A netizen asked for help online, hoping that netizens would help her find a way to persuade her son.
Netizens said:
I am 50 years old this year, and my son is 26 years old and a post-95 generation.
The son said that he plans not to buy a house, not to get married, and not to have a baby in the future, saying that this will avoid most of the troubles in life.
I'm really going to die, is that what people can say?
How can a normal person not get married and not have a baby?
It can be seen from the lines that this mother is really in a hurry.
Look around and you'll see:
The post-95 generation who hold the view of "not buying a house, not getting married, and not having a baby" is really quite a lot.
Why do they think that, and aren't they worried about what to do when they get old?
Today we invited three young people after 95 to listen to their real thoughts.
Lin Nian, 25 years old, is a company employee
I don't buy a house anyway, who loves to buy who buys, it is best to rise to 1 million a flat, it has nothing to do with me.
I've done the math:
In the first-tier city where I work, after buying a suite, the price is about the same as the price of the hotel I live in every day.
So, in my opinion, renting a house is definitely more economical than buying a house.
Those colleagues who bought houses will brag to me that the house was bought for 20,000 yuan and has risen to 50,000 this year.
Oh, I just smiled and didn't talk:
What if you get to 100,000? You can still sell this suite? Sold where you live?
Buying a house from which he lives, the ups and downs are all paper wealth, I don't know what he is proud of?
Others say:
With a house, when you are sick or need money in the future, you will not be unable to come up with money.
This reason is even more outrageous:
You bought a house just to see a doctor and use it when the time comes?
In short, I really can't find a reason for me to build a house with the salary, life and possibilities of most of my life.
Moreover, looking at the colleagues in our company who are tied up in the house, it feels that they are really bored.
Good location, can't afford to buy, can only buy remote suburbs, commute back and forth for four hours a day.
Don't dare to ask for leave, don't dare to resign, don't dare to make a big noise in the company, tired into a dog every day, the boss said that everything has to be followed.
I don't plan to live in this city all the time, and when I get tired of it, I will change cities, and when I buy a house, I will not have this freedom.
I have also considered the issue of pension in the future.
But I still have that view:
No one knows what will happen tomorrow, and maybe I won't live that long.
Taking a step back, even if I can live to a very old age, so old that others don't want to rent a house for me, it doesn't matter.
At that time, I would find a house price depression, spend tens of thousands of yuan to buy an old and broken child to put myself in it, and finish my work.
Anyway, they are all elderly, and they don't pay attention to the quality of life, just live.
Little K, 26 years old, freelancer
The other day I saw a topic:
Why do the current post-95 boys not take the initiative to pursue girls?
Let me tell you about my experience.
At the last company, I had a crush on a female colleague in the department.
She also acted a little interesting to me, and the two of them went to the restaurant alone and went to see the movie.
In the process of contact, I liked her more and more, and I gave her many gifts before and after.
For example, big-name cosmetics, small toys, bags and clothes have been bought.
She did not refuse to come, accepted them all, and occasionally gave me a gift in return.
But after three months, I found out:
There are also two male colleagues in the company, and I am in the situation, they are silently pursuing her!
Moreover, they also received a small gift from this girl.
Each of us felt like her "ready boyfriend" and was really just a fish in her pond.
After knowing the truth, I was like eating a fly and didn't pay any more attention to her.
Guess what happened afterwards?
People will give me a "scumbag" hat with their backhands!
In the company, behind the scenes, I said that I was playing with feelings and irresponsible.
I was speechless, and then I left the company.
Look at my brother again, my brother is 30 years old this year, and my sister-in-law has been watching rotten chicken soup and short videos on the Internet all day.
I can't help but take the "180 standards of a good husband" on the Internet to ask my brother.
The money my brother earned was to buy her a bag, eat afternoon tea with my little sister, travel around, and then ask my parents for money to pay off the mortgage.
In my personal experience, being in love, getting married... It's all too bad.
Chen Miao, 27, is a company employee
I'm not planning to get married, so there's a good chance I won't have children.
Actually, I don't hate children, but I hate to lose money.
In fact, you can see by looking at the divorce rate now:
In this materialistic society, how many marriages are really out of love? Too few.
In fact, the essence of most marriages is: cooperative parenting.
I'll give you an account of where women suffer losses and eat in the "cooperative parenting" marriage model.
The biggest problems with this pattern are:
The gains of both parties to the marriage are equal, but the efforts are not equal.
You see, when all goes well, the couple gets a offspring with the genes of both of them.
That's the harvest.
Then let's look at the pay:
The act of "getting pregnant" comes at a cost.
Anyone with a little bit of physiological knowledge knows:
This cost is paid by women, while men sit back and have a offspring with women.
Is that unfair?
If you don't understand, I can use an analogy:
We assume that the happiness of raising a child outweighs the pain, like raising a cat.
Everyone thinks it's fun to pet the cat, and the parents who cooperate to raise cats are very happy.
However, the birth of this kitten requires 10 months of effort from the woman.
During these 10 months, the woman needs to endure nausea, vomiting, painful and dangerous childbirth.
And the man does not need, you can be happy to pet the cat together after 10 months.
Obviously, at the level of cooperative childbearing, women pay a very high price.
Not to mention that we are not kittens and puppies, we are human beings, socialized people.
Because of their innate physiological structure, in addition to the health risks brought about by pregnancy itself, women also have to bear invisible discrimination in the workplace, and have more "maternal" responsibilities than men.
And then the more critical, the more unfair, you know what it is?
It is that most people do not think that the woman is damaged, is to pay more.
On the contrary, she is still asking that she should be more selfless, work harder, and be more "like a mother".
I don't do this kind of loss-making business.
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Now some post-95s believe that not getting married, not having children, and not buying a house can avoid most of the troubles of life.
What do you think of this view?
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