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The New Year of 2022 is approaching, and going home for the New Year has become the top priority in people's hearts, but for some people, it is not happy.
Especially for Sun Yu, this is even more so.
This year, he told his wife in advance that he would bring his daughter back home by himself and would not take her home for the New Year.
The wife was very angry at Sun Yu's arrangement, which was obviously aimed at her, leaving her alone at home, so that no one could say anything.
In the face of his wife's dissatisfaction, Sun Yu said bluntly: "Last time I stayed in my hometown for 7 days, you quarreled with my mother for 7 days, and cried her 7 times, I really don't dare to let you go home with me, you can go wherever you want, it is best to go back to each home." ”
Sun Yu's wife listened to her husband's words and felt very unhappy. It is true that she quarreled with her mother-in-law many times, but each time there was a reason.
The mother-in-law is very strong in favoring sons over daughters, giving five hundred yuan in red envelopes to the children of relatives, but giving her own granddaughter a hundred yuan, she took the hundred yuan, felt that it was a humiliation, this breath really could not swallow, and could not help but quarrel with the mother-in-law.
In the face of this matter, her husband Sun Yu asked her not to be so preoccupied, a hundred is a hundred, and they do not lack these five hundred. But in her opinion, it's not a matter of money.
This is not the end, in addition to the preference for sons and daughters, the mother-in-law also intends to target her. When she first came home, she worked hard to wipe the windows clean, but the mother-in-law had to pick a thorn, saying that her window frame was not wiped clean, and then she kept saying this thing repeatedly, and unceremoniously said that she was a lazy woman.
Years later, when relatives came to the house, the mother-in-law and relatives sat in the living room and chatted, and at noon, they did not have the slightest intention of cooking. In desperation, she had to go to the kitchen and make twelve dishes. After eating, she sent away her relatives, and her mother-in-law did not clean up, and she was the only one in the whole family.
She was very angry and theorized with her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law said that she was the daughter-in-law of this family, and she had to do these tasks, and she didn't do anyone to do it, so did she let this elder do it?
Sun Yu's wife had words of suffering, and there was a fire that could not be sent out in her heart, and she wanted to talk to Sun Yu, but Sun Yu was busy drinking and eating with relatives and friends on this side of the family, and went home drunk every day.
All kinds of unhappiness in the in-laws' family, the indifference of the mother-in-law's family, and the disregard of her husband Sun Yu made her feel very unhappy, and she often quarreled with her mother-in-law because of a few words.
Sun Yu's wife thinks about this, she feels angry, since she does not let her go back, she will not go back, she does not want to face the mother-in-law's provocation, since she does not go home, then the daughter will not go back to the grandmother's house, let Sun Yu go back to her hometown for the New Year.
Sun Yu's matter, in fact, is in the final analysis, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. From this incident, we can draw these several revelations.
01 In the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no winner
I don't understand why there should be a contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, since they have become a family, and then the contradiction can only lead to the whole family being restless.
Every mother-in-law should understand that your preference for sons and daughters, targeting your daughter-in-law, not letting your daughter-in-law be happy, directly affects the happiness of your son.
Of course, every mother-in-law should also know that unless you have money in your later years and have a daughter to rely on and count on, you still have to rely on your son.
But many things, the son is not convenient to take care of, after all, he still has to bear the heavy responsibility of supporting the family, your hope is no one else, only the daughter-in-law.
If you are not good to your daughter-in-law, why should your daughter-in-law take care of you in your old age?
Another point is that every mother-in-law should understand that the daughter of someone else's baby marries into your family and spreads branches for your family, not to be angry, but to live a good life. Since you want to reunite your family, you need to understand things.
For a daughter-in-law, if there is a good husband, let the husband face his mother directly, and if there is no good husband, try to stay away from the unreasonable mother-in-law. What about not going back to your in-laws' house for the New Year? Live on your own more relaxed and enjoyable.
02 Women have the ability to have confidence in the in-laws' house
A woman has the ability to have confidence in her in-laws' family, and the ability here does not mean being able to have a son. As far as I know, the reason why Sun Yu's wife has no right to speak, no confidence, and is looked down upon by her mother-in-law is actually not only because she gave birth to a daughter, but also because she gave up the opportunity to work early and had no income.
After having a child, at the request of her husband Sun Yu, she resigned and stayed at home full-time with the child. That's four or five years. When the child went to school, she wanted to find a job, but she couldn't find a suitable one, so the mother-in-law had a lot of criticism.
In my opinion, women are not easy in themselves, after four or five years at home full-time, almost out of touch with society, and it is indeed difficult to find a job without excellent skills and abilities.
Sun Yu's wife's current situation cannot be blamed on her.
But in other words, people's choices are wrong step by step, and it is a mistake to choose full-time when they listen to their husbands. When women have no job of their own, no financial resources, they are insecure and have no bottom.
Not for others to be able to afford, not for who has the confidence in the family, just for themselves, women must let themselves have a skill, must have the ability to make money, so that they have more choices.
03 For the New Year, how comfortable and how to come
The New Year itself is a festive event for family reunion, and if the husband and wife have a conflict over whose house they go to for the New Year, it is really not worth the loss.
At this point, papi sauce is very sober. According to her, she and her husband have been married for 5 years, neither parent has ever met each other, and in the New Year, they go back to their respective homes and find their mothers, and they never quarrel about this matter.
He Jiong has also expressed his own point of view, and he believes that the practice of papi sauce is understandable on another level, so that the two people are both husband and wife, and at the same time very independent individuals.
No one stipulates that the New Year must return to the man's home, the man's parents look forward to seeing the son's idea, it is certainly stronger than the expectation to see the daughter-in-law, and the woman's parents, the New Year's Want to let their daughter accompany the idea is also very strong, so it is a good way to go back to each home in the New Year.
If the child is involved, it is completely possible for the child to follow the mother back to the grandmother's house this year, and the father to the grandmother's house next year.
For the Matter of Returning Home for the New Year, how to be comfortable and how to come, there is no need to cause problems in the feelings of husband and wife because of this kind of thing, which affects family harmony.
Of course, because of the epidemic, if you can celebrate the New Year on the spot, you still have to be cautious and choose to celebrate the New Year in place.
Finally, I hope that all husband and wife can understand each other and think about each other; I hope that all mothers-in-law can change their minds, love The House and Wu, and respect their daughter-in-law.
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