One day in 2019, in the obstetrics and gynecology ward of a Zaozhuang Hospital in Shandong, there was a sudden piercing quarrel, and the woman said urgently: "Parents, if you insist on giving birth to this child, we will break off the relationship." ”
The older man said, "Cut it off, it's a matter for the two of us to have a baby, it has nothing to do with anyone." ”
The man's surname is Huang, the woman is his eldest daughter, and the two sides are not happy.
Uncle Huang
The reason for their quarrel was that Uncle Huang's wife, Aunt Tian, was pregnant, which was a good thing for everyone to rejoice, but Aunt Tian was 67 years old and belonged to a super-old mother, and the couple still insisted on giving birth to a child, and the reasons were intriguing.
The elderly mother gave birth to her daughter safely, and the media reported it one after another
When Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian decided to give birth to a child, they were very aware of the difficulties and setbacks they would encounter in the future, but they did not expect that the first difficult gap to cross was their own children.
They have a son and a daughter, and both children are in their forties, all of whom have started a family and started their own families.
"Children and grandchildren are full of halls, and they are on the knees of chenghuan", which is a blessing that many people cannot ask for, so when the children of the Huang family learned that their parents decided to give birth to children, the reasons for opposition were also very simple and clear.
Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian
The sons and daughters-in-law are all people with jobs, and when the two are too busy to get out of their bodies, the granddaughter will be handed over to Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian to take care of. If there is another small child, the son is worried that the body of the second elder cannot withstand the overload of operation, affecting his health.
The son also feels that his children are already in high school, and if the children born by their parents are more than ten years younger than their nephews, this is too bad to say, and it is difficult to talk about it.
The eldest daughter, like her younger brother, is most concerned about the physical condition of the parents, she knows that Aunt Tian's physical condition is not good, and she is worried that after giving birth, her mother's body will be weaker.
Moreover, the eldest daughter also has to go to work, and there are still in-laws in the family who need to be taken care of. If parents do not have the energy to raise their children in the future, the responsibility for taking care of their children in the future all falls on the children, which is a burden for them.
Uncle Huang's family of three
Uncle Huang was very aware of his children's concerns, and he immediately pointed out his own point of view, "The two of us have more than 10,000 retirement salaries every month, enough to support the three of us, and I will also take good care of my wife and children, don't worry about you!" ”
The eldest daughter tried to persuade her for half a day, and when she saw that Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian still insisted on giving birth to this child in her old age, she was forced to threaten her parents with "severing relations", hoping that they could consider the children.
Unexpectedly, Uncle Huang did not want to show weakness and said "harsh words" to his eldest daughter. After that day, the eldest daughter really did not go to the hospital to see them again.
Uncle Huang comforted Aunt Tian and told her to relax her heart and have a child, and no matter what setbacks she encountered, he would spend it with her. Aunt Tian's mood gradually improved, after all, for pregnant people, the quality of emotions directly affects the health of the fetus.
The time passed quickly, and in the blink of an eye, when Aunt Tian was about to give birth, everyone in the hospital was busy with this elderly mother, and a team of experts was set up for Aunt Tian.
The doctor asked the nurse to pay attention to the status of Aunt Tian for 24 hours a day, and any situation should be reported in time, even if it is a small matter of the mother being bitten by a mosquito, after all, anything can be related to the safety of the mother and the fetus.
For the average person, the best childbearing age for women is 25 to 30 years old, and women who exceed this age are called advanced maternal age.
Pregnancy is more likely to develop pregnancy, heart disease and diabetes during pregnancy, and it is more difficult for older women to give birth naturally, and even give birth to deformed babies.
Therefore, it is not easy for the 67-year-old Aunt Tian to give birth, and before she became pregnant, her body had already had various diseases, and when doing pregnancy risk assessment, Aunt Tian was almost all red and high risk.
One day in October, the doctor performed a cesarean section on Aunt Tian, who was 36 weeks pregnant, and Uncle Huang anxiously wandered at the door of the delivery room, hoping that his wife would give birth safely.
Time passed minute by minute, the long-awaited operating room door slowly opened, the doctor held the child and said to Uncle Huang: "It is not Huang Shikai, it is Huang Tianci." ”
It turned out that uncle Huang often talked to the people around him about the child's name before Aunt Tian gave birth, if it was a boy, it was called Huang Shikai, and if it was a girl, it was called Huang Tianci.
In the end, Aunt Tian successfully gave birth to a 6-pound baby girl, and the doctor took into account the maternal age and past medical history, as well as the factors of the newborn's under-term, and sent Aunt Tian to the intensive care unit, and the baby girl was sent to the neonatal care unit for further observation.
Young people have to recuperate after a small operation, not to mention the 67-year-old who has to go through such a big event as having a child. Despite the severe challenges, Aunt Tian was lucky enough to give birth to a child.
The mother and daughter are safe, Uncle Huang is very happy, and every day is busy like a top, on the one hand, he has to take care of his wife and newborn child after surgery, on the other hand, there is a granddaughter who is going to school and a pet dog.
