Parents are the child's first teacher, every word and deed will be learned and imitated by the child... Therefore, the words and deeds of parents, and even the temperament will subtly affect the child. The following aspects parents must pay attention to! If there is a change, if there is no, it will be encouraged.
The 10 worst habits that parents are most likely to "bring" to their children
1
Criticize children in public
Some parents may criticize their children in public when they make mistakes in order to save face or want their children to recognize their mistakes as soon as possible. But although the child is small, he will also have self-esteem, if the speech is not appropriate, it is easy to be hurt, so that he feels inferior, or has a rebellious psychology, but also to fight against you to save self-esteem. This not only affects the feelings between parents and children, but also does not allow children to recognize their mistakes.
Suggestion: The child who makes a mistake can be pointed out in time, but the attitude must be gentle, tell him why he is wrong, your purpose is to let the baby correct the mistake, not to hit him in public.
2
Impatient and temperamental
Sometimes parents will be very tired after a day of work, and when they encounter children who are disobedient, they will be very impatient to reprimand their children. This will first cause a great psychological burden to the child, increase his fear, and is not conducive to the child's psychological construction. At the same time, it will make the child a grumpy person, unable to control and manage his emotions well. Only by respecting the child can the child learn to respect others.
Suggestion: Learn to manage your emotions, there is really no way to control, do not erupt in front of the child, give the child a good family atmosphere and growth environment.
3
Likes to argue with people and be preoccupied
Some parents may not want to let themselves suffer a little loss, so they will habitually become a little calculating, and if they suffer a loss, they will argue with people. This way of socializing will make children mistakenly think that it is quarrels and insults, and that this is the only way to resolve conflicts. It is also easy for children to become stingy, so that children's social ways change, making it difficult for children to make friends. In addition, parental quarrels will provide a bad example for the child to learn aggressive behavior, such as swearing and foul language.
Suggestion: Sometimes do things more tolerantly, so that children feel that their parents treat others, their own acceptance, permission, appreciation and recognition; in addition, they must understand the art of communication, and know how to use skills and methods to communicate when they suffer losses.
4
Say bad things about your elders
Some families have some contradictions, which will cause dissatisfaction between family members. Young children have poor discernment ability and say bad things in front of them at will, which will make children see the shadow of respecting parents and elders from adults. Over time, in the usual relationship, the child will not become disobedient, and even resist. And children who see the mutual dissatisfaction between their families will slowly become inferior, cowardly or full of resentment.
Suggestion: Often and the child wants to do what kind of things will make the elders happy, in front of the child to the parents to accept the parents' accusations, talk to the elders respectfully, try not to clash with the parents in front of the children, blame the elders, or the elders' bad words
5
Always compare your own children to others
There is a kind of child called someone else's child, parents always like to compare other children with their own children, hoping to stimulate children's self-motivation. First of all, parents may have their own psychological gap, thinking that their children must be stronger than other people's children and thus being too strict with their children in parenting, or because they always say to their children, "How do you see XXX" or the like, let the children always pay attention to other people's children, it is easy for children to be affected by the outside world, and become unconfident, inferior or rebellious.
Advice: Don't always measure your child by the standards of other babies, let the child develop freely in a natural way, as long as he does not have a lag, slow situation, do not have to worry too much.
6
Interrupt someone
Children have just begun to learn to speak, express a strong desire, see parents like to interrupt others to speak, will let the child slowly learn this bad habit, but also slowly like to interrupt others to speak.
Suggestion: Parents should teach by example, usually when talking to their children, follow the principle of polite speaking, do not interrupt the child's speech at will, and only catch the child's topic after the child has finished speaking. Before a friend visits, tell your child in advance that there will be something very important to talk about, and ask him not to interject or interrupt the adult conversation.
7
Be diligent and thrifty yourself, and be generous with your children
Some parents save money and are generous to their children, thinking that this is to love their children, but they may also let their children learn to be luxurious, do not understand returns and pay, will not save, planned expenditure and other good financial concepts.
Advice: Love a child is not about giving him something expensive, but about giving him what is right. Teaching children to manage money from an early age, knowing gratitude and return, and understanding the principle of frugality is the best for children.
8
Procrastination, no concept of time
Now some parents do things a little procrastination, the concept of time is lacking, such a practice will continue to the child, easy to let the child also have no concept of time, not punctual, late and other adverse events do not have a correct understanding, it is easy to have similar problems in the future.
Tip: Instill a view of time in children from an early age and let them understand the importance of time. Usually do things must be carried out according to the plan, strictly according to the prescribed time to complete, do not always "come to Japan for a long time".
9
Say dirty words
If parents usually have the habit of "exporting dirty", or always do something impolite, the child is likely to have a kind of learning, and gradually turn these behaviors into part of their own behavior in the long-term imitation, becoming a rude person who says, swear words and do bad things. This will affect the child's relationships and make people disliked. In the future, whether in interpersonal relationships, academics, and careers, no politeness will become a stumbling block for children.
Advice: Examine your own behavior, be a civilized and polite person, and give your children a good example. In educating children, words and deeds are inseparable parts.
10
Do not follow traffic rules
Look at the left and right no one, no car, just randomly run the traffic lights, which not only threatens the safety of themselves, children and others, but also makes children do not pay attention to traffic rules, there is a fluke mentality. Children who do not have a sense of safety and self-protection are vulnerable to danger, whether they are away from home or at home.
Tip: Follow the traffic rules whether you are taking your child out or not. Usually, I also try to tell my child the importance of obeying traffic rules, and tell him that this is actually protecting himself.