"Gently I go, just as I come gently, waving my sleeves without taking away a cloud."
Xu Zhimo left a strong mark in the modern literary world with a song "Farewell to Kangqiao", and also became the best spokesperson for romance in the hearts of many literary and artistic young people.
In addition to his literature and poetry, many people are particularly concerned about the emotional entanglement between him and other cultural celebrities of the Republic of China, especially the lingering love story between him and Lin Huiyin and Lu Xiaoman.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman lost his dependence and lived a very difficult life, even to the point where he had to write to a friend for help to barely survive, but then another man appeared next to her, that is, Weng Duanwu, and the mysterious relationship between the two also triggered various speculations.
Later, Lu Xiaoman died, and her nephew wrote to Xu Zhimo's son, that is, Lu Xiaoman's stepson, hoping to let them be buried together, but the stepson replied with three reasons, leaving the stepmother without a place to bury.
What is the entanglement?
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo
The love story between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman is also called a strange story in the Republic of China period, when the relationship between the two was opposed by many people and despised by many people.
At first, Lu Xiaoman married Wang Geng under the arrangement of her family, but because the relationship between the two was not deep, and Wang Geng had been busy with work to snub Lu Xiaoman, she often accompanied Xu Zhimo and spent a lot of time together.
In such a day-to-day relationship, the two sparked a spark of love, at that time Xu Zhimo had already obeyed his parents' arrangement to marry his wife and had children, but even so, the two still came together.
Later, the two people divorced the original match, and Lu Xiaoman even did not hesitate to beat up the child with Wang Geng, and entered the palace of marriage with Xu Zhimo without hesitation.
When the two got married, Xu's father and family were very dissatisfied with this marriage that was very absurd in their eyes, so they did not have a good face for Lu Xiaoman.
Although the outside world is full of negative voices, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, newly married Yan'er, are immersed in happiness and happiness, and their feelings are constantly heating up.
Because Lu Xiaoman's body fell ill during the abortion, So Xu Zhimo has been taking her to visit famous doctors, the two met Weng Duanwu in the process, and formed a deep friendship, often get together to chat and sing, Weng Duanwu often stayed overnight in the home of the two.
Lu Xiaoman and Weng Duanwu
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo came together desperately, but after the two married, there was still a lot of friction and unhappiness, of which the most concerned was the relationship between Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin, which made them frequent contradictions.
In 1931, Xu Zhimo flew to Beiping to attend Lin Huiyin's lecture, and before leaving, he had some quarrels with Lu Xiaoman, but he still asked Towong Dragon Boat Tow to take care of his wife more before leaving.
What no one expected was that the departure of that time turned out to be a farewell, Xu Zhimo's plane crashed in the middle of the way, and he also died because of it, after the news reached Lu Xiaoman's ears, she was devastated for a while and fainted on the spot.
After Lu Xiaoman woke up, he had been clamoring to personally pick up her husband's body and go home, but her physical condition did not allow it, and the Xu family also refused her request in grief and anger, and sent Xu Zhimo's son Xu Jikai to Shandong.
Xu Jikai has always been very dissatisfied with Lu Xiaoman's stepmother, and after hearing about his father's death, he also blamed this incident on Lu Xiaoman's head, and his attitude towards her became even worse.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman did not have the heart to defend himself anymore, and his heart was full of grief, like a walking dead, and he did not think about tea and dinner every day, silently shedding tears.
Seeing that Lu Xiaoman's state was so bad, Weng Duanwu, as a good friend, could not help but worry about her, and he always accompanied her, afraid that she would do something stupid.
There is nowhere to live
Since then, Weng Duanwu has been staying at Lu Xiaoman's house, and his wife and children in the family have often failed to take care of it, which has also triggered discussion from the outside world, and rumors about the relationship between him and Lu Xiaoman have also been rampant.
Although Xu's father had always been reluctant to admit that Lu Xiaoman was the daughter-in-law of the Xu family, after hearing about the scandal between Weng and Lu, he was still angry and sent a letter to Lu Xiaoman to warn her that if she continued to communicate with Weng Duanwu, he would cut off her living allowance.
After seeing the letter, Weng Duanwu became even more angry, moved directly to Lu Xiaoman's house, and took full responsibility for Lu Xiaoman's daily life and took meticulous care of her.
Lu Xiaoman calmly accepted Weng Duanwu's kindness to her, but the relationship between the two was indeed very innocent, and she had never acted excessively, and she only regarded Weng Duanwu as her best friend, and her heart was full of gratitude to him.
Later, Lu Xiaoman died, and Weng Duanwu also set up a spiritual hall for her to worship in her home.
After Lu Xiaoman's death, Weng Duanwu and some of her relatives handled the aftermath for her, and her cousin wrote a letter to her stepson Xu Jikai, hoping to make Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo buried together.
But Xu Jikai ruthlessly listed three reasons to refuse in his reply, and the words were full of dissatisfaction with Lu Xiaoman, the stepmother.
He believes that his grandfather never recognized Lu Xiaoman as a daughter-in-law, Xu Zhimo often quarreled with Lu Xiaoman before his death, the feelings between the two gradually faded, and Lu Xiaoman and Weng Duanwu were unclear for many years, so based on these three points, he did not agree to let Lu Xiaoman be buried with his father.
In the end, Lu Xiaoman's ashes could only be stored in the funeral home because there was no place to bury them, and he didn't even know where he went later.
brief summary:
Chinese since ancient times, it has paid attention to the return of fallen leaves to the roots and entered the soil for safety, but Lu Xiaoman finally had no place to bury, which is really regrettable.
In 1988, Lu Xiaoman's nephew and niece together built a monument to the aunt in Suzhou to express their mourning and respect and remembrance of the elder.
Lu Xiaoman's life also experienced many ups and downs and heartaches, and in his later years, he was even more reclusive, completely immersed in grief and thoughts, but in the end he was not buried with his beloved.
The emotional entanglement between her and Xu Zhimo and Weng Duanwu, outsiders are always unable to understand and appreciate the details in detail, and can only rely on speculation and imagination to create some talented and beautiful people, and the emotional entanglement of wind and snow.