The private affairs of celebrity families are occasionally broken up when a melon is eaten, most of which are fragrant. But to think that you are on the moral high ground and that you are constantly nagging is inevitably annoying.
According to some netizen statistics, since Wang Lihong's unilateral official announcement of the divorce incident, as of now, Li Lianglei has sent 14 microblogs in a row, adding up to more than 50,000 words of small essays, accusing Wang Lihong, a mabao male, of being a "scum" dressed in the skin of a "high-quality idol". In the name of marriage, the liar palace, YP cheated, homosexuality, serious mental illness, perennial joint family to carry out mental humiliation and bullying of her, can be called a heinous bad man.
But knowing that the man is "slag into pieces", obviously divorced, the virgin-like Li Lianglei did not give up helping her ex-husband find mistakes, mentioning that he repented and rehabilitated, "from the good" to a new life. She does not call the police, does not put down the real hammer, while putting the "scumbag" to death on the Internet, while guarding the children expecting him to return home, creating a false prosperity of fatherly kindness and filial piety.
Wang Lihong made a mistake first, and blamed himself. But just because of a divorce, it was caused by the collapse of people, the destruction of the career, the loss of the future and the loss of the financial road. If the outcome was predicted 8 years ago, it is estimated that Wang Lihong would not have married Li Lianglei if he died.
I don't know why I got married, but divorce must be because I don't feel right and I'm not happy. Take a luxury car and a large amount of real money and silver, risk the huge risk of image collapse, desperately want to leave, 80% is better to live than to die.
Most people's marriages are chicken feathers, and celebrity families are no exception. Fortunately, there is a legal and compliant liberation path of divorce, so that people will not fall into the trap of marriage, they must be tied up, do not struggle, do not resist, do not flee, and remain obedient until they are trapped.
In the era when traffic is king, image and word of mouth are the wealth code of celebrities or idols, who especially cherish their superficial brilliance, and handle major events such as love, marriage, divorce and other major events that are easy to touch traffic fluctuations.
Especially in the treatment of divorce, it is more careful and weighed again and again. After all, in the concept of the Chinese people, only recognizing the white head and the old man is the good end.
Most celebrities divorce, will take the way of Faye Wang Li Yapeng, Zhao Liying Feng Shaofeng, big S Wang Xiaofei, Tong Liya Chen Sicheng, the two sides negotiate in advance, reach a consensus on property distribution and child support, choose the right time for official announcement, decently and friendly one shot and two scatter. Handled neatly and perfectly, not only does not drop the powder, but even rises in an instant, earning inside and outside.
Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei's divorce war, dragging mud and water has been going on for more than a month, and it is still impossible to jump and pull. There is an emotional old Chinese medicine diagnosis, the crux of the problem is that men have long been out of love, so insist on business, everything takes legal channels. But the woman still has no feelings, and from love to hate, she can't keep the title of "Mrs. Wang", so she directly kills Mr. Wang.
When are women the most destructive? It is said that when it is emotionally disappointing and determined to fight back against revenge, the small universe will erupt in a concentrated manner, invincible, and at all costs. For example, Li Lianglei, who stirs up public opinion with her fingers and keyboard, has been duly titled "Lei Shen" by netizens. With the blessing of divine power, Wang Lihong, even though he had a star aura, was also hammered to the point of no strength, and half a life was put into it.
With the development of the incident, the attitude of netizens who eat melons to see the hilarity is also constantly changing. From the excitement of eating melons all night, to voyeurism and privacy, and finally eating melons to nausea and vomiting, and never wanting to see the mess of their home...
For Wang Lihong, I finally saw the true face, but I still want to listen to his songs; for Li Lianglei, the mother of the baby, at first it was sympathy for the support and encouragement, and now I think this woman is really terrible, not to mention that being a wife sleeps next to you, and being a neighbor who often meets is frightening.
After re-reading those small essays on Weibo, I no longer want to stand Li Lianglei. Instead, he began to sympathize with Wang Lihong, wasn't he divorced, but he was stripped inside and out, his bottom pants were torn off, and he was already on his back and chased after him with a large knife. If you are really good for the children, it is better to save some face for their father.
There is a folk saying, called "it is appropriate to stop, too much to be too late". Many things are like this, the Chu River and Han Boundary are painted in the light and in the dark, the feet stand on this side is reasonable, and the feet stretch out to that side will be out of proportion.
