College students go home for the New Year after a short sweet time to usher in the "itch of each other"

Before the winter vacation, parents of college students are counting their children's return date and looking forward to reunion. Nowadays, more than half of the winter vacation, especially after experiencing the daily "intimate coexistence" of the Spring Festival holiday, in many families, the two generations are constantly contradictory due to differences in life schedules and daily trivialities, and the estrangement is also increasing. College students generally complained: they have changed from a "well-behaved baby" who looks forward to returning day and night to a "bear child" in the eyes of their parents.

"Dalian News Media Group reporter Jiang Ying, Shi Jing, Tai Zhi, Qin Zhi〛

College students: The psychological gap from "big baby" to "annoying"

Li's college had an early holiday, she said: "When I first came home, I got along with my parents quite easily and calmly, but it only took three days from smiling to being disliked by my parents. Before the holidays, her parents would often call and ask "when to come home" and "what would you like to eat when I came home"; when she first came home, her parents would cook the meals she liked to eat and would take her to the shopping mall to buy clothes. But within three days, she felt tremendous pressure from her parents. Mom began to nag and began to criticize her for a small matter.

According to college students, bedtime is usually the beginning of a day when "war" breaks out. During the winter vacation, many college students want to sleep uninhibited until they wake up naturally, but at 8 o'clock in the morning, my mother broke in with a mop and scolded "the room is so dirty, and I don't know how to clean up." Occasionally be diligent, drag a housework, and will be disliked clumsy, not clean; sometimes do not want to eat family meals, want to order a takeaway, will also be disliked "can not cook and pick and choose." There are still more than 20 days before the start of school, and many parents are already urging their children to return to school quickly. Li said that his lifestyle has always attracted his mother's various "unaccustomed", and the contradictions with parents have been intensifying, and the estrangement is also increasing.

Parents: Eagerly looking forward to it but "being abandoned"

Ms. Wang's children are in graduate school at Tongji University, and she has prepared hearty foods such as seafood and dumplings early to welcome the children home for the holidays. Ms. Wang told reporters that the child has matured a lot after going to college, but still will not take care of herself, so she always wants to say a few more words to let the child take fewer detours. "However, I always feel that the children have not listened, and they think that I am too wordy, and sometimes they will talk to me."

Ms. Zhang, a citizen, said that because the child's father works in the field all year round, she very much hopes that the child can often go home. However, it is very disturbing to see my daughter sleeping lazily every day, not doing housework, and the messy table in the room. Ms. Zhang said: "I hope that my daughter can take care of her own life, such as folding her clothes and cleaning up the room. In my opinion, it was all very simple things, but she couldn't do it. ”

Teacher: Living in harmony requires children and parents to understand each other

Zhou Fuzhan, a graduate tutor at Dalian University of Technology, told reporters that when he was studying, he also had the experience of going from fragrant food to being disliked by his parents during the holidays, so he especially understood this. There are many reasons for the contradiction between parents and children, such as the conflict between the children's contact with things in school and the living habits they have developed and the traditional concepts and measurement standards of their parents; the imbalance between the behavior displayed by the children at home and the excessive expectations of the parents; and the psychological inequality caused by the lack of understanding, non-recognition and lack of communication between the children and the parents.

In response to this phenomenon, Zhou Fuzhan suggested that students should learn to think differently, learn to listen to and accept the opinions of their parents, and understand the love behind their parents' "nagging". Students should also think about how much time they will have with their parents in their lifetime. As children, we should use limited time to spend more time with their parents, communicate with them more, do what they can to help them do something, and cherish the time with their parents. For parents, some concepts of their children should be more inclusive and understanding, enter their lives, and communicate with their children as friends. When you want to accuse them, first "salivate" in your mouth, calm down, reduce unnecessary quarrels with your children, and enjoy the joy of the world with a peaceful mind.