2021 Growth Science Edition Golden Sentence Collection
——Supporting the implementation of the "Family Education Promotion Law" with "Method Support"
Looking back at 2021, the most powerful keywords for the state to support child-friendliness at the institutional level, we cannot fail to mention the "Law on the Protection of Minors", "Double Reduction", "Family Education Promotion Law"... With the promulgation of relevant policies and regulations, parents are paying more and more attention to family education and scientific parenting.
In 2021, our "Growth Science Special Edition" will continue to select social hotspots as cases and invite industry experts to comment, in order to provide professional parenting support to parents. In terms of family education, we not only let parents "know what it is, but also know why it is so"; not only know why it is so, but also know how to change the concept of education into a specific method.
In the past year, the CPPCC National Committee members organized the "Seven-Day Talk on Family Education" in the Reading Group, and we jointly promoted it on the page, set off a "family education discussion", and successively launched a series of topics such as "School Education and Family Education Which Has a Greater Impact on Children", "Whether to Punish in Family Education", "Advantages and Disadvantages of Intergenerational Education", etc. These topics are discussions, exchanges, and even debates of educational viewpoints, and comprehensively and three-dimensionally present the members' views on family education.
On January 1, the much-anticipated Family Education Promotion Law was officially implemented. In 2022, when the era of "raising children according to law" opens, we will continue to take the profession as the oar and help thousands of children grow up steadily and farther by influencing parents. We also believe that with the continuous awakening of more parents' parenting awareness and the continuous learning of scientific parenting concepts and intelligent parenting methods, the growth of more children will be supported. - Editor
Keywords Effective communication
Problem phenomenon: In the face of the growth of children, everyone wants to give their children what they think is the "best". And if the "tiger mother" meets the "cat father"; one advocates "chicken baby", one advocates "waiting for the flowers to bloom" - what if the parenting concept is not unified between parents? In the face of the conflict of educational views, how to communicate better in the family?
Growth support: Life is like a practice, parents in educating their children at the same time, but also another upgrade of their own cultivation. When couples encounter different views on education, first, seek common ground while reserving differences, and reach a parenting consensus in order to have the opportunity to solve problems. Second, in the event of a conflict, the husband and wife should respect each other, discuss the matter, and not blame each other. Third, no matter who is right and who is wrong, the child is a victim of emotion. Therefore, in the face of conflict, couples should understand each other, deal with the conflict rationally, and reduce the harm caused by emotional fluctuations.
Keywords Critical art
Problem phenomenon: Praise is easy to criticize. In recent years, the tragedy of teenagers who have committed extreme behavior after being rudely criticized by parents has appeared in the news from time to time. In the face of growing children, how should parents grasp the right balance and artistically criticize in order to receive positive results? How do we guide children to look at criticism that points to themselves scientifically?
Growth support: First, criticism is an essential part of education, and education with only appreciation is necessarily an incomplete education. Second, criticism should be right about things and not right for people. You can't splash the bath water even with the child. Third, we must also teach children to set up a firewall in the face of incorrect, irrational and unobjective criticism of adults, and not to bring too much harm to themselves because of the problems of adults themselves.
Keywords Learn to choose
Problem phenomenon: With the implementation of the new middle and high school entrance examinations throughout the country, the selection of subjects, professional reporting and future career planning have put forward unprecedented requirements for students' ability to choose. At every juncture in life, how to choose what you like and what kind of choice is suitable for you is related to inner happiness. Therefore, learning to choose has become a compulsory course for everyone.
Growth support: In the journey of life, we will come to the crossroads countless times, go to the left, or go to the right, in the face of different choices, the scenery of life will be completely different. In the face of choice, parents must respect their children's disposition and interests, encourage and care for their children's own choices, and not blindly replace their children's choices. And only when a person chooses what he really likes in his heart, can he persevere and work hard to move forward.
Keywords Face failure
Problem phenomenon: After the release of the results of the high school entrance examination every year, those children whose test scores are relatively backward and the scores are lower than expected and their parents often have negative emotions such as "disappointment, pain, sadness, regret, guilt and even anger". How to face "failure" with children, learn to "lose" with dignity, how to help children see positive values in negative events, choose positive actions, and maintain an optimistic life?
