If you are a housewife, a happy marriage, a self-motivated husband, a child is worry-free, and the mother-in-law is reasonable.
Early in the morning, you are busy making breakfast and checking your child's school bag.
You are highly educated and used to have your own dreams, but for the sake of your family, you gave up your dreams.
You are very busy, so busy that you often forget yourself, and the chicken and dog things in the house always make you anxious.
But as long as the child says: "Mom, I love you the most", it makes you feel: it is worth paying all this.
However, when your child sits down to study, you will feel that something is wrong:
You watch the child grope for toys, fiddle with the eraser, the homework progress should be 0%; and think of receiving news from the teacher during the day, the child's test results are not ideal, can't help but yell at him not to play, write seriously;
Wait for the child to "fool" to go to bed after finishing homework, it is already 11 o'clock at night, but when you inquire, the top few children in the class often go to bed after 12 o'clock;
You disregard the child's objections, forcibly take time, sign up for a cram school for the child, and meet the boy of the same age in the neighbor's house in the elevator, only to learn that he has attended 6 or 7 cram classes at the same time;
Whether you're walking into the elevator or taking the subway, all kinds of ads are wrapping you up: peers are abandoning your children, the golden period is just a few years, don't let your children lose at the starting line...
In this vicious comparison of "you do the first year and I do the fifteenth", the child's life is completely KPIized; and you are equally exhausted under the heavy pressure of this "arms race".
In 2022, how to escape the anxiety of parent-child education and return to the common sense and essence of education is a problem that all parents in China need to think more calmly about.
At the beginning of this year, the Family Education Promotion Law came into effect.
The law makes it clear that the parents or other guardians of minors are responsible for carrying out family education, and they must not only fulfill the responsibility of family education, but also correctly fulfill their responsibilities, bring their babies in accordance with the law, and follow the correct laws of education.
Under the dual pressure of this education and anxiety, in the face of the so-called "chicken baby" and "divine beast" in the family, more and more parents and parents are looking headache and tired.
How cool are parents who are not anxious?
Princess Kate of the United Kingdom uses her parenting experience to tell you the answer -
Little Prince George reached the "annoying age of three", but his parents, Prince William and Princess Kate, exercised effective discipline on him so that he did not become a "demon monarch".
Although Little Prince George had more stamps on his passport at the age of three than many people had in their lifetime, and despite the fact that he would become king of England, he still behaved like a three-year-old.
It's clear that Little Prince George has been throwing tantrums lately (like all two- and three-year-olds), so Princess Kate began devising an education plan for her son.
For example, by reading some educational books such as Positive Discipline: The First Three Years (i.e., Chinese edition of "Positive Discipline for 0-3 Year Olds").
When George made a mistake, she wouldn't lock the child up, but give him a "break." George would go to a corner of his room to play with a special calming toy or read a book.
Based on such a "positive discipline" parenting concept, Little Prince George gradually grew into a british gentleman praised by everyone, showing the style and dignity of the British royal heir.
From Princess Kate's parenting philosophy, it is not difficult to find that where there are children who cannot be taught, there are only parents who cannot teach.
As a parent, we all want to make our children more excellent, so how can we make ourselves excellent and no longer make you anxious and worried? For example —
Children rub and drag, disobey, do not love to learn... What to do?
Can't communicate effectively with your child when you and your child are emotional?
Does correctional and persuasion discipline education for children really work?
The material father is responsible, the discipline is the mother, and who is responsible for the child's emotional needs? As the child continues to grow, similar to the above troubles and confusion will only increase is left to its free development?
These are the parenting problems that plague Chinese parents the most at present.