In the eyes of most people, the successful search for relatives and the reunion of flesh and blood are extremely lucky and complete. However, not every search for relatives in the world can lead to consummation.
In December 2021, Liu Xuezhou, a native of Xingtai City, Hebei Province, a sophomore in Shijiazhuang, was touched by Sun Haiyang's success in searching for his son and recorded a short video of his search for relatives: he was born between 2004 and 2006, and his adoptive parents bought him from Datong, Shanxi.
Soon after the video was released, Liu Xuezhou found his biological parents. But his path to finding relatives is different from others – his biological parents have divorced and re-formed a family and have children. According to Liu Xuezhou, after the two sides contacted, his biological father often did not answer his phone. Recently, he also had a dispute with his biological parents, because he had been living in an uncertain place and hoped that his biological parents could "give himself a place to live", but his biological parents reacted fiercely after hearing it, and his birth mother even "blocked" his WeChat.
Mr. Ding, Liu Xuezhou's biological father, said in an interview with the media that Liu Xuezhou made a request and hoped that his parents would "buy a house" for him in Hebei, but due to family economic difficulties, he could not agree to his request.
"I mean, you only need one place to stay, just a place to stay, you don't have to buy me a house, even if it's rent." On the evening of January 18, Liu Xuezhou told the upstream news (newspaper mailbox: [email protected]) reporter.
▲ Liu Xuezhou and his biological mother at his brother's birthday party. Image source/personal Weibo
A simple online search will find the biological father
Liu Xuezhou told the upstream news reporter that the short video he shot to find relatives attracted the attention of a police officer in Linfen City, Shanxi Province, who specially rushed to Shijiazhuang to collect blood for him again and enter it into the data analysis database. This allows even if the biological parents do not have the DNA in the library, they can be matched by other relatives.
Almost at the same time, Liu Xuezhou found a vaccine book from more than a decade ago in his home, which had his biological father's name written on it. To his surprise, after a simple search on the Internet, he found the business license of a company corresponding to his biological father's name. Following the phone number under the license, he dialed the other party.
The first time I contacted my biological father, he thought he was a liar and hung up the phone. After Liu Xuezhou searched for the other party's WeChat according to the phone, he was more convinced that this was his biological father, "and found that his avatar looked quite similar to my own." ”
The police also contacted Liu Xuezhou's biological father that night, after which the father and son added WeChat. Liu Xuezhou clearly remembers that he and his biological father video for 28 minutes that day, the other party has been crying, "told me that they were crying, said that it is particularly difficult to send (people)." He didn't want to, especially poor. ”
Liu Xuezhou has always had a plan in his heart, if he is sent by his biological parents, then he will not recognize his relatives. But hearing his biological father tell the story of the situation, he tacitly acquiesced to the connection between the two sides with the mentality of understanding but not forgiving. But after that contact, his biological father began to alienate him, and only his birth mother kept in touch with him.
Liu Xuezhou told the upstream news reporter that he learned afterwards that when his biological father remarried, he did not tell his wife that he had a son, and after the two sides recognized each other, he did not persuade his wife to accept Liu Xuezhou, "Her wife entrusted someone to bring me a message, saying not to let me go to 'plague' their family." ”
▲ Liu Xuezhou found the vaccine book at home. Image source/personal Weibo
Only after confessing his relatives did he realize the truth that he had been "sold"
Liu Xuezhou remembers meeting in Shijiazhuang about a week after the video with his biological father ended.
In the short video released by Liu Xuezhou, at the scene of the recognition, the biological father was very happy, and he also felt that the happiness of that day was greater than the sadness. Because his adoptive parents died unexpectedly when he was 4 years old, he has been a wild child in other people growing up, and after confessing his relatives, he feels that he is finally not a wild child. At this meeting, the biological father went to the place where Liu Xuezhou was adopted, met Liu Xuezhou's grandparents and grandparents, and gave him a red envelope of 5,000 yuan.
On the day of the meeting, Liu Xuezhou shared his chat with his birth mother on social platforms, and the other party told him to "wear warm clothes" and said that he would send him clothes.