Growth support: No one likes to fail, but it is certain that no one can always succeed, and how to face "failure" is a compulsory lesson in life. Research has found that the true source of emotions is our cognitive and belief systems. In fact, as long as you help children correctly understand "failure", let children bravely face "failure", and then choose responsibly and act positively, they will grow up because of "failure", be strong because of "setbacks", and improve because of "unsatisfactory".
Keywords "intrinsic drive" cultivation
Problem phenomenon: In reality, many people have not formed a necessary and sufficient internal driving force in their entire lives. Many children need external constraints or incentives to drive their own development, and this passive growth often causes unsustainable and unstable self-development. How to stimulate the child's internal drive has become a topic that parents must pay attention to.
Growth support: The internal driving force is the internal driving force for a person to firmly aim, overcome difficulties, and grow independently. In education, cultivating and improving children's internal drive is a basic project to help children grow and realize themselves. To cultivate the child's internal drive, first of all, the parents or teachers should avoid causing limited cognition to the child, and secondly, the parents or teachers should focus on creating a positive experience for the child; for this reason, it is necessary to do that the child's responsibility belongs to the child, and the child's grades also belong to the child, so that the child can get a full sense of gain after his own leading efforts. Finally, after the child's internal drive is stimulated and cultivated, the external drive assistance system of parents or teachers should be hidden, continue to empower the child's self-worth, and consolidate the child's internal drive.
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Keywords Face up to separation anxiety
Problem phenomenon: In the process of growing up, it is inevitable that there will be events such as moving and further education, accompanied by the separation from classmates and friends, and the separation from the old environment. How to guide children to overcome separation anxiety, adapt to the new learning and living environment, and become a lesson that parents and children need to face together.
Growth support: Anxiety is a normal response to self-protection, indicating that children respond to changes in the environment, can recognize and perceive changes in the environment, and produce emergency defenses against unfamiliar and dangerous environments. When the child is about to enter a new environment, parents should consciously pay attention to the child's emotions or behavior performance, through observation and feedback, help the child realize the changes that have occurred in themselves, and then help the child accept the facts that have happened, analyze and explore the new environment with the child, formulate an action plan, and finally guide the child to take the initiative to take the initiative to take behavior to speed up the process of adaptation. This will bring a new balance between the child's performance and the needs of the environment.
Keywords Online games
Problem phenomenon: With the popularization of mobile phones and mobile Internet, the growth environment of minors is more colorful, and the problem of addicted to online games is becoming more and more prominent. It is the nature of the child to have fun and play and it is also the right of the child. What role do video games play in the development of children and adolescent students? Should I expose my child to online games?
Growth support: Online games themselves are the product of scientific and technological and humanistic progress, and good use is a "good medicine", and improper grasp becomes a "poison", so the key to the problem is the grasp of the degree. In order to prevent children from excessively indulging in the abyss, parents have the obligation to guide their children to use electronic products scientifically. At the same time, parents can often chat with their children about things that their children are interested in, participate in meaningful activities that children are interested in, respect children's cognition, and meet children's needs for spiritual love, thereby reducing children's desire to go online. Parents should believe that when a child has a strong dream in life, the game will inevitably give way to him to work hard for the dream, and even the character stories in the game will help him to strive for the dream.
Keywords Alternate generations of parenting
Problem phenomenon: Influenced by traditional concepts and the existence of social pressure, the phenomenon of intergenerational education is widespread in rural and urban Areas in China. More and more young people are entrusting their children to their grandparents. There are pros and cons to intergenerational parenting. How to really give full play to the advantages of intergenerational parenting and avoid the negative impact of intergenerational parenting?
