With the implementation of the "double reduction" policy, family education has attracted the attention of society and education circles, and even ordinary people. In the on-site interactive survey of educational institutions on the "parent-child relationship model", 90% of parents were mobilized to exchange the roles of parents and children. As a result, these "identity-displaced" parents have a surprising discovery: my child's problems are actually my own problems. Their perception is once again subverted by an inadvertent live event, realizing the cruelty and ignorance in the name of love.
It's been five years since moving into the new house, a newly developed school district house in an excellent location. Most of the owners are 3 or 40-year-old young people, every day the car in and out, the pace is hurried, I think it should be people with serious things to do, and the quality should be almost where to go. But just after the Spring Festival of 2020, when the children were about to go to school, something went wrong.
That morning, as usual, I took the elevator downstairs and prepared to go to work. When I got out of the elevator, I was surprised to find that the unit building was surrounded by a number of people in police uniforms, and several of them were armed with guns and nuclear bombs, which was a bit frightening. Although curious, I didn't want to be fined 10 yuan for being late, so I hurried through the yard of the community to start my day.
After handling the work at hand, it is just time for the end of the day. I just want to go home early, supervise the "uneasy" son in the family, and imagine what the living room floor will look like when he has tossed him to nowhere to get his feet. Everything else was thrown to Antarctica, and I often told my friends about my restless mother.
Entering the courtyard of the community, everything is as quiet as before. When I was about to arrive at the unit building, I still found something strange. An elderly old lady wiped her tears in the open space next to the lawn, and three men and two women next to her were probably comforting the old man. When I went upstairs and looked for the key, the neighbor was just about to go out, and he asked me if I knew anything about the top floor, and it turned out that a little girl on the top floor had jumped off the building, and it was the granddaughter of the old lady who had just been crying. Hearing such news, I did not know what to say, nor did I know how to comfort the poor old lady, and my heart only sank.
Two or three days after the accident, I learned from the neighbors in the yard that the little girl who jumped off the building was a fifth-grade student of the nearby primary school, and the direct cause of the jump was related to the failure to complete the holiday homework, and I was worried about affecting the report of the opening of the school. Later, I heard that the little girl who had an accident, the father stuck to the mahjong table all day and almost did not go home, the mother ran a small restaurant nearby to pass the day, early out and late return, the time spent with the child can be counted with five fingers. The family only leaves the grandmother responsible for the little girl's three meals a day, and as for the rest, outsiders do not know.
Everyone's life is different, their attitude towards life is different, what can we say? Sorry for the little girl, the deceased has gone, but I wish the little girl a serious companion on the way to heaven, listen to her cry, listen to her laugh mom and dad. I seemed to hear the little girl's pleading and unwillingness: "Please give me a gentle ding, I can't remember your voices anymore." "Is this a wordless struggle? It's just a teenage girl, when she doesn't understand life, the way she treats life is too tragic, and people can't bear to look at it directly. This is certain of the sadness of the parents, I heard that there is a young son in the family, through this accident, whether they realize that they should change the environment to be gentle to the child, others are also unknown.
Liang Qichao, a politician and thinker in the Republic of China period, is erudite and versatile, has deep achievements in many disciplines, and his 9 children are also very wide in academic scope, Liang Gong always goes to study and study in depth on the issue of his children's education, in order to have common knowledge and ability with children, can talk together, can discuss together. It can even affect the child's pursuit of a career. His persistence and high degree of self-discipline directly affect children's attitudes towards life and schoolwork. This kind of "silent" teaching is exactly what a large part of us lack. They always hope for "children's introspection and self-realization", but they forget the truth that "near Zhu is red, close to ink is black".
Li Ka-shing is also relaxed in the education of his children, he cares about his children, but from an early age to guide them to integrity and independence with their own behavior, his children have also achieved their own achievements, charity.
Chinese parents have cultivated themselves into a wall, indestructible, lifting their children to the top of the tower within the bearable range, but they do not know that the child on the top of the tower is trembling. Like the "bucket theory", greed is not enough, and both sides are exhausted but fruitless. It is better to take a step back, give each other a little space, respect the child's growth law, admit their own shortcomings, continue to learn with a humble attitude, and improve their own cognition. Just by growing up, the child grows up fast and easy, the relationship between the two sides is positive, the things that the child can carry are also increased, and finally the child is growing at a multiplier speed. And why not?
It is not easy for parents and children to have a fight, how many days and nights of reincarnation to exchange for the fate of walking in the world? A pair of warm little hands is enough to melt a thousand years of ice, a mother's love. The you and I in front of us are the clusters of gorgeous, colorful and not greasy in the eyes of the world. Although you don't give up, you must finally let go. On the day you turned around, I had such a strong premonition that you had achieved me and redeemed me with your growth. Then, from this moment on, to you, My child, with all My tenderness and love, to arm you, to give you strength, to give you support. Enough is enough!
During the period of the New Culture Movement, Mr. Nan Huanjin, the successor of Chinese culture, put forward: "The purpose of China's thousands of years of education is not to make a living, but to teach us to be human; education starts from the beginning of teaching, tutoring is the most important, and then it is to learn from Mr. Wang." Personality education and academic cultivation run through life.
The words and deeds of parents are the template of children, the soil for the healthy growth of children, and the roots of trees. Children are the shadows of their parents. Only parents who regard their own growth as a lifelong practice can have the ability and qualifications to catch up with the rapid progress of their children's train, tea talk north and south, and enjoy life. Isn't it?