The other day, there was a piece of news that really made me feel strange.
A mother in Heze, Shandong Province, posted inappropriate videos of 11-year-old siblings sleeping naked together on the account "Little Chick Daily".
Netizens have joined forces to report this matter, and relevant departments have also intervened in the investigation.
But this mother doesn't seem to care, and even thinks: This is just the daily life of brothers and sisters, netizens are too fussy!
However, is it really netizens who feel surprised?
Now the account searching for this "chick daily" has been banned.
However, through some screenshots of previous netizens, some clues can still be found.
Chicks generally keep 4-5 videos a day, and there are a lot of content that makes me feel uncomfortable watching.
For example, the brother hugged his sister directly from behind and touched her sister.
For example, the brother rides on the younger sister.
Even when my brothers and sisters slept in a bed, their underwear and underwear were casually thrown outside the quilt.
Is this really a record of your child's growth? This daily life is also too uncomfortable!
Many netizens watched these "confused" daily routines and questioned the little chick mother.
But the mother responded: "I don't know which god maliciously edited it?" ”
Please, aren't netizens watching the video you sent directly? Could it be that you maliciously edited it for the sake of eyeballs?
Even for her brother's misconduct, the little chick's response was unbelievable: "An eight-year-old is more than a ten-year-old, and I don't think about it so much." The child is simply close, there is no indecency. ”
Netizens questioned her speech in the live broadcast, feeling that "now the child is very precocious, and the eleven-year-old understands everything." ”
When the little chick mother saw this comment, she just smiled and said, "Not all boys are precocious, and my son still doesn't understand anything!" ”
After investigation, the relevant departments responded that the content transmitted online was not true.
But netizens don't seem to buy it.
In fact, it is not the first time that the little chick mother has aroused heated discussion among netizens.
Before she ordered takeout, a family of four ordered three bowls of chutney. Because there was not enough to send the fee, my mother ordered a bowl of seaweed egg flower soup.
Chutney: one for dad, one for son, one for daughter and mom.
Obviously, her daughter did not eat enough, so she also gave her daughter two bites, and she also called it a beautiful name: her daughter wanted to lose weight.
It doesn't make it clear that the seaweed egg flower soup is not much cheaper than the sour chili powder, what is wrong with ordering more bowls for my daughter? The daughter said that she didn't have enough to eat, so why don't you give her the egg flower soup to drink! Is it really fun to shoot the "gluttonous" that your daughter can't eat and wants to eat to win traffic? 8-year-old children are still in the stage of growing up
Everyone caused a hot discussion, and the traffic of the account naturally came.
As soon as the traffic came, the little chick's mother felt that the "business opportunity" was coming, and she was harsh on the little chick for "intensifying". Consuming daughters has become the theme of the chicks' videos.
In contrast, parents "nibble on the baby", consume children, and rely on children to make money. In fact, netizens are more concerned about "should we avoid suspicion between brothers and sisters?" ”
This topic seems to have been widely discussed since a long time ago.
Whether it is the degree of discussion on the relevant topic or some anonymous contributions on Weibo, the attitude of this topic is basically the same:
At a young age, it was understandable. (It's just understandable, doesn't mean you don't have to avoid suspicion)
When you are older, you must avoid suspicion.
According to the research of children's experts, children have gender awareness around the age of 3, and they have learned to use their eyes to observe what is different between themselves and their parents.
At the age of 5, it is a sensitive period for the development of children's gender consciousness, and some children will even germinate unethical ideas of "wanting to marry their brother and sister".
As the saying goes: three years old sees old age. In fact, once some consciousness is formed, it is difficult to change.
There is a female star in Japan who grew up bathing with her father and brother.
It's not that the swimming is covered, it's the naked bath in the bathroom at home.
The female star is now in her 20s and has no gender awareness. You can go directly into the bathtub while your brother is soaking in the bath and chatting together.
After my brother finished soaking and leaving, he changed his father to take a bath and chat together, and he didn't feel embarrassed at all.
After the matter was exposed, the family did not care at all, and even felt that if they did not bathe together in the future, the family might be estranged from each other and be greatly hurt inside.
I really can't understand it
Although each family has a different way of education, everyone should not be too harsh, but the good guys should know that there is a difference between men and women
Even the family members should have a degree of certainty, right?
After all, once beyond the normal range, love becomes "harmful." The borders are confused, and it is easy to have a lot of bad effects eh!
"Parents are a child's first teacher." This truth is the same.
Teaching children to be different between men and women, having a sense of gender, is also a kind of protection for children.
The formation of a child's initial sexual consciousness is constantly generated in the interaction with the family.
Some cross-border "communication" is not conducive to the growth of children, which will make children misunderstand the proper distance between the opposite sex and the opposite sex.
According to previous surveys, more than 70% of sexual assault cases are committed by acquaintances.
Because the initial education on this aspect is not in place, resulting in no sense of distance between children and acquaintances, which greatly increases the possibility of acquaintances committing crimes.
Parents need to let their children understand from an early age that your body is your master, and no one can touch it without permission, including your parents.
Although it is said that "the body is affected by the parents", after the child is born, he has become an independent individual, and others have no right to force and interfere with him.
For an independent individual, only by determining his own "territory" will he respect the territory of others and establish good, positive and healthy interpersonal relationships.
Otherwise, the intimate relationship established without their own "private territory" may affect the child's normal growth and development trajectory.
Like we often see reports of boys going to the women's toilet. It is precisely because they have no sense of boundaries for their own "territory" that they will have no sense of boundaries for other people's territory, and they should do something that is contrary to public order and good customs.
Therefore, as a parent, we must let our children establish gender awareness and a sense of boundaries as soon as possible.
Although in real life, the sense of boundary between hands and siblings is difficult to fully grasp.
But there are still certain principles about what can and what can't.
Don't feel that having a certain boundary alienates you from brotherhood.
Brothers and sisters should be interdependent and independent of each other. While achieving each other, they also have their own bright future.
Everyone's life is independent, bounded love can heat up family affection, and measured love will not bind children.
No matter when and where, it is necessary to clarify the "distance" between parent-child relationship and brotherhood. Only in this way can the child receive true love and respect.
And not a cover-up for some "perverted" behavior.
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