Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: divorce, lover, marriage
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There is a very realistic saying in marriage: if there is betrayal in love, marriage hate is longer than heaven.
Some hatred can only be buried in the bottom of the heart, which is the most unbearable suffering. There are many confused accounts hidden in love, and if you turn the time forward, many people will burst into tears.
A man once spoke of the remorse in his marriage.
Before the age of 33, my wife and I still had a real relationship.
After the age of 33, with the birth of my second eldest, I no longer dare to say how much love there is between us.
When I got the identification results of the second eldest that day, I was completely confused, not mine. I had long guessed that this might be the result, and it wasn't until I saw the truth that I finally accepted the sadness that I was most reluctant to accept in my life.
I silently tore the piece of paper, and it was like our love, and the last fantasy drifted away with the wind.
On the way home, i was a big man who couldn't cry. But when I got home, I had to pretend to be indifferent.
My wife complained to me: Where have you gone, the children have cried several times, have you been such a father?
My mother blamed me: just after I had a son, you went out to hang out, you are not small, when will you grow up!
I didn't answer, didn't dare to ask or say. Casually making an excuse to perfunctory past, turn around and go to the kitchen to cook, sighing while keeping the secret in mind.
I know what the results of the appraisal mean, and for families, the sky has fallen. I can't stand it alone, maybe it won't be long before the marriage will end, and then my wife and I will be disgraced...
First, I was crazy in love with a woman
Below, I will tell you about the marriage case of this man, in which the emotional logic is relatively clear, which is worth thinking about by many couples. There is no regret medicine in the feelings, and I don't regret it in the end.
In the tone of this man's voice, I will only sort it out.
As early as 2 months after my son was born, I already knew that the child was not mine.
This secret has been hidden in my heart for a long time, like a stone pressed against my heart. For this family, I hid it for more than 1 year, and until now I am still pretending to be confused.
It's not that I can accept this, it's that I haven't figured out what to do yet. I care about my family, and I care more about the dignity of men.
Some words are really unspeakable, and the words have to be withdrawn when they reach the lips. Seeing my wife's serious life, I couldn't bear it in my heart and was reluctant to break this tranquility.
The other day, my wife suddenly asked me: Since I had my second son, you have been sad all day. Are you still suspecting that the child is not yours? Do as you please, I won't stop you. If you don't believe me, you can go and identify. I hope that the identification results come out, you can dispel the doubts in your heart, don't sigh all day, the past is over, I want to live a good life with you...
My wife didn't know I had already identified it, but she could feel the change in my mood. Maybe she was so convinced that the child was mine, that's why she said these words, maybe she was tired too.
What should come will always come, and what is false will never be true. I was very upset, how to talk to her?
If I say it's not mine, our marriage is over. If I say it's mine, then I can't talk about the old things in the future, which means that I have to help others raise children.
I certainly know that the longer this kind of thing drags on, the harder it becomes to deal with. But at present, I have no better way than to drag it on.
Looking back, can you really blame your wife for this?
I have the answer, although I hate my wife very much, but I blame myself for this matter. Sometimes when I think about it, it's me who is ashamed of my wife, not that she is ashamed of me.
At that time, our marriage was very happy, but I was confused for a while, and first failed my wife. I fell madly in love with a woman I shouldn't have loved, knowing she had a family and had been pursuing it.
For the sake of that woman, I gambled and filed for divorce from my wife. In the quarrel between husband and wife, I broke my wife's heart a little bit, and the husband and wife came to the brink of divorce...
Second, the price of men's amorousness is known after the fact
In the relationship, every man has a perfect woman in his heart. Unfortunately, it was late to see each other, and like most men, it wasn't until I got married and had children and the family was stable that this perfect woman appeared.
The root cause of all this regret today is because of the feelings that should not have happened and the tears that should not have been shed.
Now that I think about it, I was in a lover's relationship with that woman. We have been together many times, and we have truly loved each other, loved to the death and lived, and even agreed for life.
At that time, both sides had families and children, but we both saw each other and secretly had feelings in the chat. For the sake of so-called love, we maintained a relationship for more than 2 years ...
What should I say about that experience? Let's be honest.
I met her (lover) at a conference where she was seconded from the unit. She is the new face for our department.
At the meeting that day, seeing her elegant conversation and extraordinary temperament, I fell in love with her and silently remembered her.
We had regular meetings during those days, and I became good friends with her. Occasionally, whenever I have time, I invite her to dinner and chat in the name of work. At first she avoided me, then considered me a friend.
