Text/Summer
01. Preface
Albert Einstein said, "There is nothing more beautiful in the world than to have a few solemn friends who have integrity in mind and heart." ”
In life, we will meet many people and become friends with many people. However, sincerity is hard to change. No one knows if the friends around you are sincere with you.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to choose friends and learn to "break away" from low-level people.
A person, walking with what kind of person, will take what kind of road. If you always spend a long time with a "low-level" person, then sooner or later, he will drag you down.
Those who only want to take advantage of you and say things with feelings, in fact, the brain is full of interests of the shrewd people, and are not suitable for friends. If it's tiring to get along with each other, then don't force yourself anymore.
The guy who pulls you at the wine table all day and listens to him brag, don't socialize too often.
Time is expensive, so don't waste it on "low-level" people. When people reach middle age, the three types of "low-level" people will drag you down and stay away as soon as possible.
02, people who lose their temper at will, emotional instability
Emotionally unstable people are not worthy of deep friendship. People who are emotionally unstable and lose their temper at will are actually very small.
At the end of the Ming Dynasty, Li Zicheng established himself as king and was very prestigious among the people. At the beginning, he wanted to recruit Wu Sangui. However, although the king is capable, he is short-tempered and easily impulsive.
Although he had the heart to be friends with Wu Sangui, he desperately tried to suppress Wu Sangui's colleagues, arrested his father, and raided the house to deter the other party.
Originally, Wu Sangui had the idea of supporting Li Zicheng, but seeing that this person did things as he pleased, he could not control his emotions, and felt that he was difficult to communicate with, so he defected to the Qing army and let him be defeated.
Emotionally unstable, you have to be careful with him. Because, a little carelessness may make him unhappy.
A person can't control his emotions, and often doesn't have much ability and performance. High-level people are good at controlling emotions; low-level people are controlled by emotions.
People who are emotionally controlled and emotionally unstable often hurt others and hurt themselves.
Between friends, if you lose your temper at will, then it is difficult to maintain feelings. A person who has a temper that is on fire should stay away from him as soon as possible, so as not to hurt himself and others.
03, people who do things "three days of fishing and two days of drying nets"
Low-level people, empty dreams, no strong execution, accustomed to the status quo, or self-abandonment and abandonment.
To make friends, you have to look at each other's character. The better the character of the person, the more they know how to manage each other's feelings with their hearts, and the more they know how to make each other achieve a better self.
Low-level people have bad character, bad character, and bad habits. The habit of doing things is "three days of fishing and two days of drying nets", and there is always a lack of integrity.
Between friends, there will certainly be many opportunities to cooperate. If you want to harvest a win-win situation, you must show your sincerity and ability to implement it.
Low-level, bad character people are only used to talking on paper, rather than making substantial efforts, or always retreating in a pinch.
People with unreliable character, do things for three minutes of heat. At first, they will talk about their strength, and when the two reach a cooperation agreement, the other party will irresponsibly give up and find various reasons to excuse themselves.
Making friends with such people can easily be dragged down.
And people who have no ability to act are also accustomed to emitting negative emotions. They can't recognize their own inadequacies, can't suffer, can't be offended, and will drag each other into the water together and live depressed.
To make friends, you must find something reliable and do what you say. Otherwise, when you cooperate, it is easy to give credit to him, and mistakes are pushed on you.
04, bad character, unreliable people
A person's character is not good, so stay away as soon as possible.
In krylov's Fables, it is written: "Choose friends with caution!" Authentic selfishness will put on the mask of friendship, but set traps to pit you. ”
People with bad character are best at "acting". Use superb acting skills to get your heart, but in the end, you know that under the mask of the other party's friendliness is full of intrigue and calculation.
If the other person asks you to help, don't listen to what the other person says, but see how he does it. When paying, slow down, test the other party more, and don't blindly believe in one person.
Don't ignore the other person's real purpose just because the other person gave you some benefits at the beginning, some small profits.
People with ill intentions will always use some small favors to obtain more benefits.
If you find that the other party has a problem with the character, be a person with two sides and three knives, and do not indulge the other party because of the interests involved with the other party. Instead, stay away early to minimize your losses.
05. Summary
When people reach middle age, "low-level" people will drag you down and stay away as soon as possible.
Cai Kangyong said: "Friendship needs to be tested, if friendship is like a fragile vase that shatters when touched, it is not a real friend." ”
When people reach middle age, they learn to choose friends, they do not have to force the number of friends, and they do not have to force themselves in order to conform to the crowd.
Choosing friends should be excellence, care about the quality of friends, and consider each other's personality.
"Low-level" people will be jealous of you, can't see you living a good life, always want to get more benefits from you, and make your life full of ups and downs and setbacks.
If there are such low-level people around you, you should slowly distance yourself from each other and stop coming and going.
When people reach middle age and learn to make friends, they will make their future lives happier. Cherish the friends who are really good to you, in order to make progress together and support each other.
-END-
Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.