There is an old saying in China to sum up the impact of divorced families on children:
With a stepmother there is a stepfather.
This sentence is vividly displayed in the bodies of Tu Honggang and Tu Ruibao, the father and son.
After Tu Ruibao got the acceptance letter from the university
The first time to choose to share this joy with my father,
"Dad, I've been accepted to an American university!"
Tu Honggang's words did not have the happiness he imagined:
"You are also aware of my current family situation and economic situation.
Tuition fees in the United States are much more expensive than in China, and Dad can't afford this money.
Or you can quit school and go back to college in China. ”
Father's words were like a basin of cold water poured on Tu Ruibao's head,
Extinguished his last illusion of his father's love:
"Do you know how much effort I put into getting into this university?
Your fluttering dropout denied so much of my hard work,
I will not drop out of school and return home, and I will find a way to solve the tuition fee myself. ”
Then Tu Honggang was revealed to send his stepson to study abroad and buy a luxury car for his stepson.
The plot of the same father's life is staged in the lives of the two sons.
Tu Honggang was born in 1967 in a literary and artistic family.
His mother was a famous singer on the mainland, Hu Yansheng.
When he was a child, Tu Honggang's results were not good.
Is a famous poor student in the class,
He himself did not focus on studying.
Although not a block of learning material,
But Tu Honggang is very talented in singing.
His mother simply asked him to seriously study the art of singing,
After a long period of professional study and the careful guidance of my mother,
Tu Honggang was successfully admitted to the Peking Opera performance major of Chinese opera.
When he was first admitted to the Chinese opera, he kept in mind his mother's teachings,
Practice opera carefully every day.
Until 1978,
Popular music that exploded in Hong Kong and Taiwan spread to the mainland,
At this time, Tu Honggang sighed after listening to Teresa Teng's song,
Opera is the path that my mother has arranged for herself,
He prefers and is more suitable for singing pop music.
In this way, Tu Hong just began to hum with Teresa Teng's song every day,
His musical talent is very high, coupled with so many years of experience in learning music,
Self-taught pop music also learned a lot.
Tu Hong just started to just cover other people's songs,
After a long time, I can't help but feel bored,
He explored pop music in greater depth,
Compose and compose his own music for performances at school.
Tu Hong just graduated from school in 1985.
He was arranged by his mother to work in the railway literary troupe and performed everywhere with the troupe.
Tu Honggang met his first relationship while performing with the troupe.
At that time, he was still a small role.
While performing in the United States, I inadvertently glanced into the audience,
I was attracted to a girl,
This girl is Tu Honggang's first wife, Daisy.
Daisy is a Mixed-Race Chinese-American child, and her appearance is very noble and exquisite,
At this moment, Tu Honggang fell in love with her.
Tu Honggang's way of chasing Daisy is very cheesy,
Keep giving her gifts.
But at that time, he was just a young man who had just graduated.
Income can only feed and warm yourself,
Tu Honggang borrowed money to buy gifts to make Daisy happy.
Na Ying said on an interview program
Once lent Tu Honggang 30,000 yuan to buy a car to chase a foreign girl,
It took several years to pay it back.
It didn't take long for Tu Honggang's warm shells to impress Daisy,
Couples in love are the easiest to get on,
Two people don't think too much about the future before they get a marriage license.
Getting married is not a simple thing,
When Daisy was pregnant, Tu Honggang planned to return to China to develop.
Busy with his career, he didn't have the energy to take care of Daisy.
Even her son Tu Ruibao was born 13 days after he went to visit her mother.
For a long time, this life of not seeing Tu Honggang made Daisy intolerable,
Divorce is filed on the grounds that there are differences between Chinese and Western cultures, and the personalities of the husband and wife are incompatible,
Tu Ruibao was also sentenced to Tu Honggang.
Tu Honggang himself was only in his twenties,
Playing with a heavy heart, he handed Tu Ruibao over to his mother to raise,
Ignoring his son's life and study,
Play the role of a stranger who gives living expenses.
Hu Yansheng loved this grandson very much,
I have been taking good care of and educating him,
Although Tu Ruibao's childhood was missing from fatherly and maternal love,
But the love of his grandparents built a warm childhood for him.
After the divorce, Tu Honggang did not have the shackles of the family, and he played more elegantly.
Soon he met Fang Shu, who was ten years older than himself.
Attracted by Fang Shu's mature charm, he was trapped in it and could not extricate himself.
At this time, Fang Shu was married and living happily,
Tu Honggang was not dissuaded by this situation and pursued Fang Shu even more wildly.
Fang Shu was touched by his affection and resolutely divorced her husband.
Although Fang Shu did not do a very moral job to her ex-husband,
But she is very responsible for Tu Honggang's family.
