Stepmother is a folk custom of stepmother, stepmother or stepmother, etc., since ancient times people say that "the stepmother is difficult to be", and it is indeed a real situation. The stepmother and the children of the husband's ex-wife are not related by blood, and it is difficult for each other to accept each other if they say that they are heavy and light. So in ancient times, did you have a good stepmother who was admired, and shared the small story in the "Compilation of Taishang Induction Articles" together.
Non-equal treatment is still not accepted
During the Zhou Dynasty, there was a loving mother in the State of Wei, the daughter of Meng Yang and the step-wife of Mang, who herself had three sons. Mangku's ex-wife left five sons, none of whom liked the stepmother, and even though the stepmother was generous to them, they still didn't like her. The stepmother then ordered her three sons not to enjoy the same treatment as the five sons of Mangji's ex-wife, whether they were dressed, fed, or living. Even so, the five sons of Mang's ex-wife still did not like her.
Do not violate "kindness" and "righteousness"
Soon, the third son of Mang's ex-wife violated the orders of the King of Wei and was sentenced to death according to law. The stepmother was sad and sad about this, and ran to rescue him in the morning and evening. Someone said to her, "These sons don't like you, so why do you have to work so hard to rescue and be so miserable?" The stepmother said, "Even if my biological child doesn't like me, I will find a way to save him from disaster and punishment." Now if I don't try my best to rescue the sons of my ex-wife in the face of disaster, what is the difference between that and the fact that they don't have a mother? Their father was afraid that they would be orphaned, so he married me as a stepmother. The stepmother is also a human mother, and if she does not love her children, can she be called 'loving'? Can loving only one's own children and neglecting one's ex-wife's children be called 'righteous'? If you are unkind and unrighteous, why should you be based on the world? Although they don't like me, how dare I forget righteousness? ”
Therefore, the stepmother went to lobby the King of Wei, who admired her act of kindness and righteousness, and forgave the sins of the third son of His ex-wife and let him return home. Since then, the five sons of Mang's ex-wife have treated their stepmother like their own mother, and the family has been harmonious. All eight sons received the etiquette of their stepmother, and they all later became doctors, secretaries, or scholars of the State of Wei.
Emphasis on morality and ethics
It can be seen that the stepmother of the ancients changed the views and intentions of the five sons of his ex-wife, and sincerely regarded her as her own mother and obeyed her teachings, relying on "kindness" and "righteousness". "Kindness" and "righteousness" belong to the moral and ethical categories in traditional Chinese culture, and it is only by influencing people with morality that people are satisfied and convinced.
In today's society, traditional culture has become more and more unknown, morality and ethics are becoming more and more weak, more emphasis on money and interests, in the handling of mother-son, mother-daughter relationship will not start from "kindness" and "righteousness", and even less patient, deformed concept, false, evil, fighting interpersonal relations, resulting in family problems emerge in an endless stream, not only stepmother, how about the relationship between the biological mother and the child?