In a relationship, the first to feel the inner loss and hurt is usually a woman, and the first tired, more is a man, the man who clearly loves each other deeply or still has not changed his heart at the moment Why does the man feel tired in the emotional relationship?
Sometimes people's tiredness is not external physical, but comes from the heart.
Men cannot sustain a relationship for a long time
Men and women's needs for feelings, relationship cognition and future expectations, are different, so women will weigh the quality of the relationship through the entanglement and tacit understanding between the relationship, and men are tired of always revolving around the woman, but when the focus of men's life is not a woman, when the attention is reduced, women will produce emotions due to the lack of security, thus affecting the harmony of the relationship.
For example, women's menstrual discomfort is not unable to take care of themselves, but will feel desolate because of the sentence that drinks more water and then there is no following, and men, aside from individual cases, many just think that this works, or they are sick indeed irreplaceable, providing some effective methods is very practical, there is no mistake.
The truth is that there are not so many straight men, and the most critical core is "lazy"
Men can't understand why the person's emotional points and thinking are so deceitful and strange, but for the sake of harmony, in order to cause less trouble, some are perfunctory, and some simply dodge in their own way.
But under the stalemate, no matter which coping mode you choose, you will feel tired and hard.
The reason for this state is that women's emotions are not satisfied, and men's spirits are not feedback.
Children and pets have similarities, need to be cared for, eager to be satisfied, and want to be rewarded and responded to when they get along.
But when men do not get spiritual encouragement and affirmation, they will have slack and frustration. This is also the reason why you only know how to bear hardships and stand hard work and cannot get the love of men, because you are tired and suffer, but your mouth does not spare people, and you will wipe out your own efforts with your own hands.
The good planning of the future may be the pressure of men
What kind of feelings do women want?
For marriage, women want their children to be sensible, men obedient, family and harmonious, can not say that they can be spoiled as princesses, but at least let themselves worry less. For lovers, women basically want to have a considerate warm man to develop a relationship with themselves and feel the temperature of love.
Love is the product of interdependence, but in the emotional relationship, when women rely too much on men to give emotional value, and have too many unilateral positions under the beautiful plan for the future, this beauty will become the pressure of men, not only can not make the relationship heat up, but will produce mutual estrangement.
When there are too many "happiness" that requires the cooperation of men to achieve, then all this will go in an unpredictable direction.
Women's dependence in a short period of time will make men full of confidence and happiness because of their sense of superiority, but the excessive dependence of long-term intimate relationships is a very important source of fatigue for men.
Therefore, the root of a woman who desires happiness is not whether she has found a good man, but whether she is strong enough, and sometimes you do not need him to provide his own survival necessities in order to make this man inseparable from you, thereby enhancing the charm of women.
In a relationship, you feel that the other person can't help you
The relationship between the sexes is the combination of feelings and the merger of interests, which requires a strong union to live a more complete life, but after deep communication, when men find that women cannot meet the standards of their own needs, there will be gaps and dissatisfaction in their hearts.
In social relations, men are still the main force of the family, so they will shoulder a greater burden on their shoulders, but men are rational, understand that no one is perfect at the same time, but also know that they can not replace their lovers because they cannot help themselves, but in the face of women who cannot improve their value and talk about personal demands, they will feel helpless, and this contradiction and entanglement of emotions will produce fatigue.
There is the suffering of coping with life alone, and there is also the tiredness of helplessness without a definite answer.
To put it bluntly, although a man has feelings for you, he does not meet the standard of his value needs.
In fact, women are not, she feels that you can't give love, just give money, you think you can't become an arm at least don't add chaos, in the final analysis, the reason for this situation is that everyone has not reached a certain value point.
Many emotions in life stem from the uneasiness of the lack and powerlessness in the real day, whether it is a man or a woman, as his (her) partner, if he or she can't help and sometimes engage in some small episodes and small emotions, it will be the source of his exhaustion and even boredom.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, whether it is a man or a woman, sometimes want to improve themselves first, which is the shortcut and premise to get attention.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.