When Wu Eleven was still in elementary school, his parents divorced.
Wu Tianyi and Zhang Yingnan, a loving husband and wife, became a resentful couple and divorced, which was the best choice at that time.
Even her daughter Wu Eleven feels that her parents are not in harmony, quarrels and complaints have become the norm in marriage, and it is better to let each other have a way to live than to consume each other.
Wu Eleven said to the Marquis: "My parents have been divorced for 17 years, and my father still wants to remarry my mother, but my mother refuses, and both of them are single." ”
Zhang Yingnan would rather be single for 17 years than accept her ex-husband Wu Tianyi, which shows how disappointed she was in this marriage.
After the divorce, Zhang Yingnan and Wu Tianyi's lives were very different.
Zhang Yingnan's true secret of insisting on divorcing Wu Tianyi
Zhang Yingnan is a teacher at the Civil Aviation School, with a decent work, elegant temperament, fifty-year-old charm, maintaining a good state, from time to time there are men to show her kindness, but she loves to enjoy the joy of being single.
And Wu Tianyi, due to lack of personal ability, doing business, doing investment, failed many times, not only lost the family foundation, but also owed a lot of foreign debts, and her daughter Wu Eleven had to pay off her father's debts.
"Three Lives Have the Luck to Meet You" drama mentioned that if it were not for Wu Tianyi, Wu Eleven would have gone abroad for training, and his future would have been delayed by Wu Tianyi, not to mention, he would have to rely on being a bodyguard, earning hard money, and cleaning up the mess of Wu Tianyi.
His daughter was desperately trying to help him, but he was drunk, decadent, paralyzing himself, and Wu Tianyi's "mourning" was what Zhang Yingnan most despised.
Zhang Yingnan repeatedly advised Wu Tianyi to cause less trouble to his daughter, and Wu Tianyi gradually realized that his "uselessness" had tired his daughter.
Fifty years old and still has nothing, Wu Tianyi got up again, by handing out leaflets, doing some odd jobs, etc. to make a living, but no matter how hard he tried, the money he earned was only barely enough to make ends meet.
Seeing the current situation of the two, I knew why Zhang Yingnan insisted on divorcing Wu Tianyi.
Zhang Yingnan relied on himself and lived a decent life in the middle class, while Wu Tianyi was still struggling at the bottom, and the gap between the two people was getting wider and wider, and Wu Tianyi was not worthy of Zhang Yingnan for a long time.
A good partner may not necessarily bring you good material conditions, but mentally, it must be able to bring you hope; Wu Tianyi will only drag Zhang Yingnan's hind legs.
There is a scene in the play "Three Lives Have the Luck to Meet You", seeing Zhang Yingnan eating ice cream in the mall, Wu Tianyi asked her, before she was most afraid of eating sweets and getting fat, why do you still eat this kind of thing now.
Zhang Yingnan said without anger: "Originally, I didn't eat because I was in a bad mood, but now that I'm in a good mood, I can eat whatever I want." ”
One sentence tells the truth about her suffering in her last marriage.
Zhang Yingnan married Wu Tianyi, tired of chai rice oil and salt, and could not see the hope of life, no money, nor the mood to enjoy a dessert, marriage brought her, not happiness, but consumption.
Without Wu Tianyi, Zhang Yingnan lived more and more beautifully, and in her petty bourgeois temperament, she hid the truth that she did not want to remarry.
Zhang Yingnan, who is addicted to singleness, has completely understood
Pulling out of the muddy marriage, Zhang Yingnan saw through the cruelty of marriage.
She didn't want to jump into another fire pit easily, serve men, give men a bottom, and when people reach middle age, she knew what she wanted.
Zhang Yingnan's single life is much more exciting than Wu Tianyi's.
Work is not busy, after class driving a luxury car to do beauty, watch movies, dating, care about the marriage of the daughter; have money, have freedom, no lack of love, such a life, than accompanying a bad man to stay up for a long time is much cooler.
Zhang Yingnan has no shortage of suitors, and her ex-husband Wu Providence has long been unable to enter her eyes.
Seeing Zhang Yingnan happily going to the movies alone, I know that she can live well alone, and at the age of fifty, she still maintains a girlish heart, no wonder she looks young and does not look old.
Li Fu, who also came to watch the movie, saw Zhang Yingnan, and asked her to watch it together, and Zhang Yingnan's relationship with him showed her super high emotional intelligence.
The movie is about a man's sour, sweet and bitter life, Li Saw the sensational place, could not help but shed tears, Zhang Yingnan thoughtfully handed him a tissue.
Walking out of the movie theater, Li Asked Zhang Yingnan, a big man is still crying, is it a shame, Zhang Yingnan said: "This shows that you are a person who is very affectionate and righteous." ”
Zhang Yingnan not only did not laugh at him, but moderately praised, and getting along with such a woman made people feel comfortable.
Zhang Yingnan, let us see another way of living for middle-aged women, too rare.
In the 17 years after the divorce, Zhang Yingnan insisted on refusing to remarry because she had enough confidence.
She is independent, decent in work, not short of money, not short of people to accompany, her daughter is very well trained by her, unless she can meet a very satisfied partner, otherwise not getting married, for her, it really means little.
Middle-aged people remarry, it is inevitable to weigh the pros and cons, calculate each other, she has no willingness to go to other children as a stepmother, to serve each other's family, Zhang Yingnan, will no longer be wronged herself.
Do what you like, care about the people you care about, spend every day gracefully and calmly, not anxious about the future, not painful for the past, her transparency is sharpened.