She is a career-oriented strong woman, not only in the work of the fierce, in the interpersonal relationship is also clearly distinguished, what to say.
I appreciate her temperament and want to develop further with her, it is best to have an appointment with her.
There's nothing to hide, there's one to say. Man, who doesn't have a little itchy little problem? When I see the type I like, I also fantasize that even if I already have a wife at home, I will often long for another encounter...
Hearing that she had 2 children, my mood was slightly lost, and my thoughts gradually increased.
Occasionally I feel very entangled, such a good woman, how good should her husband be? If her husband is really good, then don't I look very ordinary in front of her? Will she really take a fancy to me?
Sometimes I feel that the emotional world of adults is not like a green melon. It should be picked in time, others do not pick me to pick, can not be wasted...
Everyone is a person who has come over, some things are a matter of course, do not need to be responsible, just look at an eye rim.
At that time, I thought about these messy questions almost every day, longing to be appreciated by her, eager to fall in love with her, and unconsciously fell into the amorous magic path.
Amorousness comes at a cost, and if we don't handle it well, we will be looked down upon by everyone and hurt our families. Unfortunately, I didn't think about the consequences at that time, after all, I hadn't chased her yet, and I didn't need to think so far.
Only afterwards did we realize that when the price of amorousness came, we were already involuntary.
3. Knowing that it cannot be done
During the days when I was friends with her, I learned more and more about her and gradually realized my feelings. If her marriage is happy, she won't pretend to be a strong woman all day...
She is a very strange woman, a strong woman on the surface, and her marriage has long been fragile. I saw the fragility behind her liveliness and cheerfulness, and I also saw the distress and inferiority in her marital feelings.
I thought her marriage was happy and her husband was excellent. Later, I gradually understood that her husband's excellence and non-excellence had nothing to do with whether her marriage was happy or not.
Her husband is indeed "very good" and is better than her in every way. Many women are willing to throw themselves into their arms and slowly take away the love that should belong to her.
Maybe marriage needs to be matched, even if the couple is very good, the marriage may not be smooth. "Excellent" is a charm, and both husband and wife always have a high and a low.
Listening to others, her husband has long been empathetic, and her love is full of scars.
In her marriage, the relationship between husband and wife has long existed in name only. The reason why they have not divorced is not because the husband and wife still love each other, but because the cost of divorce is too great to bear for the time being.
Originally, I only wanted to have an appointment with her, but afterwards I shot and scattered, and did not talk deeply about feelings. But with the understanding of her, I am no longer so frivolous, and I can't bear to hurt her.
Love is accumulated little by little, and if we don't have feelings, even confessions are meaningless. If we have feelings, even if we don't confess, we can wait for the opportunity to love each other.
Whenever she and I looked at each other, I had the illusion that she liked me very much.
I dare not say whether it is the fate of love, after all, we all have families, we can't say love. But I dare say that if we had known each other a few years earlier, if none of them had gotten married, we would have been the best match.
After about half a year of acquaintance, my opinion of her was different from the original. It was the feeling of seeing each other and hating each other late, like a period of unspeakable distress.
Although I was no better than her husband, I was sure that in her heart, I could bring her far more love and care than her husband.
It was also a difficult emotion to explain, knowing that we could not do it, and we were both wrong. We couldn't help but be together that day.
Come to think of it, it was indeed a feeling of love. I am willing to be good to her wholeheartedly, willing to be responsible for her, but I am afraid of affecting her mood, and I am even more afraid of seeing her tears...
Fourth, that relationship destroyed the trust of the husband and wife
It was 4 years ago, we were on a business trip together, and we went to a meeting.
After finishing work that night, I asked her out for dinner. After eating, we walked together and talked as we walked. She received a call from her husband, and the two of them seemed to be arguing, and she hung up crying.
I tentatively asked her: Why are you crying, is there something you can't think of?
She smiled again: I didn't cry, what can I not think of? Let's continue to talk about the topic just now, where did you say it?
Maybe it's because I just finished drinking, I didn't stop my mouth and said a few things that shouldn't be said: I understand your feelings, you don't want to say it. Everyone knows that your husband has a lover outside, don't be sad, one day he will recognize your goodness and will apologize to you.
She turned her face sharply and asked me: Who are you listening to! My husband and I have a very good relationship, we are the first love, more than ten years of feelings, he is not that kind of person, how can you talk about me like this...