There is also a folk saying, called "Be a person to leave a line, and see each other well in the future." "But all parents understand that when a child is young, he most desires both father and mother. If you can't save your marriage and family, don't be unforgiving. Excessive condemnation and denigration of partners is undoubtedly irreversible harm to children in their formative years.
As a mother, I believe that Li Lianglei truly loves her three children, so it is better to stop at the right time and learn to shut up. It is hard to imagine that the father of a child, while being openly hammered to death, is willing to return to his original home, as before in front of his ex-wife and children, and play a "good father" without doing anything.
In a long essay on January 11, Li Lianglei said, "There will be no perfect choice in life, and we can only make the best choice within limited resources." ”
Not only life, marriage will not have a perfect option. It is lucky to raise eyebrows and white heads with old age, it is normal for chicken feathers to be unpleasant to each other, and it is not unusual to scatter and run away halfway. Blushing face to face, hate to leave with red eyes, goodbye or never again, it doesn't matter. The important thing is that letting go of each other is also sparing yourself, and you don't have to forcibly tie each other up and wear each other, spending precious lives.
In response to Wang's father's long essay, Li Lianglei mentioned that Wang Lihong said, "We are all adults, and when something happens, we should face it ourselves, and we are responsible for what we do." "Yes, adult men and women should have reason and responsibility, a marriage can not be torn apart, but think more about their responsibilities."
Marrying and having children, eating and drinking Lazar, there are old and young, endless and endless housework, whose married life is not a chicken feather? But li Lianglei's extreme is not common.
There is no bottom line when he is loved, no matter how many bed friends he has outside, he still farts and goes into marriage with him; in marriage, he is "humiliated and bullied" by the husband's family, but as long as he wants to have children, she dedicates her body, one after another; he likes to cheat and have a single life, she closes her eyes and connivances and promises as long as she goes home...
When he was not loved and divorced, he tore the former pillow person to the skin in public, and the flesh and blood were blurred, which made people creepy when they thought about it.
The mouth is a wounding axe, the speech is a tongue cutting knife, and adults should consciously achieve "a degree of opening the mouth, and a ruler of speech.". Besides, for couples who have met frankly, who are at home in front of their partners, and still pretend to be a decent gentleman at all times?
Exploding the privacy of the ex is one of the most off-the-table behaviors of adult men and women.
Regarding what love is, in the Hong Kong film "Zhong Wuyan", there is a famous and extreme sentence, "Love is hegemony, destruction and destruction, in order to get the other party by any means, do not hesitate to make the other party sad, when necessary, two pieces of jade are burned." ”
Used on Li Lianglei, this sentence is very suitable. This kind of love is indeed warm, but because it is too selfish and poisonous, it is not suitable for mortals who want to live a long time. If you don't get it or once you lose it, you will completely destroy it, and when you meet such a partner, you may be afraid to avoid it.
When Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong were married, they were 27 years old and were highly educated adult mature women. If, as she herself said, adults should face it themselves when something goes wrong, why blame all the misfortunes of her marriage on the man who married her.
I chose that person, I chose marriage, I chose to have a baby, have you reflected on your responsibility? If there is a problem in the marriage, both people must be responsible. Only look for reasons from each other, without reflecting on yourself, the next marriage will most likely hit the rocks.
From Li Lianglei's nearly 50,000 words, she has not been able to see her clear appeal. Sometimes it is said that we must protect the family for our children, sometimes we say that we must get the benefits that should be taken, sometimes we say that we must ensure that the "quality of life" remains unchanged, and sometimes we say that we must help Wang Lihong to become a person again...
Lifting the veil that seems to be very powerful and independent, what you see is that you want to save the title of "Mrs. Wang" at all costs. After enduring humiliation and burden in marriage for a long time, Li Lianglei's heart really has no bottom and no sense of security.
Li Lianglei should be sober, no matter how big the eaves of others are, they are not as good as having an umbrella themselves. A woman's confidence and sense of security are not given by men, not given by marriage, and can only be given to themselves.
Whether it is to work as a full-time wife and work as a family worker, or to return to the workplace to fight for a career, women will be able to reflect their own value everywhere. It is important to remember not to give up on yourself and lose yourself for anyone else.
When you despise yourself, no one must take you seriously. There will be no perfect options in life, but we can still try to live to the extent that we can live up to our own.