Growth support: First, grandparents should recognize that parents are the primary responsibility for children's development. Grandparents should not take responsibility for their parents, but should play an auxiliary and assisting role. Second, in parenting, grandparents should fully recognize and respect the rights of children to survival, development, protection and participation. Third, in the context of today's reality in our country, we must advocate the intergenerational education model of "joint parenting supplemented by parents as the main ancestors". Fourth, it is necessary to clarify the boundaries of intergenerational education. In the event of conflict, grandparents should first respect the decisions made by their parents in front of their grandchildren in order to maintain their parents' authoritative position in the hearts of their grandchildren and form a healthy parent-child relationship, so that parents can smoothly complete the transition to full parenting responsibility.
Keywords Time management
Problem phenomenon: Time is the most important resource, but in reality, many parents will lack the awareness and habit of managing time, so that they often neglect the company of their children because of work. How to develop the awareness and habit of time management and cultivate time literacy?
Growth Support: Time management has three elements. First, set goals. Know and stick to the goals of inner identity, long-termism, and return to essence. Second, the priorities based on long-term goals come first. Anything can be categorized from two dimensions: importance and urgency. Important things always come first. Third, efficient execution. In short, the skills of time management do not have to be many, choose three or five that suit you, and repeat the implementation. If a person can adhere to time management and arrange his work and life in an orderly manner, he can experience greater value and significance.
Keywords Family food education
Problem phenomenon: The family affects the child's eating habits and nutritional health. Today's table is not only related to the health of children tomorrow, but also has more meaning for growth. How to let children develop good eating habits and healthy eating concepts?
Growth support: today's family table, tomorrow's family health. Allowing children to eat nutritiously and grow up healthy is the foundation of parenting. Behind the table is more likely to be a family culture. Where does family feeding start? From the perspective of educational space, planting, cooking and eating are the three major contents of diet education. Through the study of parent-handed children, the balcony is turned into a vegetable garden, the kitchen is turned into a classroom, and the dining table is turned into a classroom. Especially in some important family activities, where the family gathers around a table with flowers and candles and tastes seasonal and local delicacies, these activities are themselves a vivid family food education.
Keywords Exercise habit formation
Problem phenomenon: What causes many parents a headache is that no matter how much persuasion, children would rather hold their mobile phones to play games than go outdoors. How to let children develop the habit of exercise from an early age, and how can families establish exercise plans and implement them well?
Growth support: People who develop lifelong exercise habits often have the willpower to move forward and the awareness of following the rules. In the cultivation of children's sports literacy, parents cannot rush to achieve quick success or let it go. First, the time is best fixed, and the task is very clear and quantitative. Second, the amount of exercise should be scientific and reasonable. Movement is a continuous process, scientific and reasonable, do not rush forward, believe in the power of time. Parent-child accompaniment and scientific guidance, children will gradually fall in love with sports, and persevering in sports has become a child's living habit.
Keywords Sleep management
Problem phenomenon: At present, the increasingly fierce social competition has increased the academic pressure of children and adolescents, exacerbating the crisis of sleep defects.
Growth support: Both brain development and behavioral development are inseparable from healthy sleep. Families with "sleep crises" may wish to work with their children to develop a schedule, and the family will supervise and remind each other. When it is time to fall asleep, turn off the lights, turn off all electronic devices, and create a comfortable and quiet sleeping environment for the whole family to be healthy and happy.
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Keywords How to learn English more efficiently
Problem phenomenon: During the two sessions of the National People's Congress in 2021, the proposal of "canceling the status of English main courses" put forward by some members rushed to the hot search as soon as the media reported on the media, triggering heated discussion in society. Parents don't just want to ask: Does learning English really interfere with mother tongue learning? Does the child want to learn English?
Growth Support: Brain science experts have found that learning a foreign language does not interfere with the mother tongue and the "main subject" of mathematics. And bilingual learning has a promoting effect on brain structure development. In terms of cognition, learning two languages contributes to the development of advanced cognitive functions such as attention shifting. Moreover, learning a foreign language also has a protective effect on preventing brain aging in the elderly. But experts say learning English is not as early as possible, and that its effectiveness depends on how long it lasts. And the learning environment and experience are also factors that affect the level of English. In short, from the perspective of personal growth and development, long-term, high-level foreign language learning has a significant role in promoting individual brain development.
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