Once I went to a relative's house to play, just stepped into his doorway, saw the hall, the room within reach of the eyes, full of toys, and the relative's child, a 4-year-old boy, was playing with the card in the study, and the car was scattered throughout the study.
When my 5-year-old daughter saw this, she couldn't help but say, "The toys are really messy." When the relatives and grandmother heard it, they had to smile bitterly and shake their heads, "Every day it is sorted out, but it is still so messy, it is up to him." ”
In fact, the phenomenon of relatives children littering toys is particularly common, the reason why children throw around, a very important reason is that there are too many toys, do not know how to cherish, can not play, but more importantly, children do not know how to sort out induction, and parents do not guide children to develop a sense of love to sort out and summarize, or do not pay attention to training children to sort out and summarize, after all, adults themselves tidy up, to finish things, than to guide children to sort out is much easier.
However, the collation of physical objects is like the collation of thinking, and the daily training of children to organize and organize physical objects is actually a visualization of thinking collation. In daily life, the choice of items is similar to the priority of distinguishing things, and the order of placing items is also training children to decide the order of doing things, from these aspects, daily training children to organize and organize, in fact, cultivate children's reasonable arrangement of things.
Many parents complain that after their children go to school, they always lose everything and delay in doing homework, just imagine how such a child's grades may be very good. In fact, the child's behavior is also related to the fact that he has not developed the habit of distinguishing priorities and thinking in an organized way since he was a child.
And a child who is not good at his own personal affairs and personal learning, it is difficult to imagine that he will be very popular in the class and school, which shows that the general class cadres are those children who are more planned and organized. Excellence is actually a habit, whether a person is excellent when he is a child basically determines how far the child can go in the future.
Therefore, if your child also has a bad problem of littering with toys, books or other things, please do not ignore it, be sure to pay attention to it, and begin to guide your child to develop a good habit of loving induction and sorting.
So, how to cultivate children's habit of loving to sort out and summarize in daily life? In fact, the process can be very simple, not too deep and complex, can start from the following two aspects:
First, a small backpack, cultivate children's good habits of love to tidy up
For children who have kindergarten, using his small school bag every day is a good tool for cultivating children's love of sorting out and summarizing.
Before going to bed at night, parents can guide their children to organize their own small school bags, prepare the things they need to go to school the next day, or check and sort out, such as books, water cups, and stationery boxes that need to be used for school the next day, and let the children check themselves every day. In addition, there are some daily necessities, such as sweat towels, water glasses or other items, etc., which can also be checked by the child himself.
For preschool children, it is also recommended that parents can buy their children a private backpack of their own, and guide them to prepare and pack the daily necessities they need to go out from a young age, such as water cups, snacks, spare clothes, toys, sweat towels, mosquito repellent supplies, sun hats, etc., you can cultivate the good habit of exercising children's storage and sorting.
Parents with conditions can also train their children to use stick figures on their own, draw a list of going out, let the children clean up according to the list before going out every day, and then check and fill in the gaps, so that children can develop the good habit of doing things in an orderly manner.
Second, set a time every week to guide children to store and organize regularly
In order to let children develop good habits of loving tidying up, parents can set a time every week to take their children to regularly store and organize their toys, bookcases, school bags and personal belongings. For example, Friday night 8:00-8:30 to store toys, Saturday night 8:00-9:00 storage closet and bookcase.
Of course, in order to let children pack and organize their belongings, so that children's thinking can be better trained, we can follow the following 5 simple steps to teach children to learn to organize.
1. Remove
"Zeroing and Reorganization". This is easy to understand, that is, to take everything out before putting it away.
Whether it is sorting out books, toys, or wardrobes, before rearranging, you need to take all the toys with your child, take them out, and then sort them out.
2. Classification
After pouring things out, you need to guide your child to sort them. Before reclassifying, you can first guide your child to think about the following questions:
*Which ones are not suitable?
*What is not needed?
*What's not to like?
*Which ones have not been used in the past year?
After thinking clearly about these questions, you can give away or discard or seal the toys that the child does not need or the toys that are not suitable or disliked from the general direction.
After solving the above problems, it is only with the child to reorganize the needs and likes that are still applicable. Classification involves discarding. Many parents are reluctant to throw it away.
Do not be reluctant to discard or give away, because according to research, children do not need more than 5 kinds of toys at a time, otherwise it is not conducive to children to develop their own concentration, serious thinking and development of toys of various ways to play, if so, the existence of toys for children, also lost meaning, and even more harmful than beneficial.
3. Reduce the burden
Although it is not necessary to live a minimalist life, life does need to "reduce the burden", after all, every time there is a period of time, there will be some "waste" For children, the same is true, often tidying up, helps to keep life clean and orderly, but also a process of thinking about the trade-offs of life.
Every period of time, after guiding children to separate the toys that children do not like, do not need, or are not suitable for playing, they carry out "burden reduction", discard those who cannot be used, and give the people who can use them to the children who need them, on the one hand, to encourage children to learn to "summarize and classify" thinking, on the other hand, they can also let children learn to share.
4. Storage
After the burden reduction is completed, it is to guide the child to classify and return to the position. There are two beneficial ideas for storage:
*Classified storage
Classified storage, very easy to understand, you can buy or take your child to make some boxes or boxes for storage in advance, and guide children to put things in different boxes or baskets.
* Make things stand up
If we look carefully, we know that bookcases and wardrobes, wardrobes are more likely to be messed up, and need to be sorted out more times. Why? Because according to our general method of tidying, most of the wardrobe things are stacked on top of each other.
The disadvantage of stacking is that when we take the top thing, the bottom thing will be messed up.
Therefore, when taking children to tidy up, we can also follow this idea, "let things stand up", this idea is not only conducive to saving space, but also conducive to daily tidyness and reduce the number of sorting.
5. Markup
After adults take things every day, they will remember to put them back and put them back in place.
But the child is different, he will not have this habit at the beginning, need to train and re-store with the child, do not forget to take pictures of the record, you can even print it out, put the picture in the picture frame on the desktop, convenient to guide the child to check the position of the items after storage at any time.
If you do it more carefully, you can also write label paper with your child, and then paste it on each storage basket, in fact, paste a signature slip at home every day, and then often take your child to read it, which is a good way to guide children to read. Don't underestimate this, if you need to write dozens of small sticky notes, then children can recognize dozens of words, for preschool children, label recognition can also be considered.
In fact, these 5 steps can also lead children to draw stick figures together, draw the process, and exercise the child's ability to draw or draw a hand account.
Summary: Thinking directs action, the child's daily behavior will affect the child's brain and intellectual development, affect the child's thinking habits, and habits affect the character, and the character determines the fate. Therefore, please cultivate the habit of children from an early age to love to sort out and summarize, so that children's thinking is more organized, more planned and clearer, and the future is better and goes further.
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