She stopped before she could finish speaking, insincerely, and burst into tears. I quickly apologized to her, eager to slap myself a few times.
I comforted her: Don't cry, I didn't mean to make you sad, I didn't mean to laugh at you. I have known you for more than half a year, and I have always regarded you as a friend and hope that your family will be happy.
The woman's heart was so strange that a moment ago she pretended to be strong, and after being poked by me in the sad thing, she actually cried. Seeing that she kept crying, my heart was not a taste, and I apologized to her again and again.
She said: You're right, no need to apologize. I was humiliated for the sake of my children. Half a year ago, I changed to this unit, just to get rid of my troubles, afraid of the discussion of colleagues around me, and paralyzed myself with work. I thought I could disguise it to the end, but you all knew it. Happiness I no longer dare to think, how he treats me, I endure it, slowly pass, who made me so stupid...
She spoke, I listened, and each other's feelings should be mixed.
That day, she was like taking off her disguise and talking endlessly. Without the style of the past, it seems weak and can't help but be windy, chuchu and moving.
From the moment she spoke her heart, she probably regarded me as a confidant.
I cared for her more and had less frivolous fantasies. I just want to be good to her wholeheartedly and give her the comfort of my heart. And she is also a little more dependent on me, often talking to me about emotional matters.
We were together a few weeks later and I became the second man in her life.
In a state of inexorability, we developed into lovers and lasted for more than 2 years. It was a memory that belonged to both of us, I owed her too much, I didn't want to talk about her past, I wished her happiness...
Because of too much investment, that relationship ruined her marriage and family, and also destroyed the trust and tacit understanding between me and my wife.
Men also have stubborn times
For the next 2 years, she and I fell in love with her (lover). Not only did we hurt our own families, but we also made a lifelong commitment to be willing to be together for the rest of our lives.
She had no intention of divorcing, but for my promise, she divorced her husband and took one child with her.
There was also a marital crisis between my wife and me, almost to the point of divorce. My wife forgave me again and again, but I couldn't rest assured of her.
I am an amorous man, but I cannot afford the consequences of being amorous. Never thought that love would bring me unspeakable pain because of my stubbornness, hurt 2 women.
In order to keep my promise, I have words of suffering. I have begged my wife to fulfill us, and I have been willing to leave the house. As long as my wife agrees to divorce me, let me do whatever I want.
For her, I argued with my wife for an unknown number of times. In one quarrel after another, the husband and wife have no trust and no tacit understanding.
I have repeatedly advised my wife to be brave enough to find a love and fulfill our feelings.
My wife was hurt too much by me and gradually became discouraged by me. We have been separated intermittently for more than half a year, although the husband and wife occasionally have companionship, but if the husband and wife are separated, the marriage may end at any time.
2 years ago, my wife said she was in love and agreed to divorce me.
I should have fulfilled my wife, and that meant perfecting myself. But at the last moment, I was suddenly reluctant to divorce.
I was upset that one family was about to fall apart and a 5-year-old boy in another relationship. I had to calm down, love is love, life is life, family is family...
I love her (lover), but I don't want her to take her son with me. She was too stubborn to break up with me than give her young son to her ex-husband.
I didn't want to help her raise the baby, so I had to gamble and break up with her. Although later she really handed over the child to her ex-husband and asked me to reunite, it was too late...
In order to save the family, I had to stay away from her (lover) and be kind to my wife wholeheartedly. My wife forgave me and broke up with the man, and it wasn't long before we got pregnant with my second husband.
The wife wanted to give up the baby in her belly, and she wasn't sure it was mine. But I was ashamed of my wife too much, and I didn't want her to bear the physical pain for me anymore.
It is my insistence on letting my wife keep the children, and I am willing to press a future. Now that I've lost, I don't dare admit that I've lost.
In the last 1 year, I have regretted and blamed myself. Slowly experienced the difficulties of men, and finally knew that he was a spineless man after all.
Men also have stubborn times, but unfortunately I am stubborn in the wrong direction...
This is the end of the marriage case, which is an old case from 1 year ago. He was divorced some time ago, but his former lover had long since remarried for the sake of the child.
I will not comment on this case. There are so many things, so much content, I can just tell the truth, everyone has their own opinion.
Life is varied, and no one's heart is free of distress, but the distress in marriage and love often resents others. In a conjugal relationship, there is no mood more memorable than betrayal, more difficult to write than regret. After suffering a thousand grievances and hiding endless resentments, the most inextricable thing in the future is not divorce, but everything is blamed on themselves.