Zhang Yingnan "shot" three times to help her daughter Wu Eleven get happiness
The Marquis said that he had had enough of his father Hou Zhirong's oppression, and Wu Eleven said, "I was also raised by cold water." ”
Zhang Yingnan, who has high requirements for Wu Eleven, once complained about her mother's "hope daughter Chengfeng", but she soon understood Zhang Yingnan's good intentions.
Wu Shiyi said: "She hopes I can do better. ”
It shows that Zhang Yingnan's education is by no means simply suppressed, but "rigid and soft". Wu Eleven can appreciate his mother's intentions, and under the encouragement of his mother, Wu Eleven has won the sports championship many times, from small to large.
Without Zhang Yingnan, wu Tianyi would hardly have achieved anything by relying on Wu Tianyi alone.
Zhang Yingnan's second shot directly let people see her strength.
Wu Eleven's boyfriend Zhu Dapeng cheated, Wu Eleven was disappointed, Wu Tianyi was so angry that he had a heart attack, Zhu Dapeng not only did not apologize and explain, but blackmailed Zhang Yingnan, and Zhang Yingnan only helped Zhu Dapeng's cousin introduce the work not long ago.
Zhu Dapeng's ruthlessness made Zhang Yingnan intolerable, and Zhang Yingnan gave Zhu Dapeng a fatal blow.
Zhu Dapeng was in the writers' competition, ranked tenth, Zhang Yingnan found his students on the street to the eleventh place to canvass, quickly overtake Zhu Dapeng, Zhang Yingnan said: "I want to eradicate pests for the writers industry." ”
Zhang Yingnan has countless ways to deal with Zhu Dapeng, but she does not refuse to forgive, because she is not a person who is addicted to the past, and she is more concerned about Zhu Dapeng who is out of the game, but the other two suitors around Wu Shiyi.
Lan Qi is Wu Eleven's first love boyfriend, has a successful career, knows the roots, and Wu Eleven has a foundation of affection, Zhang Yingnan is very satisfied with Lan Qi, and also accepted Lan Qi's gift.
Zhang Yingnan thought that Lan Qi and Wu Eleven were ironclad nails and would definitely come together, but they did not expect that a marquis would emerge in the middle of the road, and the marquis's thoughts about Wu Eleven could not escape Zhang Yingnan's eyes.
In the original novel of "Three Lives Have the Luck to Meet You", Zhang Yingnan initially resolutely disagreed with Wu Shiyi and the Marquis' interaction, because the gap between the two people, whether it was age, experience, or family, was too big, and Zhang Yingnan was not optimistic about this relationship that was not right.
But the marquis finally used his sincerity to gain the approval of his mother-in-law.
Wu Tianyi said, "Then what if Xiao Hou also likes Eleven?" That Lan Qi this, we are not good to explain. ”
Zhang Yingnan said calmly: "The two chase together, there is a competitor, both of them will care more about Eleven, Eleven can also understand their own value more." ”
Zhang Yingnan's third shot, only to understand how shrewd this woman is.
Wu Tianyi praised one after another: "In terms of introducing a competition mechanism, you are an expert, and I was also a rain of bullets and bullets back then, fighting all the way, and blood splashing on the spot." ”
Zhang Yingnan said helplessly, "How can I marry you?" ”
From the dialogue between the two, it is enough to see how sought-after Zhang Yingnan was when he was young, and Wu Tianyi also embraced the beauty through unremitting efforts.
Unfortunately, Wu Tianyi failed to maintain the advantages of his youth, but instead continued to regress, living more and more nests, and the gap between him and Zhang Yingnan was getting bigger and bigger, and the initiative of marriage was in the hands of Zhang Yingnan.
Wu Tianyi killed Zhang Yingnan, Zhang Yingnan is not indispensable to him, a smart woman, will live for herself.
Write at the end
"Three lives have the honor to meet you": Divorced for 17 years and not remarried, Zhang Yingnan's concept of marriage is too sober.
Wu Tianyi is still waiting for Zhang Yingnan to turn back, but Zhang Yingnan has already left Wu Tianyi behind, and her confidence in marriage is the most important thing to learn from Qian Xiaoyan and Fang Lu.
Qian Xiaoyan thought that marrying into the rich family would be able to take her out of the constraints of living in a small house of 40 square meters, but she did not know that while she was calculating the old man's mansion, the old man was also measuring her value.
Fang Lu thought that if Gao Climbed the Marquis, she would no longer have to be a miserable eighteen-line actor, but she ignored it, and she could not retain the love of men just by selling misery.
There is no connotation, no good quality, but expect rich men to fall in love with their own hearts, Fang Lu overestimated herself and underestimated the reality of men.
Teacher Zhang Yingnan, I really should teach Qian Xiaoyan and Fang Lu a lesson.
If it weren't for having a daughter, who would want to intersect with her ex-husband? For the sake of Wu Eleven, Zhang Yingnan had to keep in touch with Wu Tianyi, and the two could not help but talk.
Wu Tianyi worked hard, made money to pay off debts, touched Zhang Yingnan's heart, there is a scene in the play, Zhang Yingnan said that he hated Wu Tianyi, but still reached out to help him wipe the sweat, this divorced couple, perhaps there is a chance to reunite.
But Wu Tianyi wants to pursue Zhang Yingnan again, it is not easy, the most important thing is that life is on the right track, quit the problem of alcoholism, pay off foreign debts, live a down-to-earth life, let Zhang Yingnan look at her, she may turn back.
Otherwise, with her "competition mechanism", why choose Wu Tianyi, who is useless?
Dare to be single to old, Wu Eleven's mother Zhang Yingnan is the real fierce role.