Uncle Huang had to go home early every day and go downstairs on time to walk his dog. Then tell the granddaughter to get up, send her to school after eating, and then rush to the hospital to take care of Aunt Tian and her daughter.
Uncle Huang has been driving for many years, the seats are a little yellow, and now the trunk is full of maternity and infant supplies, and he is also running for his wife and daughter.
In the past, he used to read leisurely with Aunt Tian, then walk his dog in the park, play chess and chat, and finally pick up his granddaughter from school, and occasionally Uncle Huang would take on some cases, and his previous job was a lawyer.
Although Uncle Huang now sometimes feels overwhelmed, he is still extremely happy in his heart, and no matter how tired he is, he feels worth it.
Every time Uncle Huang went in and out of the hospital, the doorman would greet him warmly and congratulate him on his happiness, and the news of his "old age" was not shy in the small town, and the media also rushed to report.
Every day, waves of people came to Aunt Tian's ward to watch the liveliness, and some reporters asked questions about Aunt Tian's postpartum recovery.
Uncle Huang said: "She is recovering well, but the knife edge will still hurt." They also talked about parenting experience, and Uncle Huang suddenly opened the conversation box.
But the daily flow of people visiting has disturbed Aunt Tian's normal rest, she said that she did not want too many people to pay attention to her own affairs, Uncle Huang comforted her: "They are just here to join in the fun, and they will not pay attention to it for a long time." ”
Although Uncle Huang said that he did not care, he quickly told the hospital about his wife's concerns, hoping that the hospital could strengthen relevant measures to let his wife rest well.
The hospital immediately screened the visitors: if they were watching the lively people, they were not allowed to enter so that the patients could get a full rest.
But the online discussion about Uncle Huang and his wife's "old son" has not stopped, but has become more and more intense.
Some people think that their husband and wife are too selfish, although they are not old now, but after all, the age is already there. If the couple gets sick in the future, or if the children grow up with various problems and expenses, the children will eventually become a burden for the children.
But there are also people who hold a different view, the family has a difficult scripture, this is someone else's family affair, and it is not easy to give birth to a healthy child, as a blessing as a bystander.
For the public opinion storm on the Internet, Uncle Huang said: "The most important thing for our husband and wife is to take care of our daughter, and others will do what they say!" ”
Although the opinions of netizens are different, they are very concerned about the reason why Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian have children, after all, they are already children and daughters, and when it comes to enjoying the joy of heaven, why should they take the risk of giving birth to a daughter?
Aunt Tian suddenly fell ill and had a windfall
Previously, a 59-year-old mother was overly sad after the unfortunate death of her eldest son, so she spent a lot of money to give birth to an IVF baby. But Aunt Tian's daughter was completely accidental.
Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian are free love, which is a great event in that era, the two people met when they were less than 20 years old, which shows that the courage of the two is not comparable to ordinary people.
At that time, Aunt Tian was studying at the Health School, and Uncle Huang had already joined the work, and he would ride a bicycle to pick up Aunt Tian every day.
Later, Uncle Huang proposed to Aunt Tian, and Aunt Tian considered it for a long time before agreeing to him. After marriage, the two were very affectionate, and it was not long before they gave birth to a son and a daughter and lived a happy and satisfying life.
After the children became a family, Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian, after retirement, in order not to cause trouble to their children, paid great attention to the health problems of the body and began to learn health.
The two planted some vegetables in their yard, even the rapeseed oil used for stir-frying was squeezed by Uncle Huang himself, and all the food and drinks in the family were made or cooked using the most primitive materials.
The health effect of the two is also particularly obvious, and they look younger than their peers around them. The quality of life of "rich and idle" is vividly reflected in their bodies, which is also their happiest moment.
One day, Aunt Tian suddenly had high blood pressure, followed by the phenomenon of poor breathing and weakness in the body. Uncle Huang was so anxious that he rushed to the Chinese medicine clinic with his wife to check, and the doctor finished the pulse and said that Aunt Tian had symptoms of blood stasis.
The doctor prescribed some Chinese medicines to condition the body and instructed how to take them. After the two returned home, Aunt Tian drank medicine on time every day, hoping that her body would get better soon.
Aunt Tian
After taking several consecutive courses of treatment, Aunt Tian's mental state was getting better and better, her face was rosy, and she felt full of strength. Square dance friends who haven't seen her for a long time say she: "Look a few years younger." ”
A few years later, the doctor gave her other herbs that softened her blood vessels. After drinking Chinese medicine that day, Aunt Tian, who had been stopped for a long time, actually came to a menstrual holiday at night.
Aunt Tian was a little worried and asked the doctor why, but the doctor said that this was a normal phenomenon of taking drugs, and she put her mind at ease. Since then, every month has come to menstrual holidays, which is very regular.
