Getting along with each other is a wonderful journey, starting with intimacy and ending with mutual hatred. In love or friendship, men often become more and more ruthless and indifferent, while women gradually become dependent. This phenomenon may be unavoidable, but we can make each other more respectful, tolerant and understanding in the process of getting along. At all times, we should try our best to maintain a relationship so that it lasts and is fulfilling.
Ximei also often mentioned in previous articles that men are mostly doing subtraction in love, while women are often doing addition in love.
It is undeniable that women seem to be more emotionally focused and always yearn for a more stable and perfect relationship or marriage.
When it comes to managing a good relationship, women often need to be more mindful. Unfortunately, many women make mistakes in choosing their approach, causing their relationships to go against the grain.
In fact, if a woman wants a man to continue to be in love with her, she should learn how to use cold handling techniques.
This means that we need to master keeping a certain distance from men, also known as the "hedgehog effect", to ensure our own safety and respect.
In a relationship, women must learn to take the initiative and keep an appropriate distance from men in order to create just the right amount of emotion.
Women and men are like two hedgehogs huddling together for warmth, they need to keep exploring to find the right distance, leave space for each other, and comfort and trust each other.
In this process, the man may retreat early, but the woman should learn to seize the initiative, control the relationship skillfully and perfectly, reduce the harm when the two parties come into contact, and let him gradually rely on you in a safe place and become your crush.
In the TV series "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Zhen Huan is a model who handles the sense of distance very well.
"The harem is forbidden to interfere in politics" is a wise saying that has been circulated in the long history. Even if the emperor expects the concubine to give advice for the country, the concubine is only willing to taste poetry with the emperor and never touch the political red line. This is a rule that they must abide by, and they must not be crossed.
This also made her closer to the emperor, and there was no mutual suspicion or temptation.
Another meaning of cold treatment is that in a relationship, women cannot give infinitely, and must take appropriately to maintain balance and make the relationship last.
Many people believe that the deeper the love for a person, the more it takes to give. While this holds true most of the time, it can sometimes lead to emotional imbalances that end in tragedy.
Men are often inscrutable, and if you just show a good temper and are obedient to him, he may end up resenting you and thinking that you lack autonomy and attractiveness.
This is a strange phenomenon: what a person easily gets, he often does not know how to cherish, and what is not easy to get will always stir in his heart.
If you want a man to be obsessed with you all the time, you need to learn to treat him like a friend, understand his personality deeply, and also show his dissatisfaction at the right time, so that he can take the initiative to coax you and feel that you are not the only one.
In short, when a man thinks you can't live without him, he may leave you. You should understand that if you keep a man nervous, he will always value you.
The third important point in "cold treatment" is not to be completely centered on others, to establish your own space in your own small world, and to maintain a certain sense of mystery.
It is impossible for people to be completely intimate with each other. If you focus on Him and completely abandon yourself, it is inevitable that you will lose Him. We should cherish each other's independent personalities and build a strong relationship based on mutual support. Not only is this relationship healthier, but it also allows us to grow more with each other.
Sometimes, a man doesn't necessarily need to be overly concerned, especially in public, and he wants to keep his face even more. If you push him over and over again, he will become impatient and may come home later. Therefore, letting go at the right time and letting him be independent may be more able to stimulate his heroic nature.
In this case, you need to learn how to act tactfully. There are several times when you don't need to have any phone conversations.
At first, he may feel very comfortable, but finally there is no one to restrain him. But over time, he may spontaneously come back early without you having to rush anymore.
Of course, all this is based on the premise that he never considered being separated from you.
When he is not doing well, the next time you just have to call him at a specific time to remind him to go home. Leave the living room lamp on, as if looking forward to his return. This kind of love is tantamount to a deep affection, so that he can feel your attention and warmth.
If you can give him some face and his own space outside, even if it's a small thing, he will rely on you even more.
In marriage or relationships, we need to learn to adjust the position of the other person in our minds, value the presence of TA, but also not forget to leave our own personal space. This is important because we need time and space to take care of our own little life, but also to give each other some freedom. In this way, we will be able to maintain a balanced and healthy relationship.
When he is too busy to pay attention to you, you should also find yourself busy. Use this time to explore your interests and hobbies, make progress silently, and give him a new self.
Your charm speaks for itself, and you are more charming and lovely than the person who never leaves you for a moment.
Finally, cold treatment does not mean completely ignoring the other person, on the contrary, at the right time, taking the initiative to give love will show the "dark effect" in psychology.
When men and women spend a long time together, they will inevitably develop passion. At this time, it is necessary to use the "dark effect" wisely, take the initiative to date each other, and occasionally create a world that belongs to the only two people, so as to enhance the relationship between the two parties in a relaxed and natural situation.
In particular, choosing a leisure place such as a movie theater can enhance the sense of security by holding hands in the dark, and at the same time, it is also a trust in each other.
Romance is not just about men against women, women should also learn to create romantic vibes for men. After calming down, take the initiative to offer warmth, so that he can truly feel your love for him. It is a common expression of affection between both parties and makes the relationship more harmonious and harmonious with each other.
If you want a man to have a crush on you all the time, remember to be good at using "cold treatment" techniques, grasp the distance between each other, and learn to create a romantic atmosphere. Don't put him at the center, but also care for him.
Love needs to be managed, and if you can skillfully use the "cold treatment" technique, the more he will definitely be inseparable from you.