Zhizi 3 minutes No. 20 | children to write homework rubbing, procrastinating, what to do?

When not talking about doing homework, the mother is kind and filial to the child, and even hugs and hugs. When it comes to doing homework, chickens fly and dogs jump, whining and shouting, making passers-by laugh, making the elderly blood pressure rise, and making neighbors unable to sleep!

How can we help our children say goodbye to procrastination and complete their homework quickly without yelling or shouting? Here are a few tricks up your sleeve.

First, agree with your child on the "time" to complete the homework.

We can make an agreement with the child that the homework must be completed before what time of night, of course, there will be a few times at the beginning, and when the child does not consciously complete it, we do not have to worry too much.

For example, make an appointment with the child to finish the homework before 8 o'clock, and then you can play with the mobile phone for a while, but the child does not complete the task on time, then it will definitely not be able to play.

Parents should be "gentle and firm" and can set a good example, so that children can slowly develop the habit of completing homework on time.

Second, agree with the child to complete the homework "standard".

Children write homework, sometimes in order to be fast, write very sloppily, so we get angry: "Can't you write well?" "Even angrily tore the child's homework."

The result: the child is dazed and overwhelmed. This has not achieved any educational results.

Parents can actually do this: seriously and calmly say to the child: "Child, I have already said that if the writing is not neat, it should be rewritten, because it is not neat, the teacher cannot see clearly, you see, this is the agreed "standard" and needs to be observed, so you must rewrite it."

This will allow children to understand, accept the standard, and do it according to the requirements of the standard.

Third, be a "lazy mother" and awaken your child's sense of responsibility.

We should no longer urge children to write homework over and over again, and say to children seriously and calmly, "Writing homework is your own business, you are responsible for your own affairs, and if you don't finish writing, you may be criticized by the teacher, but these mothers will not care, you control it yourself." ”

Give the child the freedom to manage his own time, give him rights and responsibilities.

Occasionally, we can give appropriate reminders and give some suggestions for children's reference, such as teaching children to use small alarm clocks and doing a good job of time management.

Fourth, from focusing on "things" to paying attention to "people".

A sentence of "Is the homework done?" The child will think in his heart: "I know to talk about homework all day long, is the homework your child, or am I?!" It will form the illusion that "my mother loves my grades more."

As a result, children who have lost the love of their parents will become rebellious, reticent, and bored with school. Every day when I come home from school, I ask, "Child, are you happy at school today?" "That's what children need most.