Treating Tu Ruibao as if he were his own son,
Gave him the maternal love that he lacked in childhood,
Tu Ruibao later affectionately called her Fang Shu's mother in an interview.
Even if Fang Shu did his best to take care of Tu Honggang's family,
Nor could it change his prodigal nature.
In this marriage, Fang Shu and Daisy had the same experience,
The one who bore him a daughter could not tie him up.
In 2002, Fang Shu was disappointed and chose to divorce Tu Honggang.
What is not as impressive is that
Not long after the divorce, Tu Honggang quickly began his third marriage,
At this time, the marriage object was Yue Yue, the little assistant beside him.
At this time, Tu Honggang was already forty years old,
He realized the importance of family to him,
Yue Yue was probably the only one among the three women he really treated.
When he divorced Fang Shu, Tu Honggang chose to leave the house because of guilt.
Yue Yue did not abandon his poverty and whiteness,
He also gave his savings to Tu Honggang to let him start over.
These actions made by Yue Yue deeply touched Tu Honggang,
He was very fond of Yue Yue and his stepson Zhang Zixi.
So when I was a child, when Tu Ruibao and Zhang Zixi had any contradictions,
Tu Honggang does not want to figure out who made the mistake.
Instead, he blindly demanded that Tu Ruibao apologize.
What is even more incomprehensible is that there was once two small children playing skateboarding in the community.
Anyone familiar with skateboarding understands that this activity can easily hurt.
The two skates did not touch carefully,
Tu Ruibao was not injured,
Zhang Zixi only scratched the skin and there was no big problem.
In Tu Honggang's case, this thing is not right,
In a very strong tone, he demanded that Tu Ruibao apologize to Zhang Zixi.
Tu Ruibao thought to himself: He didn't do anything wrong, why apologize to his brother.
Just when the two sides are deadlocked,
Tu Hong was strong but gave Tu Ruibao a slap,
Tu Ruibao, who was slapped by this slap, was very aggrieved and immediately ran outside.
He was not in a hurry to find his son, but was concerned about his stepson.
In such a family,
Tu Honggang's unfair behavior has caused a lot of harm to his son,
There is also a reason why Tu Ruibao and Tu Honggang are not close.
The most excessive thing is the incident in the opening story where Tu Honggang asked his son to withdraw from school.
In the years when Tu Ruibao was studying in the United States,
He didn't ask Tu Honggang for a penny.
Tuition and living expenses are earned part-time.
In the case of heavy schooling,
Tu Ruibao did several part-time jobs to earn his living expenses and tuition fees.
Even if the learning conditions are so difficult,
Tu Ruibao still receives scholarships every year.
On the other hand, Zhang Zixi, Tu Honggang provided him with good reading conditions,
Compared with Tu Ruibao's experience of needing to work part-time to earn tuition fees, Zhang Zixi has lived a very happy life.
Tu Honggang not only offered to send him to school abroad,
Also gave him plenty of living expenses,
It can be seen on Zhang Zixi's social platform,
The most common photos are taken with all kinds of beautiful women sitting in luxury cars.
It can be seen that the study abroad life of the two brothers has been sharply contrasted.
After Tu Ruibao had a hard time providing for himself to finish college,
He faced difficulties in starting a business.
There is not enough capital for start-ups,
It was rumored on the Internet that Tu Ruibao had inquired about the lending business of 200,000 yuan.
But the rumor was quickly denied by him in an interview.
In an interview, he said that the 200,000 was consulted for a friend's entrepreneurship.
He also said that his father sent himself to the United States temporarily
The last thing that led to his not being able to see his grandmother was a regret he couldn't let go.
When the reporter asked him what he thought of his father sending Zhang Zixi to study abroad,
Tu Ruibao's maturity makes people feel painful,
Especially the last emotional answer which child does not eat some vinegar?
Let many viewers in front of the screen directly cry out for the heartache of this sensible big boy.
Although he did not receive the father's love,
But the warmth that his grandparents and Fang Shu's mother gave him
It will let him continue to walk with warm positive energy.
And now Tu Honggang often takes Zhang Zixi in and out of major high-level places,
Also introduced him to friends in the entertainment industry,
Obviously, it is to help the stepson build connections to pave the way for future development.
Zhang Zixi was raised by her stepfather as a rich second generation,
There are indeed some characteristics of the rich second generation,
Travel is often accompanied by all kinds of Internet celebrity beauties.
The differential treatment of the two sons has made netizens a little angry,
Although Tu Honggang said that he should treat his two sons equally,
But his actual actions did not reflect it.
I hope that Tu Ruibao can have a happy family in the future,
To make up for the suffering I have experienced for so many years.