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Humans are very strange creatures, and when they can't find love, they cry and look for someone to love themselves. After finding the person who loves himself, he will think left and right in his heart, and measure whether he really loves me.
Such examples are so common that love has begun to distinguish between true and false, and it is not clear.
There are too many people who want to distinguish between their lovers or partners and whether they really love themselves, so it becomes particularly important that partners can trust and support each other. The drama of true and false love is often staged between partners, and questioning, entanglement, and repetition often occur between intimate lovers.
Mr. Yang Dai said that true love and false love usually have three obvious differences, which are easy to judge.
One: You are my firm choice, not a decision after weighing the pros and cons
In recent years, in the very hot talent show, we often hear the audience say who is who is who is mine "one pick": that is the only choice I mean.
The only reason why this choice is particularly precious is that among so many such excellent players, on such a competitive and powerful stage, he can become the "one pick" in whose heart, which is really enough to make him feel comforted and loved.
In the same way, so do we. Each of us not only wants to be known, seen, and understood, but we also want to be chosen, loved, protected, favored, and accepted.
All of our inner needs for emotions are crying out to the same voice: I want to be firmly chosen, not the last resort after weighing the pros and cons.
True love is by no means indecisive, and true love will not always weigh the pros and cons and force you to put yourself on the balance of interests.
A person who truly loves you will not be a dilemma between your illness and overtime at work, because work will not be his consideration option at all, he will not choose to work, because there are many hours of work, 365 days a year, 300 days are basically working, but your illness is the first urgent thing for him.
If a man when you are sick, but also shirk that he is busy at work, overtime late, does not accompany you to the hospital, is not willing to care about your condition, just through the mobile phone to ask a few warm words, how many of these are sincere? Which one is true love? I'm sure everyone can see it clearly.
Two: I understand your strangeness, you understand my cute love
Love is actually a matter between two people, and sometimes, the love between two freaks can also be very beautiful, can also achieve a certain degree of resonance, and can also be as brilliant as fireworks.
Because love is originally a contract between the two sides of your love and my wishes, not the one-way love of one of the parties, nor the forced compromise of one party, but the two people enjoy it happily, which is the real love.
I understand your strangeness, you know my cute love. It's like two people have some petty habits for each other, but they are willing to tolerate and love each other. Both people cherish and love each other's special habits, special "little strange", turning such "small strangeness" into a "small beauty" between the two sides.
It's like the love affair between a little squirrel and a little fox in the animal kingdom. Little squirrels like to hoard food, and like to hoard all the beautiful fruits in their holes in the spring to store winter food.
When you see the pine cone, you have to hoard, when you see the pecan fruit, you want to hoard, and when you see the raspberries that have fallen from the tree, you must also hoard. Squirrels have such a cute hoarding habit.
The little fox likes to play, and likes to collect strange items for the little squirrel, sometimes on the south lake of the animal kingdom, seeing a beautiful pebble, sometimes a yellow leaf falling from a high French plane tree, sometimes two ice cubes seen when passing through the ice world: although when the little squirrel's home was given to her, it had turned into a pool of water.
Maybe other small animals in the animal kingdom will think that the fox is very strange, he always sends some worthless gifts to his lover, but the little squirrel is fully able to accept all the gifts given to her by the little fox, and happily put them in her room to store, and accompany herself through the cold winter.
Who says that such love is not beautiful, sweet and simple?
Three: You can be beautiful alone, but you can also walk all the way
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said to his lover Mr. Yang Dai before writing "The Siege of the City": "I want to write a novel. ”
Mr. Yang Dai was very supportive, so he urged him to write quickly, and then after two years, the book was finally successfully published.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote in the preface to the book "Siege of the City": "I wrote this book for two years. In the past two years, I have been sad and sad, and I have repeatedly wanted to stop. Due to Ms. Yang Chen's constant urging, she blocked many things for me, saved time, and was able to accumulate and write. As usual, this book should be dedicated to her. ”
The love between Mr. Yang Dai and Mr. Qian Zhongshu can be described as a model of beautiful love in the world. Two people can not only look at each other hand in hand, but also face the unknown road ahead together and encourage each other to move forward.
In a real love, no one's characteristics will be erased, and no one's personality will become invisible, because good love can encourage people to be themselves and encourage people to develop more of their inner true selves.
Mr. Yang Dai and Mr. Qian Zhongshu are like this. Although both of them were writers and novelists, their union did not obscure the light of any one person, and the two of them worked hand in hand with each other.
They are not only the most unique stars in the Chinese literary world, but also can accompany each other's writers all the way together, and promote each other's writing and progress.
True love, as it should be, is what it looks like. Two people shine on each other, and the light can overcome the stars. If there is any light that shines brighter than the sun's, then it will probably be the fire of love that bursts out between two people who love each other.
Such a light can shine for a long time under the protection of true love, and it will shine forever.
These are just three ways to distinguish between true love and false love.
When encountering false love, people's first reaction is of course to be depressed and sad, but do not doubt yourself because of this, do not doubt whether it is your own reason not to be loved. No.
The only thing you need to do is stop the loss in time, not deny the value of being loved, and patiently wait for your true love to appear.
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