Strangely, after a few months, Aunt Tian's menstrual leave suddenly disappeared, she thought that the side effects had disappeared, at first she did not care too much, and then when she went to the hospital for a routine physical examination, she learned a new surprise - she was pregnant.
Aunt Tian thought that the hospital had misdiagnosed, and went to the city hospital with Uncle Huang for examination, and the doctor told them that they were indeed pregnant.
After learning this news, the old couple was very shocked and did not know what to do for a while. Then the doctor asked them if they wanted the child or not?
On the one hand, Aunt Tian suffers from high blood pressure and diabetes, and on the other hand, whether the 67-year-old mother can give birth smoothly is a big problem.
In this regard, many doctors have said on social platforms: In terms of Aunt Tian's age, no matter how to raise, the ovaries have shrunk and no longer have the function of procreation. If she had not been assisted by other reproductive technologies, it would have been surprising to become pregnant again more than a decade after menopause.
The appearance of this child can be called a miracle in the history of medicine, but "want or not", leaving the old two in a dilemma.
The doctor checked Aunt Tian's pregnancy examination report and found that her physical condition may not be able to withstand the pain of pregnancy, and maybe it will have any impact on the fetus!
Uncle Huang did not want to make a conclusion prematurely, he wanted to first observe whether his wife's physical condition could bear it, and if there was a little problem with her body, or to check that the fetus had any unhealthy conditions, he would take it off at any time.
In the various screening reports of the fetus, the doctor said that the child was very healthy and did not find any disease.
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Aunt Tian, a childcare practitioner at the Maternal and Child Health Hospital before she retired, was well aware of the dangers of abortion and induction of labor, so she would not arbitrarily decide where to stay with the child, she said: "I can't kill my child like that!" ”
The pension of the old couple can be more than 10,000 yuan per month, which may be very general in the big cities of beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, but in Zaozhuang, which is located in the second and third-tier cities, this is a source of income that many people cannot reach.
The favorable family conditions, coupled with Aunt Tian's full knowledge of obstetrics and gynecology medicine, have strengthened the determination of the second elder to be involved in insurance. After Uncle Huang's meticulous care, Aunt Tian finally got her wish and successfully gave birth to a healthy daughter.
But it is worth mentioning that their daughter did not appear in the process of Aunt Tian's childbirth, but she could cut off continuous affection and cut off blood relations, and after the birth of the little daughter, their relationship also turned around.
The eldest daughter changed her attitude and the whole family devoted herself to raising her
From pregnancy to childbirth, Aunt Tian's physical condition is getting better and better, she can run and jump, her blood pressure is not high, and her heart is not uncomfortable.
When she learned that the news of her daughter was hotly discussed by netizens, Aunt Tian's face showed a very unhappy expression. She doesn't like to be pointed at by others, especially about her husband and daughter.
After all, in some cases, language is also a "violent" act for the person concerned. However, under the touch of the little daughter's innocent smile and cute little face, Aunt Tian gradually looked away.
What makes Aunt Tian even happier is that the eldest daughter, who was originally opposed to her parents wanting children, took the initiative to visit her in the hospital after seeing the news on the Internet.
Perhaps because blood is thicker than water, although the eldest daughter is more than 40 years away from her sister Huang Tianci, she still likes her little sister at first sight. The family finally let go of their previous suspicions and decided to work together to raise their young daughter well.
Eldest daughter
The eldest daughter became a pet sister demon, and whenever she had time, she would visit her sister Huang Tianci and buy a lot of beautiful little clothes and cute toys. The appearance of the younger daughter not only eased the relationship with the eldest daughter, but also added a lot of fun to the old couple.
When Huang Tianci was 130 days old, he suddenly opened his mouth and called out to Uncle Huang "Daddy", which made him happy. In order to make the family get along more harmoniously, Uncle Huang also recognized several dry relatives.
Nowadays, the old couple already has four dry sons and two dry daughters, and sometimes when the dry daughter Xiao Yang takes care of Tianqi, he will also open a live broadcast to let everyone see xiao Tianzi's happiness.
Uncle Huang said that they did not accept any gifts, only hoped to make friends with everyone, and these live videos can also be regarded as witnessing the growth of Xiao Tianci.
Uncle Huang's family of three and the eldest daughter
After Uncle Huang became an Internet celebrity, every time he took Xiao Tianci to the street, there would be people watching and greeting, and Uncle Huang would also respond to them warmly, hoping to transmit more happy energy without affecting his life.
Now that Xiao Tianci is two years old, Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian will try to find time to travel with their young daughter in addition to their daily work, hoping to give her enough companionship and good childhood memories.
Regarding the aftermath, the old couple has made plans, including buying insurance and savings. Moreover, the children of the old couple are also willing to take on the obligation of taking care of the little sister.
When asked if Xiao Tianci would regret coming to this world in the future, Aunt Tian gave her answer: "She should be grateful, after all, there was once such a person who desperately took her to this world for a walk." ”
Maybe the future Xiao Tianci will experience various difficulties, but I still sincerely wish her a good and happy life.