencing pain that countless adults cannot face, his departure is tragic and determined.
The lightness of fate and the coldness of the human world are the indelible shadows in this child's heart.
People who have no love since childhood, people all over the world will bully you
Some time ago, Lu Dawson's "suicide note" on Weibo also mentioned that he was often bullied in school when he was a child.
These children with problems in the early years of the family seem to have experienced "school bullying" to varying degrees, and earlier CCTV had a questionnaire survey showing that 25% of the children who were bullied by the school were divorced families, 14% of the parents of the students took stick education, and 18% of the parents of the students never talked to their children.
In the past, I knew that there was a heartfelt question: "What happened to the children who were bullied in school?" ”
The following is filled with countless cries of children who have been bullied in schools, most of whom said:
What hurts them the most is actually the repeated incomprehension and neglect of their parents.
Especially when children pluck up the courage to ask their parents for help, the words given by their parents sound "full of indifference".
And Liu Xuezhou did not have parents to "stand out" for him during his schooling, do you say that he can not be vulnerable in the group?
It is also funny to say that the weaker a person's ego is, the easier it is to attract unfriendly people.
Therefore, it is not surprising that people who have not loved since childhood will be slaughtered by others when they grow up.
Bullied by classmates when they were young, and violently abused by netizens when they grew up, those who stormed the Internet believed that they were morally high-minded and stood on the moral high ground to criticize the way a child who was abandoned from childhood got love.
From the perspective of psychology, the reason why you can stand on the moral high ground to criticize others is not because your morality is really noble, because you grew up under the sun, you don't know what Liu Xuezhou experienced, and the person who can kiss others with deep affection must have been kissed deeply in his early years.
Therefore, people who have not loved since childhood have been looking for love all their lives in pain, and the subconscious of many people who lack love is often unwilling to reject others even if they stay in a bad relationship, and they often need to please others without support, but flattery will not really please love, often it is to hurt, thus confirming in the subconscious that they are not worthy of being loved.
This reminds me of "The Life of the Rejected Pine Nuts"
From an early age, he lacked the care of his family and suffered from various injustices in life.
She loved life, even though it had never been friendly to her.
She was so innocent that she could not tell anyone what had happened to her and arouse sympathy.
She craves the love she deserves, even if it is humble to the dust.
But throughout her life, she didn't get the love she wanted.
"I'm sorry to be human".
This is Matsuko's summary of her own life before her death.
This sentence is very similar to the eight words that Liu Xuezhou left to the world - "Born to be light, but also pure at the same time."
Jin Xiaoyu, who was loved, liu Xuezhou, who had lost love
A few days ago, people in the psychological circle forwarded an article titled "Hangzhou Man Calls from a Funeral Home: Can You Write About Our Genius Son"
The fate of the child in this story, Jin Xiaoyu, is also turbulent, as a child, he was blinded in one eye due to an accident, and later suffered from bipolar disorder for unknown reasons.
But Jin Xiaoyu's luck lies in the fact that he is deeply loved by his parents, even if his son is mentally insane, his parents have never had the idea of giving up on him for even a second, on the contrary, in the absence of anyone around Jin Xiaoyu, his parents have become his last standouts.
In the end, Jin Xiaoyu found his hobby and career (translation) through opportunities, became a genius in people's eyes, and after the death of his mother, he said that he would continue to follow the path of translation, which is the strength of life.
But Liu Xuezhou was not so lucky, although he was healthy, but he lived such a wronged life that he eventually embarked on the road of no return. His bad fortune was the lack of love for his home.
When he finally left, he had a lot of despair and hatred for the world.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: "There is no parent in the whole world who does not love their children" is the No. 1 among the countless lies in the world.
Psychology always talks about the "original family", because this is the most helpless fate of people, and our birth is impossible to choose, which is both a bit fatalistic and a little tragic.
How important parents are to their children, Weibo has a picture that is very touching. This picture is in the words of actor Gao Yalin:
"Parents are a wall between us and death."
In the words of the poet Hannoch Levine:
"Mom, you are the last interval between me and death."
If you ask me what is loyalty? That is probably the child's love for his parents, no matter how many times you discard me, I will continue to follow you, even if I die.
Lu Dawson is like this, and so is Liu Xuezhou.
See more "Liu Xuezhou"
Remember watching "This Killer Is Not Too Cold" The little girl once asked the killer: "Is life only so difficult when I was a child, or has it always been so difficult?" ”
The killer replied "Never so".
Yes, life is full of hardships.
But the truth is that the future life of a child who is very bitter from an early age will only be more difficult.
Studies have found that children who experience bullying, abandonment, and emotional neglect from an early age have their brain development processes changed forever.
Occurs more easily in adulthood:
1. Choose high-risk behaviors, such as addiction, impulsivity, extremes...
2, the mood is more negative;
3. Suffering from endocrine diseases or heart disease.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong believes that if there is really a shortcut to life, it is to be loved by parents with healthy personalities.
Because such a child will be more likely to form a healthy personality, and a healthy personality is one of the indispensable conditions for people to achieve happiness.
I believe that Liu Xuezhou's heart is full of resentment, and I hope that he can use legal weapons to fight back against those who hurt him, but his hatred and aggression are all directed at himself, and even use death to let more people see the resentment in his heart.
I am not here to hope that people will start to use the same resentment to abuse their parents and Internet rioters, but I hope that these once irresponsible people can give Liu Xuezhou an account or even pay a corresponding price, so that his grievances can be rested.
I would prefer that this kind of tragedy be less, that every life that comes into this world should not suffer such a cruel fate, and that if it is a natural disaster, we have nothing to say, but it is precisely such a disaster that makes people sad and indignant.
Finally, if he leaves, people will discuss "the world is not worth it" on Weibo.
But if such an event occurs, we can only see that "the human world is not worth it".
That really becomes "the world is not worth it."