Liu Xuezhou said that when he returned to his hometown to cooperate with the police in investigating the traffickers, he learned that he may have been "sold" by his biological parents. "When I investigated, I learned that I was not sent by them. I asked them how much money they had charged, and I paraphrased them. "What Liu Xuezhou did not expect was that his biological parents directly admitted to this matter." After I knew it, I was particularly sad, I didn't want to recognize them at all, I was particularly depressed, my emotions collapsed, and I felt that the sky was falling. ”
Liu Xuezhou told reporters that now he knows that his biological parents sold him for seven or eight thousand yuan, and after that, his biological father used this as a dowry money to marry his birth mother.
▲ Liu Xuezhou's home in Hebei province is dilapidated. Image source/personal Weibo
Asked to be "blacklisted" by the birth mother
After learning that he was sold that year, Liu Xuezhou did not cut off contact with his biological parents, and even went to Shanxi at the invitation of his mother to celebrate his brother's 12th birthday. It was also the first time he had seen his mother. He remembered that the other party gently hugged him at the birthday party and said a few words, "The feeling of finally seeing my mother is very exciting and happy." ”
Liu Xuezhou said that his birth mother held 8 tables for his brother, and he still had a sense of gap in it, because he had only had two birthdays since he was a child, "the first time was when he was a few years old, and the second birthday was spent with his classmates at school last year." A few days later, he moved into his birth mother's house, and her care still made him feel very warm.
Liu Xuezhou said that the "blocking" of the birth mother's mobile phone this time stemmed from a threat. After he confessed, he was cooperating with the police in investigating the trafficker, "The relative of the trafficker called my relative and said that they had two sons. If the traffickers are held accountable, their son will not let me go. "Liu Xuezhou has been studying in boarding school before recognizing his relatives, and will borrow to live in a relative's house during the holidays. After being threatened, he did not want to trouble his relatives anymore, so he moved his mind to live.
After giving his brother a birthday, Liu Xuezhou returned to Shijiazhuang, "After I return to Shijiazhuang, it will be very inconvenient to borrow my aunt's side, there is no place to live on the train that day, it is very sad, there is really no way, so I called my aunt." He felt that after finding his biological parents, he had no place to live, which made it difficult for him to accept.
"After entering the house, I cried a lot, and then I called my mother to talk about it, and I mentioned that I was very sad not to live, to see if I could give me a home." Liu Xuezhou told reporters that what he meant at that time was that he just needed a place to stay, "There is no need to buy me a house, even if it is a rent." ”
Liu Xuezhou said that what he did not expect was that the birth mother on the other end of the phone immediately turned her face, "She said that this is forcing her to die, forcing her to die, what good is it for you?" "In this conflict, both sides said some angry words, and after the birth mother hung up the phone angrily, he received a call from the biological father." The phone also said that I was forcing him, and finally said a sentence, delete, block it, and never contact again. ”
Later, he found that his birth mother had "blocked" his WeChat.
▲ Liu Xuezhou posted a message on the social platform that since he did not recognize the mistake, then, see the court. Image source/personal Weibo
Civil proceedings are proposed against the biological parents
In the early morning of January 17, Liu Xuezhou posted on Weibo, saying that he had been "blocked" by his birth mother on WeChat and felt abandoned by his biological parents again. He wrote in the article: He was very disappointed to learn that there was a "money transaction" between his biological parents and the person who took him.
Liu Xuezhou made a public recording of the phone call with his birth mother, and on the phone, the birth mother was emotional and even said, "Then why don't you ask your adoptive parents how it was caused?" Do they not hug and have other people's good hugs? Liu Xuezhou told reporters that when he heard his birth mother's words, he was very disappointed and angry for a while and could not speak.
After the clashes were made public, Neither of Liu Xuezhou's biological parents answered the reporter's phone. In a previous interview, Liu Xuezhou's biological father said that after recognizing his relatives, he also encouraged Liu Xuezhou to study well, was willing to bear his subsequent tuition and living expenses, and gave his son away because of his family's financial difficulties. The biological father also stressed that he did not know that it was the traffickers who took away his son, "At that time, they may have seen that our family conditions were really difficult, felt sympathy, and left us about 6,000 yuan." ”
Recent news is that Liu Xuezhou posted a message on the social platform, saying, "Since you have reversed black and white and have not realized your mistakes in the slightest, then, I am very sorry, see you in court!" ”
Liu Xuezhou told reporters in an interview that he plans to file a civil lawsuit against the relevant behavior of his biological parents.
Upstream journalist Wang Jingjing